is it lung cancer?

[tigerlil]

I send all of you my sincere thoughts for your well-being.  I am feeling very confused because a man I began dating almost a year ago told me early on in the relationship that he had lung cancer (9 spots on his lungs) and also throat and stomach cancer.  After drawing me in with my great concern he would then not want to talk about it.  But would on occasion tell me little pieces of information regarding his conditon that now don't make sence.

He said he was on chemo for about a week and couldn't take it and decided to let nature take its course.   This was all before we met so it has been over a year ago.

Because of a lot of confusing and conflicting things that he has said I am not sure if he even has cancer.
I need a medical opinion. I am really confused!!!!!!!!!

[HeinrikMD]

Hi,
It is difficult to predict the course of cancer based on what information you have been given. If he seems to show no signs of the disease (not even any weight loss) - perhaps the best course of action is to encourage him to seek a second opinion if he doesn't want to see his first doctor. He may not tolerate one kind of chemotherapy - but it is possible that a different kind would be acceptable to him.
If you cannot get him to do this, then it is best you discuss how evading this subject is making you doubt his sincerity.
Stay positive. If he really is ill, bear in mind that he may be in a state of denial even if he actually agreed to some treatment in the past. The most you can do is encourage him to open up - but unfortunately, some people never go beyond the state of denial.

[Connie 1]

if he realy cares about you he would listen to you and do something about it.  if he's letting nature take its course that's not good.  you have to wonder if he's telling the truth.