CAN I GET HERPES THROUGH UNDERWEAR GRINDING

[Hannah789822]

This only thing is I’m super paranoid also me and this guy we were dry humping he has genital herpes and had his boxers on and I had my pants on we just grinding with underwear on am I going to be okay?  he had no outbreaks on he had his boxers on I had my pants on I’m worried bc I was wearing a thong it’s a thin material he had thick boxers on sorry if it sounds dumb I’m paranoid but is this still okay? Thanks

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[Hannah789822]

I’m also starting to feel a little unwell I saw that can be symptoms I am scared but he said he dosent have it in the mouth and the dry humping we had clothes on?

[auntiejessi]

First, thanks for asking your own question. :) It's much easier for us to find your questions that way.

No matter what type of underwear you had on, he had boxers on, and herpes doesn't go through clothing. No STI does. You could have had no underwear on, and it would have been fine, so long as he had boxers on.

I promise, your okay.

Herpes isn't as contagious as you think it is. Even if you were in a long term relationship with him, and all you did was have sex when he didn't have an outbreak, there'd be a 10% chance PER YEAR that you'd get it from him.

If he took daily meds to help suppress the virus OR you used condoms every time, it's a 5% chance.

If you used both, it's a 2-3% chance.

So really, you're okay. I promise. :) He was a great guy for telling you, but if all you were going to do was dry hump, he didn't really need to, since you had no risk.

[Hannah789822]

Thanks so so much im having a lil like irritation down there but im assuming it’s bc of the friction between the dry bumping he was my boyfriend and he was so open about it we finally got to doing this bc we wanted to take it step by step unfortunately it didn’t work out recently but I have been in contact with him asking and asking bc im a hella paranoid person again thanks so much for the reply you’ve put my mind to so much ease again I’m assuming the irritation is just due to friction thanks Hannah x

[auntiejessi]

"irritation is just due to friction"

Yes, most likely. I wouldn't worry at all. If it lingers, see your doctor, but it would most likely just be a yeast infection or something, and totally unrelated.

You're welcome. I'm happy to help. :)

[Hannah789822]

Thank you honestly so so much! Worried me all day I never do thing unprotected I worry to much haha but this I was certain it was safe but I also get paranoid after  I will do thank you! :)

[Hannah789822]

Hi I have one last question he tested negative for hsv1 orally and there was a blood test that he did for this he also had no cold sores on his lips or in his mouth how accurate is this thanks again sorry for all the questions x

[auntiejessi]

The blood test for hsv1 misses 30% of hsv1 infections. It's not that accurate at all.

However, 67% of people under 50 globally have hsv1. For people over 50, it goes up to about 80%.

Around 90% of those who have it never get symptoms. You might already have it and not know it. Your parents might, aunts and uncles, grandparents, etc.

I don't mean to freak you out, but just let you know that it's very common, and hard to avoid. If you limit your dating pool to people who don't have it, you'll be really limiting it.

As for your feeling unwell, how much of that do you think is anxiety? You had no risk for genital herpes.

Is this your first partner? First person you've kissed?

Are you normally this anxious about things? Have you ever talked to anyone about your anxiety?

[Hannah789822]

Hiya I just checked and it was a urine test and he did a swab around his mouth for oral herpes is this safe? And idk why I’m feeling unwell it could be anxiety I’m not sure ? Am I definitely at no risk by him passing it through genitally and the mouth one he has had two tests done both come back negative and he has had a urine sample test and a swab he didn

[Hannah789822]

Can it definitely not go through his underwear he had thick boxers on and some of the time he has shorts on also and I had underwear never cameIn contact with skin naked he has had two tests now for it orally in he mouth and both came back negative he has both Done a swab test and urine test for it he never had cold sores never had got one and never anything l inside his mouth sorry for a lot of the questions I’m super paranoid it also helps to know he had no outbreaks on his penis also and he had his undeewear over and I had my pants on when we grinded

[Hannah789822]

Now I’m not feeling unwell I feel fine so it’s all very confusing I’m
Just concerned about the genital herpes being given to me hoe sure are you that I cannot get it through his underwear and me wearing pants to and the fact he’s tested negative twice for hsv1

[Hannah789822]

I’m not worried about the orally hsv1 he has been tested twice negative and never a cold sore ever but as for genital am I definitely not at risk thanks a lot again x

[auntiejessi]

You are definitely not at risk genitally. He had boxers on. I've already explained that.

A culture of his mouth is only worthwhile if he has sores there. If he doesn't, it's not of much value.

You sound like you're spiraling. You had no risk for hsv2. None. He probably doesn't have oral hsv1.

Really, talk to someone about your anxiety. I don't know if it's only about STDs, or germs, or health, or what, but your reaction to this is not in proportion to the risk, which is none.

Your mental health is as important as your physical health.

If you need more info on STDs - https://www.ashasexualhealth.org/

[Hannah789822]

Thank you very much! I know it’s hassle and I am spiralling I do get anxious I will and thank you so much again! x

[Hannah789822]

Sorry to keep doing this I’ve noticed dry sorta flakey white patchiness above my vagina near my stomach but above vagina ? Kinda freaking out  

[Hannah789822]

And one tiny red pimple I’m scared