I have had one really questionable encounter in my life. I slept with a girl I barely knew several times over the course of four or five days in February of 2009. We didn't use a condom any of those times. Stupid.
So, I realized that I was going to have to get tested. In September of that year, I got a test for Herpes, which was the main worry. I'm not sure why exactly I was worried, because I had no symptoms, however, I wanted to be sure because I'm just that way.
So this test, seven months after my last sexual encounter, came back negative for both H1 and H2. I breathed a sigh of relief and went on with my life. Since then, I've only slept with one person (and I slept with her once) and we used a condom. So we're talking three years of virtual celibacy. Also: zero symptoms during this entire time. I suppose I should just say that I have never had any symptoms of any type of herpes.
Fast forward to now. I want the test again, because I'm thinking about asking this girl out, and I want to take every precaution. I have a blood test done for HIV, and both types of Herpes. The test was HerpeSelect 1-2 administered by Quest Diagnostics. I'll assume that you're familiar with how this test is calibrated, I myself have only a shaky grasp on it.
HIV: negative
H1: negative
H2: 1.3 (positive)
The floor fell out under my legs. I didn't understand. The Nurse Practicioner said that I have herpes. She also said that some people are asymptomatic. Ok. Maybe that's me. But from what I've read, this 1.3 is a relatively low number, and considering my situation (a negative on the test before, seven months after possible encounter, plus only an isolated, protected, sexual encounter since then) I decided to fork up another $35 and get the test again. I had the test done exactly one week after the initial test.
I just received the results, and they're the same.
H1: negative
H2: 1.3
So I guess I have herpes. The likelihood of two false positives? Probably astronomical. It was also pretty telling that they were both the same exact score. I guess also that I'm asymptomatic. I suppose that the first of the three tests was either a false negative, or the herpes took longer than seven months to appear in the test. I requested a Western Blot test, or some kind of confirmatory testing on this score, and Quest said that they check every score with something like a Western Blot, but the Nurse Prac. who has led me through the process had told me it's not technically a western blot. (She seemed a little vague on the subject.)
If this is herpes, then it's nothing. This is a non issue for me. It's not even a nuisance. I'm asymptomatic. The problem, of course, lies in my worry of transmitting it to others, as I understand that no matter what your symptoms (or lack thereof) are, you can still infect someone.
My questions are: does anything about this seem strange to you? Have anyone of you had a similar experience, or treated someone like this? Do I have to tell everyone I sleep with that I have herpes? Does the low score mean I'm less likely to pass the virus on? Using a condom, what are my chances for passing this on?
Finally: Is a 1.3, on this test, an ironclad, "You have Herpes"? I'm just skeptical. Maybe you can understand.
I'm distraught. Can someone help me?
Kind regards and best wishes