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Please just to stop the jokes and mis-info
I have researched HPV to death because the 18 strain was found in me. I have only slept with my boyfriend who has had multiple partners. He refuses to acknowledge that he has HPV and that I got it from him, refuses to support me emotionally or even educate himself.
He claims everyone including my doctor are wrong that because I have Endo and PCOS that was how I got HPV and that it isn't contracted via sex. On top of that when I asked his daughter to explain it to him since he believes whatever she says, she supposedly "jokes" that you get it from picking your nose and that it attacks the bones. He believes his knee problem is from the HPV and claims I gave it to him from Endo and PCOS.
Oh god I am so tired of this. They think it's such a big joke but I am so scared. How can you talk to people about an STD? It's a stigma. I was diagnosed with CIN3 last year, I had the Leep and Cone Biopsy. My last pap said everything was clear, but two years ago it said the same thing and then suddenly I have CIN3. My other gyni (who didn't inform me) found VIN2 about 6 years ago and I've been with my bf nearly 10 years. I know the pap isn't 100% correct and I'm always worried.
The bf is telling all kinds of stories about how I got HPV. The smirk on his face was so ugly when his daughter started laughing and making jokes. I felt bad because she had given him what he wanted, and now he still believes he's right and everyone else is wrong.
Please, so I can send this to them can someone answer a few questions since people don't care about how others have to deal with these things:
1) How is HPV contracted?
2) Does is cause problems to the bone?
3) Is it caused by Endometriosis and/or PCOS?
And for me: will this ever leave my body? I'm worried about getting into another relationship and passing this on. This is my first relationship.
Please, just humour me because there are cruel people out there saying the wrong things.
Thanks
He claims everyone including my doctor are wrong that because I have Endo and PCOS that was how I got HPV and that it isn't contracted via sex. On top of that when I asked his daughter to explain it to him since he believes whatever she says, she supposedly "jokes" that you get it from picking your nose and that it attacks the bones. He believes his knee problem is from the HPV and claims I gave it to him from Endo and PCOS.
Oh god I am so tired of this. They think it's such a big joke but I am so scared. How can you talk to people about an STD? It's a stigma. I was diagnosed with CIN3 last year, I had the Leep and Cone Biopsy. My last pap said everything was clear, but two years ago it said the same thing and then suddenly I have CIN3. My other gyni (who didn't inform me) found VIN2 about 6 years ago and I've been with my bf nearly 10 years. I know the pap isn't 100% correct and I'm always worried.
The bf is telling all kinds of stories about how I got HPV. The smirk on his face was so ugly when his daughter started laughing and making jokes. I felt bad because she had given him what he wanted, and now he still believes he's right and everyone else is wrong.
Please, so I can send this to them can someone answer a few questions since people don't care about how others have to deal with these things:
1) How is HPV contracted?
2) Does is cause problems to the bone?
3) Is it caused by Endometriosis and/or PCOS?
And for me: will this ever leave my body? I'm worried about getting into another relationship and passing this on. This is my first relationship.
Please, just humour me because there are cruel people out there saying the wrong things.
Thanks
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thank you everyone for your support. i used to wonder why women stay in unhealthy relationships, and now i'm allowing myself to stay in one. i think it was more security than anything else.
thank you for sharing your story newbie619, you are very lucky to have him.
thanks again
thank you for sharing your story newbie619, you are very lucky to have him.
thanks again
Noone44
Not to beat a dead horse, but I have to agree with everyone else. This BF is not good for you...
Let me tell you my story and you will see the the other side... When I found out I had HPV I freaked, my doctor gave me no information, and I have just found out today that I have the high risk type...thankfully my pap was normal.. I'm in a much better place now. I have so much more info. When I went to tell my guy I was scared out of my mind. But I could not have been more wrong about his reaction. He was amazing!! put his arms around me and told me that it was going to be okay. In fact, stated that for all we know "we" got it from him.. His reaction made it so much easier..
I'm so sorry that this happened to you, you didn't deserve his reaction OR his daughters!!! they obviously have no idea what they are talking about. Get out and find yourself... maybe talk to someone to help you deal with the issue that put you into that relationship in the first place... there is so much better out there...
good luck
Not to beat a dead horse, but I have to agree with everyone else. This BF is not good for you...
Let me tell you my story and you will see the the other side... When I found out I had HPV I freaked, my doctor gave me no information, and I have just found out today that I have the high risk type...thankfully my pap was normal.. I'm in a much better place now. I have so much more info. When I went to tell my guy I was scared out of my mind. But I could not have been more wrong about his reaction. He was amazing!! put his arms around me and told me that it was going to be okay. In fact, stated that for all we know "we" got it from him.. His reaction made it so much easier..
I'm so sorry that this happened to you, you didn't deserve his reaction OR his daughters!!! they obviously have no idea what they are talking about. Get out and find yourself... maybe talk to someone to help you deal with the issue that put you into that relationship in the first place... there is so much better out there...
good luck
Hey Noone44...I would suggest you go back and read everything you said about your bf and his family. Then realize that only you are allowing these people in your life and to treat you the way they are. You can't change them but you can change you. Personally I wouldn't do it slow..I would ditch them today and move on to a happy life without losers in it.
Not a judgement on you, simply saying one more day spent in that life is another day of life wasted.
Not a judgement on you, simply saying one more day spent in that life is another day of life wasted.
Well, best of luck to you I would say. If you are serious you just have to face the weird parts in your brain that are willing to put up with such b.s. It won't be easy, but the alternative, being in a relationship with that guy is by far the worse choice. Find a place to go and go there. I'd say don't stay another single day. Good luck.
hi
thanks for your time and replying. you know what's a very sad story. i was always a shy girl, when i met my bf i was 20. i never had a bf, never had sex, never foolded around or even been kissed. when i told him he didn't believe me.
i wouldn't have been angry at him because i know that it's impossible to know who gave it to him. but he's the kind of person who refuses to be blamed for anything and so started saying things like i slept around, that i got it from my mother, that endo and pcos is to blame, that my body is messed up etc. this happens when people don't bother to educate themselves.
it is time that i leave him, he's a controller so it's been difficult to try and build up my independence and confidence. but i am doing it although slowly.
thanks again for your help :-).
thanks for your time and replying. you know what's a very sad story. i was always a shy girl, when i met my bf i was 20. i never had a bf, never had sex, never foolded around or even been kissed. when i told him he didn't believe me.
i wouldn't have been angry at him because i know that it's impossible to know who gave it to him. but he's the kind of person who refuses to be blamed for anything and so started saying things like i slept around, that i got it from my mother, that endo and pcos is to blame, that my body is messed up etc. this happens when people don't bother to educate themselves.
it is time that i leave him, he's a controller so it's been difficult to try and build up my independence and confidence. but i am doing it although slowly.
thanks again for your help :-).
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First off, it sounds like you have more problems than HPV, that boyfriend sounds like a real loser and if you are just sticking around with him because he's your first and you have any inner issues (like we all can and do) then you would do well to leave him.
Here's some HPV facts:
If you truly have never had sex before him, technically you could still have acquired HPV from messing around with someone if that has happened. HPV is a skin to skin transmission so if someone with active HPV rubs their stuff on you during foreplay, you could be exposed. Are those chances high/likely? Yes and no really, I find it on the lower end myself. The chances are you got it from him.
There are two types of HPV strains, low-risk that can produce warts and high-risk that can lead to cervical cancer. In men, there are no symptoms of high-risk HPV and sometimes in men and women no symptoms of warts even though the virus can still be passed on to others. I don't know how common that is but it's been stated. You have high-risk so he doesn't know he has it.
Most people who get HPV fight it off in about two years. It's a virus and like most viruses your immune systems attacks it and clears it either eliminating it entirely from the body or sequestering it somehow. Some people do have a resurgence later in life but it's usually associated with HIV or cancer treatment, or something that compromises the immune system. High-risk takes on average a bit longer to eliminate so you may expect between one to two years before your body fights it off. Rarely does it last longer than two years.
Mostly HPV causes no serious health risks. High-risk strains can lead to cervical cancer but it's easy to detect and treat so all you have to do is go in for regular exams so that if there are any cell anomalies they can be found and dealt with. Other than the psychological side of this, you shouldn't be inconvenienced a whole lot. Doctors poo poo you for this reason. They don't see it as a big deal. To them it's not because if you are sexually active, there is around and 80% chance you will get some form of HPV in your lifetime.
The answer to your last two questions are no and no. HPV doesn't cause bone problems and it's not tranferred by those processes. It's skin to skin contact. Most likely, and by far most likely, is that he has it and gave it to you. To be fair, he didn't know he had it but it sounds like he may not care anyway. Please do yourself a favor and look into getting rid of him. You don't need unsupportive or uncaring men in your life and that's what he's showing you. Get wise to his behaviors and strike a new path. Your choices are your own however. Good luck with everything.