You are not describing any symptoms of herpes, it is most unlikely you have genital herpes. Hence I see no real reason to test, unless you wish to do so mutually with a prospective partner.
If you can't accept this as the likely case for you, then obtain a blood test, the choice is up to you in the end.
So my encounters sound low-risk? I'm sorry to bother you and i plan on seeing a nurse tomorrow but peace of mind would be amazing right now.
There is no way of determining risk, someone either has herpes or they don't.
You have had no genital cold sores by the sound of it, hence this represents a very low chance of genital herpes.