Hi sorry so you are engaged to a virgin and getting married in three years? And are you worried about hpv exposure from the 2 months ago? Or have you had hpv warts before? Or do you just think you have dormant hpv? It’s quite possible to be dormant-for most guys it is. When I was raped last year the guy did not wear a condom and I’ve now tested pos to a new strain of high risk hpv. I had an abnormal Pap over five years ago which cleared so my doc thinks it’s a new strain. Obvs the guy who did it didn’t know as there’s no tests for high risk hpv for men. Has one of your sexual partners had high risk hpv or warts?
So, what I'm reading from your original post is that you had unprotected sex almost 8 months ago and protected sex a couple of months ago, and now you are freaking out about HPV because you are marrying an innocent young women in three time and your guilt of potentially complicating her life is eating at you so intensely that you've convinced yourself that you have a dormant HPV virus. Am I reading you correctly?
First off, this is a good reaction because it shows you are a good guy at heart and your fiance's innocence touches you deeply and causes you much concern for her sexual health. This a good thing. I can relate to you how hard it must be to think of waiting three years without sex, though, while you wait to enjoy the married company of a good-hearted wife. It's not easy. i'm not going to tell you to be celibate until then. That is for you to wrestle with, but if you do chose to have sex, you absolutely must wear a condom at all times. If you don't, not only with your anxiety and guilt ruin your daily peace and happiness, but you very well could contract a virus most likely HPV or HSV or worse! Take care of your penis and you will take care of all this guilt, shame and fear. You can do it!
Now on to the HPV fear... Are you aware that there are two types of HPV virus of which there are many strains of each type? You seem aware, but it's difficult to tell for sure from your post. If you haven't had actual warts appear in these past 7 months, I'd be quite certain that you did not contract HPV warts from that encounter. The other, protected encounter you had it's too early to tell, yet. The area the condom covered should be fine, but the base of the shaft and the scrotum may have been infected. This is because those areas are not covered by the condom. Now, if during foreplay you rubbed your unprotected penis all over her vagina, then wearing a condom doesn't matter as much anymore unless the warts were further in. ALL THIS IS ASSUMING YOUR PARTNER ACTUALLY HAS HPV WARTS. From your post, it sounds like she does not, and you're just having terrible anxiety. If it were me, I'd assume that I don't have warts from the sex seven plus months ago and most likely don't have them from the sex two months ago.
However, there is high-risk HPV that has no symptoms in men and very, very, very, very rarely can lead to penile cancer years down the road. It can, however, cause cervical cancer in women and can be detected in tests. There is no test for men for high-risk or the low-risk, wart version. You may indeed have the high-risk and not know it nor will you ever know unless some day five to ten years from now your future wife tests positive for it. Even if she does, it seldom becomes cancer (there are many stages of cellular progression to cancer and it takes years and years for that to happen so it's always found long before it becomes a problem.). Therefore, there is nothing you can do but be cool about it from now on, wear a condom or practice abstinence in the future, and put it out of your head. It sounds like you don't have sex with that many people so the risks of you having high-risk HPV now are lower although indeed possible. It's quite common.
Now, about dormant HPV. Dormant HPV is not contagious. If you have an event that causes extreme stress in your life or something that compromises your immune system like cancer treatment or whatever, it's possible for the virus to reactivate but not guaranteed. I would not worry at all about a partner with dormant HPV. That's the wart version. To be honest, I don't know much about high-risk HPV and it's dormancy or lack or dormancy.
The bottom line is for you to relax and know you're probably fine. Check for warts the next 2-3 months around your scrotum and base of your shaft, and if you find nothing, forget about it. L