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Possible exposure
So I made a major error in judgement this past Sunday morning (4 am). I normally do not to do this as I’m in a committed relationship and My anxiety is through the roof now.
So Sunday morning I received unprotected oral sex (2 min) and then had vaginal intercourse using a condom with CSW. The condom I felt did not cover the base of my penis. The condom did not break but I felt the base was not covered completely. Intercourse lasted for a few minutes only.
I’m approaching day five now. No noticeable bumps or lesions. No extreme fever or chills. I’m a little fatigued but today I have been urinating like a mad man. Maybe over 20 times. I do feel some slight pain in the head of my penis.
Can someone help me out here? Am I overthinking this? Could this be the beginning of herpes? Gonorrhea? Chlamydia?
All the timelines I’ve read online seem to confuse me. Some say as soon as 2 days and others up to three weeks.
My anxiety has been bad these last few years. I may need to seek medication for it.
What are my chances I’m in the clear? I appreciate any response
So Sunday morning I received unprotected oral sex (2 min) and then had vaginal intercourse using a condom with CSW. The condom I felt did not cover the base of my penis. The condom did not break but I felt the base was not covered completely. Intercourse lasted for a few minutes only.
I’m approaching day five now. No noticeable bumps or lesions. No extreme fever or chills. I’m a little fatigued but today I have been urinating like a mad man. Maybe over 20 times. I do feel some slight pain in the head of my penis.
Can someone help me out here? Am I overthinking this? Could this be the beginning of herpes? Gonorrhea? Chlamydia?
All the timelines I’ve read online seem to confuse me. Some say as soon as 2 days and others up to three weeks.
My anxiety has been bad these last few years. I may need to seek medication for it.
What are my chances I’m in the clear? I appreciate any response
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So first - remember that guilt doesn't equal risk. Keep that in mind.
Oral sex is lower risk than vaginal or anal, and most experts don't think it warrants testing after just one encounter. The risks are gonorrhea, chlamydia, NGU, genital herpes type 1 (if you don't already have oral herpes type 1), and syphilis. Syphilis is uncommon in most developed countries, so I wouldn't worry about that.
Oral sex for a minute has some risk, meaning it's possible, but again, remember that it's lower risk overall.
Condom protected sex is a risk for herpes type 2, syphilis and HPV. Condoms offer significant protection against these, but not full.
You see a wide variety of when symptoms appear because it's different for each infection.
Symptoms for herpes can appear as early as 2 days, and the typical range is 2-12 days.
Symptoms for syphilis can appear between 10-90 days, but the average is 3 weeks. You can test for this at 6 weeks, but again, don't worry so much about this one.
Symptoms for HPV can appear several months later. This is a hard one, because many times, symptoms never appear. It's also extremely common, with upwards of 90% of us getting it at least once in our lifetimes. There is no test for men for HPV.
Gonorrhea, chlamydia and NGU symptoms usually appear within a week, but about 20% of men don't get symptoms. You can test for these at a week or two.
So what to do? I suspect your anxiety is going to require you to test. First things first - treat your anxiety. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health. If that's medication and therapy, do that. Talk to your doctor.
Herpes testing - I left this for last because it's tricky. You can get a type specific IgG blood test. It can take up to 12 weeks to develop antibodies, which is what the test looks for. However, there are false positives on the hsv2 IgG, enough that I'd really caution you about this. Getting a false positive means waiting weeks and weeks to retest and maybe spending hundreds on a confirmatory test that you can't get until 12 weeks. If you aren't in the US, it gets even more expensive.
To be honest, I'm not sure your anxiety can handle this. My advice right now would be not to test unless you get symptoms. That may seem counter-intuitive, but your risk of getting herpes from a one-time oral and protected vaginal encounter are low enough that I don't think you should put yourself through the testing process.
And remember - guilt doesn't equal risk.
Oral sex is lower risk than vaginal or anal, and most experts don't think it warrants testing after just one encounter. The risks are gonorrhea, chlamydia, NGU, genital herpes type 1 (if you don't already have oral herpes type 1), and syphilis. Syphilis is uncommon in most developed countries, so I wouldn't worry about that.
Oral sex for a minute has some risk, meaning it's possible, but again, remember that it's lower risk overall.
Condom protected sex is a risk for herpes type 2, syphilis and HPV. Condoms offer significant protection against these, but not full.
You see a wide variety of when symptoms appear because it's different for each infection.
Symptoms for herpes can appear as early as 2 days, and the typical range is 2-12 days.
Symptoms for syphilis can appear between 10-90 days, but the average is 3 weeks. You can test for this at 6 weeks, but again, don't worry so much about this one.
Symptoms for HPV can appear several months later. This is a hard one, because many times, symptoms never appear. It's also extremely common, with upwards of 90% of us getting it at least once in our lifetimes. There is no test for men for HPV.
Gonorrhea, chlamydia and NGU symptoms usually appear within a week, but about 20% of men don't get symptoms. You can test for these at a week or two.
So what to do? I suspect your anxiety is going to require you to test. First things first - treat your anxiety. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health. If that's medication and therapy, do that. Talk to your doctor.
Herpes testing - I left this for last because it's tricky. You can get a type specific IgG blood test. It can take up to 12 weeks to develop antibodies, which is what the test looks for. However, there are false positives on the hsv2 IgG, enough that I'd really caution you about this. Getting a false positive means waiting weeks and weeks to retest and maybe spending hundreds on a confirmatory test that you can't get until 12 weeks. If you aren't in the US, it gets even more expensive.
To be honest, I'm not sure your anxiety can handle this. My advice right now would be not to test unless you get symptoms. That may seem counter-intuitive, but your risk of getting herpes from a one-time oral and protected vaginal encounter are low enough that I don't think you should put yourself through the testing process.
And remember - guilt doesn't equal risk.
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I feel horrible and can not eat a thing. My anxiety is beyond anything I’ve experienced. Thank you for your response.
So just to follow up… with herpes I had a low risk exposure. If nothing develops in within 12 days is it safe to conclude that I did not squire the virus.
In terms of gonorrhea and chlamaydia… also a low risk exposure? Can I just take the medication to ease my mind?
So just to follow up… with herpes I had a low risk exposure. If nothing develops in within 12 days is it safe to conclude that I did not squire the virus.
In terms of gonorrhea and chlamaydia… also a low risk exposure? Can I just take the medication to ease my mind?
Yes, that's accurate.
You could just take the medication, but if you get symptoms of something in a few days, if you've taken antibiotics, it will skew testing for about 3 weeks. You are far better off not taking meds you probably won't need.
Also, the best meds for gonorrhea are a shot you'd need to get from a doctor. There is treatment resistance to others. If you ended up having resistance - as in treatment failure - again, you'd need to wait a few weeks to test to see what was going on. Just wait a few more days and test.
I understand how hard this is to do. You'll be far better off, I promise.
You could just take the medication, but if you get symptoms of something in a few days, if you've taken antibiotics, it will skew testing for about 3 weeks. You are far better off not taking meds you probably won't need.
Also, the best meds for gonorrhea are a shot you'd need to get from a doctor. There is treatment resistance to others. If you ended up having resistance - as in treatment failure - again, you'd need to wait a few weeks to test to see what was going on. Just wait a few more days and test.
I understand how hard this is to do. You'll be far better off, I promise.
Tomorrow will be a full 5 days. Is that enough time for gonorrhea and chlamydia in regards to testing.
Thank you for all your help
Thank you for all your help
Yes, 5 days is enough time.
Make sure not to urinate for at least an hour before, and give them the first part of your urine stream.
You're going to be fine. And after, talk to your doctor about your anxiety.
Make sure not to urinate for at least an hour before, and give them the first part of your urine stream.
You're going to be fine. And after, talk to your doctor about your anxiety.
Thank you so much for all your help. Last and final question… is frequent urinating a sign of hsv outbreak?
Not usually. That's usually a sign of a urinary tract infection. It might happen from gonorrhea or chlamydia, but it's definitely not the most common symptom.
Anxiety can actually cause frequent urination - https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/tips-for-easing-stress-and-anxiety-from-overactive-bladder There is a theory that tension in the muscles can cause an increase in the urge to urinate.
Anxiety can actually cause frequent urination - https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/tips-for-easing-stress-and-anxiety-from-overactive-bladder There is a theory that tension in the muscles can cause an increase in the urge to urinate.
Thank you so much. Prayers and good vibes your way
Same to you. Let me know what happens. :)
Hi auntie Jessie. My results for gono, chlamydia and tri came back negative after I tested 5 days after exposure. I’m now like day ten after exposure. So far no lesions or sores or fevers or body aches.
I’m still frequently urinating a lot. I’m really confuse about this. I wonder what it can possibly be?
I consulted with ask an expert forum. And dr. HHH suggested frequent urination is not normally a symptom of an actual std. he also stated that if not symptoms of hsv this far after exposure highly unlikely. He believes it is my anxiety
Can I get your thoughts and thank you?
I’m still frequently urinating a lot. I’m really confuse about this. I wonder what it can possibly be?
I consulted with ask an expert forum. And dr. HHH suggested frequent urination is not normally a symptom of an actual std. he also stated that if not symptoms of hsv this far after exposure highly unlikely. He believes it is my anxiety
Can I get your thoughts and thank you?
I agree with Dr. HHH, and suggested a few days ago here that it might be your anxiety.
Make sure you are drinking plenty of water, lay off the caffeine and alcohol, and please, talk to your doctor about your anxiety.
Make sure you are drinking plenty of water, lay off the caffeine and alcohol, and please, talk to your doctor about your anxiety.
God bless u and thank you.
You're welcome. :)
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