Hpv disclosure

[RoRo86]

Hey there,

Wats people's general thought on disclosure of a previous genital warts infection?

[veryworried420]

Nope. I didn't feel like paying. I joined a few sites as a temp guest login and did the search for women with HPV in the NY/NJ/PA area. Thats when I knew it was "don't ask, don't tell" and real life would be better.  I'm getting a few emails from women with it on one site since I was one of the few men with it but I have to pay to reply. Just google STD dating and you'll find them.

I've told a few women I've met in real life and all of them admitted to having it too. The educated gals understand this. The dumb ones think they have avoided it despite sleeping with 10 or more men in their lives, lol.

[RoRo86]

Also do you know which dating sites are the best?

[RoRo86]

Hey,

I think this topic in general is one of great moral debate within ones self. I try to think myself of how I would like to be treated. For example if I met someone who had warts when I didn't and didn't tell me then yes Id be pissed especially coz they were obviously contagious when they had it. Though if I met someone who hadn't had any symptoms for say 6 months plus then I don't know whether I would want them to tell me. I think if they were told by medical advice not to tell people then why would I expect them to. In all honestly I think it would slightly alter the way I felt about them. The reality is most people don't know there partners that well before they sleep with them (although I now believe they should) and if they don't know much about the disease then they understandably would be scared. Regardless of the stats re clearance there is always a risk that you would be worried about and I don't know if it is worth fretting about. I think warts are completely different to the high risk strain in relation to stigma etc. I recently talked to a friend about this who knew someone else in the same position as me. This girl sees no reason to disclose as she hasn't had anything in years. She is of the opinion that men wouldn't disclose after a certain amount of time so why should women when they know more about the disease.

[veryworried420]

Condoms provide some protection and should be used regardless if you tell or not. If you feel like you should tell, explain the facts to them at the same time. Let them know that even if they only play safe, the odds are good they have been exposed to it.

If you subscribe to a STD dating site, you will notice that maybe 5% of the people there have it. The rest have herpes, HIV, Hep B or C, etc. Since 80% of sexually active people have been exposed to it and women can get tested, one has to wonder why so few HPV  people on a STD dating site. The answer is most infected do not admit it because it is inevitable like getting a cold and it is usually transient for most people. Women get procedures done and their GYN will tell them that they are clean and can resume a normal sex life. Do they also tell them to inform their partners?  Some do and some do not. Encourage women you date to get tested annually and they should be fine. What is their alternative?  Date a guy who has never had warts and who cannot be tested and thus has no clue about his sexual health?  If they walk away, wish them luck finding that virgin guy who has had no sex at all (any kind) and know that they may have already been exposed if they themselves are not virgins. So a lot depends on who you are dating. If they've slept with more than 3 partners, they have it too!