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1350436 tn?1280212565

Who's Partner is attending the birth?

Hello I am just wondering who's partner will be attending the birth?  My partner is very excited about our pregnancy but slightly scared too.  He is not sure if he wants to attend the birth, because of the pain etc.  This is my third and it will be his first.  I can totally understand him being frightened it's alot to take in.
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1276121 tn?1420860600
Well im glad i can make you laugh. I feel the same way that we are in this together and he wants the baby just as much as i do. With the mom thing i could not tell mine no sice i was 16 and 19 when i had my other baby's and she was in there with me. In fact when i had my second she was the only person in the room with me. I dont care if others come to the hospital just not sure i want anyone else in the room.
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1293529 tn?1325184540
You made me laugh so hard when I read that you would slap your df if he said he wouldn't want to be there.  I was actually thinking the same thing about my dh.  No way is he not going to be there.  We are in this together so he is going to be there whether he likes it or not!  
I am still not sure about the moms being there though.  I am pretty sure I do not want either but I think my mom will guilt trip me into being there.
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1351369 tn?1294831629
my DH will be in the room.I'm scared he'll faint though.lol!its our first.He almost fainted when he saw my norplant being removed,the poor guy was drencehd in sweat.What about a birth?lol
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1117137 tn?1345227905
much agreed! the presence of my mom and/or mother in law would make me feel even more anxious. love them both, but i think that would just be too many people in my face telling me what to do, talking too loudly, and getting in my husband's way. he will be the only one allowed near me! lol. really though, i think the moment of our child's birth will hands down be the most amazing experience of our lives, magical like you said, and i only wish to share that special time with him.. second best will be sharing this new bundle of joy with our families who will be patiently waiting in the waiting area ;)
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1276121 tn?1420860600
I only went through classes with my first since my second was born at 33 weeks. I will have my mom in the room if she makes it down here from Las Vegas. She was with me during the birth of my first 2 so i would not change that now. Im not sure i want anyone other then df and my mom. I will try to go to classes with this pregnancy since it is df's first baby.
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736293 tn?1316517842
I also will have it be just my husband in the room with me.  We did it that way with our first and it was such a relaxed and nonstressful expirience.  I wouldn't do anything differently this time around.  Yoli - In my area we couldn't take birthing classes until I was 32 weeks.  I am sure it is different depending on the hospital you go through.  I do know I had to sign up a couple months ahead of time for it though.
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1350436 tn?1280212565
Iam sure we will be fine.  He is so nervous, but I really don't want anyone else in the room with me.  I don't think I could cope with my mum being there, I would be too stressed I think.  When do birthing classes actually start?
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Avatar universal
nice!  its funny that you say that you only want your husband and medical team with u in delivery.. i was thinking that very same thing - just us and doctors.. but i wasn't sure if i was crazy for thinking that lol.. at least i know that im not the only one :) as much as i love my family and i tell them every bit of exciting news, when it comes down to it, we are very private people.. and i think that sharing that moment between just us would be magical :)
its not like family and friends were around when we were making this little bean right? lol

haoping all the mommies to be out there have a healthy and happy baby!
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1117137 tn?1345227905
my husband will definitely be attending.. i think he will be great in the delivery room, and having him see his first child come into the world will be the best experience of his life! i know he has his fears about it, but we plan on taking the classes together and i am sure he will feel more confident about it when the time comes. even then he may not know exactly what to do at all times, but i think he will figure it out. he is the only person i want by my side during delivery besides the medical personnel. family can join us afterwards :)
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Avatar universal
well i want my husband there for our first.. - actually he better be there.. but the concern is not with him! lol its with me!!! lol
i wont even go to the bathroom while he's in there.... lol
He keeps saying " Geeze babe, if you can't even pee infront of me - how am i supposed to be there when you give birth??!?"
But i'm pretty sure that at that point of time im not going to care :)
But we are wanting to go to birthing classes so that he can be prepeared for what he's going to see... lol he's a little squeemish.. lol
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736293 tn?1316517842
My husband was there for our first and will be there for this one as well.  We took a birthing class before our first and I think it really helped him be prepared for everything.  Although, he had a lot of trouble seeing me in pain and got a little aggitated with the nursing staff, but once Kyra was born like Spiritwolf said he forgot all about it!
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1368291 tn?1299629804
My partner and I have two and this will be our third. He was there for each and will be for this one again. They kinda forget all the rest once the baby is born  =)
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1350436 tn?1280212565
Hi, I kind of know what you mean.  I think when he goes to birthing classes etc he maybe ok.  Bless him.
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1276121 tn?1420860600
well i know for sure my df will be there. I would say if he told me he did not want to be id slap him. This is also my 3rd and his 1st baby. Both of our moms will be there as well.
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