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Im stressing over this info abt herpes
Ok so my bf has herpes and we are trying to get thru it and he wnts to marry me and have kids but im really scared because i dont wnt to catch it or my kids so i wanted to kno if he take his meds everyday can we have a baby normally as in no condom for tht time to try to conceive & can i give him oral if there is no outbreak and he take his med everyday?! I really dont want to catch anything but i love him and dont wnt to let him go please help with as much info as you can.i want to live a healthy almost normal life with healthy kids and as him as my husband
You won't know when the virus is shedding. It is completely up to you as whether or not to take that chance. Again how was he diagnosed? blood test or lesion swab?
Have you been having unprotected sex sincegetting back together?
Squints is correct on both of you shoukd be tested for all std's so you know whats truely going on. I know your young and all this is confusing. You need to try and seperate emotion from fact. Thats why you both need testing.
Have you been having unprotected sex sincegetting back together?
Squints is correct on both of you shoukd be tested for all std's so you know whats truely going on. I know your young and all this is confusing. You need to try and seperate emotion from fact. Thats why you both need testing.
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Your right and i think it was from lesion cuz his penis had started gettin a rash and looked alil different then he went to the doctor and we did have unprotected sex before we knew abt it.im nervous but thts who i love and wnt to be with so does it make me crazy to take that chance.people told me as long as it isnt a break out then im fine but now from you its true tht it doesnt have to breakout to catch it makes me nervous tht ill catch while tryin to get pregnant and harm my baby
I would also suggest you get tested for hsv1 and 2, you've been together 3 years and it sounds like this is a new thing you both have become aware of, and if he has had it for years and never known, it would be a good idea to be tested yourself unless you haven't had any sexual contact for those 3 years.
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It's always nice to know your status!
Yes. It can spread when no symptoms are present. The virus sheds itself about 15-20% of days. Thats one of the things the antiviral meds do is reduce shedding.
Now you never told me if your bf has hsv1 or 2 and how was he diagnosed. This is very important. I need the specifics to go any further.
Now you never told me if your bf has hsv1 or 2 and how was he diagnosed. This is very important. I need the specifics to go any further.
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He cheated abt a year ago and sounds crazy but i took him back and now we jus found out this news and its hsv2 genitals i believe And so if it can spread without any breakouts then how will i kno or he kno when there is a breakout and around the time when we're trying to concieve
I appreciate your help im sorry i didnt give much info im 21 yes young and we been together for 3 years,i believe it genital but im nervous cuz what if i can never touch it again or always have to wear a condom so thatll make it harder to have a baby,& your saying if he continues with his meds its less likely to spread to me if he doesnt break out and we have unprotected sex or oral because the internet has been giving me info left and right,itll say it can still spread even without a breakout is that true
Does your boyfriend have hsv1 or 2?
Is his infection oral or genital? Judging by the oral sex I am assuming it's genital.
I will try and give you the facts based on information you gave ans I will speculate on the rest. I will assume it's hsv2 and it's genital.
There was a study done on couples where one partner had hsv2 and the other does not. They all average unprotected sex at least three times a week. Taking no precautions accept not having sex during an outbreak. Over the course of a year 5% contracted the virus. Now if you were to add antivirals and condoms to the mix that number may drop to almost zero. That study would say that only one couole out of 20 would have spread the virus.
Hsv is not a super contagious infection. Now I fully understand your concerns over this and let me say that unprotected sex while trying to make a baby is not zero risk but it is a low risk if he is on antivirals. It's low anyway. The virus sheds somewhere between 15 and 20% of days and most exposures absolutely do not lead to transmition.
People with hsv father and or deliver babies all the time. Some woman have csections if they are having an outbreak or if they are concerned for the baby.
Birth would be the only time a baby is at risk from hsv2. Past that smooth sailing
Now for my own take on this. I don't know your age and I don't know your relationship. If you love each other enough to be married and he is a good guy who makes you feel special are you willing to end it over what is in reality a skin condition. The social stigma is far worse than anything else. Thats all up to you and that was just my two cents.
Good luck and we are here if you need anything.
Is his infection oral or genital? Judging by the oral sex I am assuming it's genital.
I will try and give you the facts based on information you gave ans I will speculate on the rest. I will assume it's hsv2 and it's genital.
There was a study done on couples where one partner had hsv2 and the other does not. They all average unprotected sex at least three times a week. Taking no precautions accept not having sex during an outbreak. Over the course of a year 5% contracted the virus. Now if you were to add antivirals and condoms to the mix that number may drop to almost zero. That study would say that only one couole out of 20 would have spread the virus.
Hsv is not a super contagious infection. Now I fully understand your concerns over this and let me say that unprotected sex while trying to make a baby is not zero risk but it is a low risk if he is on antivirals. It's low anyway. The virus sheds somewhere between 15 and 20% of days and most exposures absolutely do not lead to transmition.
People with hsv father and or deliver babies all the time. Some woman have csections if they are having an outbreak or if they are concerned for the baby.
Birth would be the only time a baby is at risk from hsv2. Past that smooth sailing
Now for my own take on this. I don't know your age and I don't know your relationship. If you love each other enough to be married and he is a good guy who makes you feel special are you willing to end it over what is in reality a skin condition. The social stigma is far worse than anything else. Thats all up to you and that was just my two cents.
Good luck and we are here if you need anything.
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