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Possible stds from my exposure
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I had sex with an escort and worried about what std or infection I mightve contracted from her. It started with us showering and she proceeded to thoroughly wash my butt. During this i smelled pee so i thought she was peeing but im so paranoid that while i was turned around she was rubbing her vagina and then my butt which makes me think i caught something that way. Then she proceeded to put a condom on my penis with her mouth but she took so long on the tip that again, im paranoid that she bit the tip of the condom to create a rip. We never kissed. I made sure my parts that was unprotected never touched her skin. The next day there was brief burning when i was urinating. But that was the only time that happened
11 days later i noticed a raised patch of skin on the shaft on my penis. It went away the next day. It didnt have any fluid ( looks like a bigger mosquito bite ) days later i started feeling mild numbing and tingling on my feet and hands. Under arm was very uncomfortable and slightly painful. Day 27 of the exposure i got tested and was negative for hiv, syphilis, and the other routine tests. I dont have any sores or lesions so there was no swab test.
Almost a week after the test im feeling stifness in my neck, throbbing pain in my groin sometimes left sometimes right. Some hip/pelvic discomfort and definite back pain around my spine and a little on lower back. Also some butt discomfort around the cheek.
Did I test too soon or should that be enough to my mind at ease untill I retest? Im scared i got something and it was missed.
I had sex with an escort and worried about what std or infection I mightve contracted from her. It started with us showering and she proceeded to thoroughly wash my butt. During this i smelled pee so i thought she was peeing but im so paranoid that while i was turned around she was rubbing her vagina and then my butt which makes me think i caught something that way. Then she proceeded to put a condom on my penis with her mouth but she took so long on the tip that again, im paranoid that she bit the tip of the condom to create a rip. We never kissed. I made sure my parts that was unprotected never touched her skin. The next day there was brief burning when i was urinating. But that was the only time that happened
11 days later i noticed a raised patch of skin on the shaft on my penis. It went away the next day. It didnt have any fluid ( looks like a bigger mosquito bite ) days later i started feeling mild numbing and tingling on my feet and hands. Under arm was very uncomfortable and slightly painful. Day 27 of the exposure i got tested and was negative for hiv, syphilis, and the other routine tests. I dont have any sores or lesions so there was no swab test.
Almost a week after the test im feeling stifness in my neck, throbbing pain in my groin sometimes left sometimes right. Some hip/pelvic discomfort and definite back pain around my spine and a little on lower back. Also some butt discomfort around the cheek.
Did I test too soon or should that be enough to my mind at ease untill I retest? Im scared i got something and it was missed.
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It doesn't matter if she peed in the shower or not - that's not a risk.
Her rubbing her vagina and then your butt isn't a risk, either. Hands don't transmit STDs, and given that you were in the shower, presumably with soap, any fluids with germs would have been washed away with the soap and water.
When a condom tears, it's catastrophic. You'd notice it.
The burning the next day could have been from anything - dehydration, irritation from alcohol, an irritating food like something citrus, etc. STD symptoms don't appear for at least 2 days at the absolute minimum. Whatever this was, it wasn't related to an STD.
Whatever the spot was that you saw 11 days later wasn't an STD, either. No symptom only appears for such a brief time before disappearing.
No STD gives you tingling in your hands and feet, either, or stiffness in your neck. A lot of your symptoms sound like you might have a pinched nerve or a disc issue in your back, or something along those lines. They do not sound like an STD.
You had protected sex, which means you were only at risk for HPV, herpes and syphilis, and condoms offer significant protection against those. You've had no symptoms of any of those. There is no HPV test for men, and you can test for herpes and syphilis again at 6 weeks, but I wouldn't expect those to change since you've had no symptoms of those.
Really, you have very little risk here. I wouldn't worry at all.
Her rubbing her vagina and then your butt isn't a risk, either. Hands don't transmit STDs, and given that you were in the shower, presumably with soap, any fluids with germs would have been washed away with the soap and water.
When a condom tears, it's catastrophic. You'd notice it.
The burning the next day could have been from anything - dehydration, irritation from alcohol, an irritating food like something citrus, etc. STD symptoms don't appear for at least 2 days at the absolute minimum. Whatever this was, it wasn't related to an STD.
Whatever the spot was that you saw 11 days later wasn't an STD, either. No symptom only appears for such a brief time before disappearing.
No STD gives you tingling in your hands and feet, either, or stiffness in your neck. A lot of your symptoms sound like you might have a pinched nerve or a disc issue in your back, or something along those lines. They do not sound like an STD.
You had protected sex, which means you were only at risk for HPV, herpes and syphilis, and condoms offer significant protection against those. You've had no symptoms of any of those. There is no HPV test for men, and you can test for herpes and syphilis again at 6 weeks, but I wouldn't expect those to change since you've had no symptoms of those.
Really, you have very little risk here. I wouldn't worry at all.
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I guess I was worried that she might've been scooping her pee/vagina fluids and rubbing it onto my anus. ( I'm probably over thinking every scenario but I've been high stress since feeling these symptoms after that day )
What would be my risk level for herpes if the condom did have a small tear or hole? Can I feel every other symptoms associated with herpes but physical sign of sores/lesions? Because I'm still feeling some tingling or sudden itch around the genital area and I'm just waiting for a sore to show up to confirm these symptoms.
Sorry if I sound like a broken record but I appreciate your response so much!
Thanks in advance! I'm definitely a little more hopeful now.
What would be my risk level for herpes if the condom did have a small tear or hole? Can I feel every other symptoms associated with herpes but physical sign of sores/lesions? Because I'm still feeling some tingling or sudden itch around the genital area and I'm just waiting for a sore to show up to confirm these symptoms.
Sorry if I sound like a broken record but I appreciate your response so much!
Thanks in advance! I'm definitely a little more hopeful now.
"I guess I was worried that she might've been scooping her pee/vagina fluids and rubbing it onto my anus."
You are seriously overestimating the amount of vaginal fluid women have. It's not "scoopable". On average, a woman produces about a half to one teaspoon of vaginal secretions a day. During arousal, it increases some, but not much - certainly not to scoopable levels.
Also, it's not a rational thought process to think someone would do this with the intent to infect you with something. And urine comes from the urethra, not the vagina, so urine has no vaginal secretions in it.
Condoms don't get small holes or tears. That's an old myth. When they tear, it's massive.
Tingling and sudden itching in the genital area is quite often anxiety, not herpes.
Listen, and I say this with compassion and not judgement, the CSW showers with you and uses condoms to protect herself from you. She is not trying to infect you with something. This is irrational thinking. Her livelihood depends on not getting an infection. She will keep the condoms intact. She doesn't know if you have gonorrhea, chlamydia or HIV. She isn't going to risk that.
She may be trying to feed her kids, or her drug habit, or may be sex trafficked, and is just trying to survive. Her goal isn't to infect you with something, but to just protect herself.
If this level of anxiety is not new for you, please talk to your doctor about it.
You are seriously overestimating the amount of vaginal fluid women have. It's not "scoopable". On average, a woman produces about a half to one teaspoon of vaginal secretions a day. During arousal, it increases some, but not much - certainly not to scoopable levels.
Also, it's not a rational thought process to think someone would do this with the intent to infect you with something. And urine comes from the urethra, not the vagina, so urine has no vaginal secretions in it.
Condoms don't get small holes or tears. That's an old myth. When they tear, it's massive.
Tingling and sudden itching in the genital area is quite often anxiety, not herpes.
Listen, and I say this with compassion and not judgement, the CSW showers with you and uses condoms to protect herself from you. She is not trying to infect you with something. This is irrational thinking. Her livelihood depends on not getting an infection. She will keep the condoms intact. She doesn't know if you have gonorrhea, chlamydia or HIV. She isn't going to risk that.
She may be trying to feed her kids, or her drug habit, or may be sex trafficked, and is just trying to survive. Her goal isn't to infect you with something, but to just protect herself.
If this level of anxiety is not new for you, please talk to your doctor about it.
thank you so much for your input. i very much appreciate it. i will try and get out of my head and calm my anxiety about this.
Good luck. Please, don't hesitate to talk to your doctor or a counselor about your anxiety. There's no shame in seeking help when you need it.
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