have i given him oral hpv?

[ck8500]

i had a 1 year relationship with a guy that ended 3 months ago. he called me a couple of months after we broke up telling me he had just found genital warts. i had no symptoms and i had already been tested since we broke up(and had no sexual partners since him) and my results were negative. i assumed i was fine, though i was wrong to assume this. i recently had oral sex with a guy i was seeing about 3 weeks ago. we never had sexual intercourse. i found a lump on my vagina about a week after that, so i stopped all sexual contact with him but didn't tell him why. about 4 days later i stopped seeing him. i got it checked out and the doctor said i had warts. i got treatment and they have now cleared. however the guy i was seeing got in contact with me recently and asked me if i'd ever had an std because he had noticed a small white dot on his lower lip. now i'm freaking out that i've passed the hpv to him. i told him the truth and he is also freaking out and is so mad at me. he says i have ruined his life. is there any possibility that this white dot could actually be nothing? and if in the worst case scenario he does have it, does that mean he has oral hpv? can he pass it on the same way that genital hpv can be passed on? is it in his body for life now? even though it's on his lip, does that mean the virus can make warts pop up anywhere on his body now? he is afraid that he will feel guilty with every future partner he has if he doesn't tell them first, which is why he thinks it's ruined him. i feel absolutely awful. awful for not knowing i could have been carrying it and thinking i was ok, and bringing him into this mess with me. i know you can't tell me whether he has it or not, he is seeing a doctor tomorrow- but i just wanted to get the facts on what will happen to him if he finds out he does have it.

[alexdelong]

While the virus may never be totally eradicated, it is reduced to the point where it cannot be detected by very sensitive testing techniques. This occurs in 6-24 months for the vast majority of people.

Once the virus has cleared, the person will no longer transmit it, and will probably never have another outbreak.

This means that HPV is not a permanent infection, and a person will eventually be cured.

[KraziOverReactin]

Whoever just posted is somewhat incorrect. Genital warts stays in your body forever. There is no cure for it. The warts may go away but you will always be infected with the virus.

[alexdelong]

First, he should see a doctor and get a diagnosis before assuming anything....

is there any possibility that this white dot could actually be nothing?
yes, he needs to see a doctor to be sure. genital hpv can spread orally but it is less common.

can he pass it on the same way that genital hpv can be passed on?
yes, but it probably does not spread as easily this way.

is it in his body for life now?
probably not. 50% of people clear the virus within 8 months, 70% within a year and 90% within two years.

even though it's on his lip, does that mean the virus can make warts pop up anywhere on his body now?
No, it is a site specific skin infection. Anything that appears on his genitals is not caused by the wart on his lip.