Hello, anyone who can offer help,
Background:
Dating my partner for about 2 months. Bluntly, we are very worried right now. After consistent and prolonged sexual relations over the course of the weekend, the last of which occurred at about 3AM on Sunday morning, she woke up with first signs of a potential cold sore on her lip Sunday morning around 8-9AM. Having had a previous experience with a cold sore about 2+ years ago, she immediately used prescription cream obtained from her mother (who also gets the occasion cold sore). This seemingly accelerated the pace/progression of the sore.
I have never had a cold sore. I have been tested multiple times for both HSV-1 and HSV-2 - the last time being in late February of this year. I'll concede a longstanding phobia of sorts with STIs (the reason for the tests) and have tried to be very careful. Despite that, I've continued my relationship with this woman because I also concede the statistics regarding HSV-1 (~50% or so in the US). In other words, "unreasonable to avoid any potential woman who has HSV-1."
I also concede that, upon this experience and the research stemming from finding out of how soon after our sexual relations (including oral sex), I better understood that HSV-1 can actually be transmitted to places (like genitals) other than the traditional lips/mouth. That makes this far more worrisome than the "worst case scenario is I get the occasional cold sore on my lip."
My questions:
1. What kind of likelihood are we looking at for her passing me HSV-1 despite not seeing a physical sign during sexual contact + kissing? I've read all sorts of numbers in terms of how long before it actually is "contagious."
2. What kind of likelihood that it was passed to the genital area?
3. Is it a toss-up, of sorts, between whether I may have contracted it to my lips/mouth area or to genitals? I've read that, if I had already contracted HSV-1 (which I had not), it'd be more difficult for it to be passed to the genitals.
4. What should I look out for and in what time frame? I've read the signs commonly come out 3-6 days after possible exposure (if this pre-sign period was actually exposure). We're sitting at approximately 2 days and I only feel some minor cold symptoms - unsure if they're related.
5. What are the chances her prodromal stage actually began in the morning when she first saw a red mark, instead of "brewing" in the hours before (while we had sexual relations).
Any other advice or feedback is helpful, as this is a personally big concern (I know, that doesn't make us unique on an HSV board) and we're both quite worried for each other.
Thanks in advance.