Venting and whinning

[jollyman069]

I am writing this post for a couple of reasons.. someone earlier started a thread on what really is a true friend.. got me to trhinking about a couple of things.. a friend of ours from med help is having a hard time right now with pain control. if this person wants you all to know who it is they will tell you all.. i dont think it is my place to say, anyways they wrote a comment the other day about how ythey were having many problems with pain and other things mewdically going on, so i pm'd them and told them if there was anything i coulkd do let me know, well i got a pm from them to day explaining what they were going thru and then apoligized for whinning too much .. well as far as i am concerned we all need at times  to vent and whine.. most of us here experience severe pain at times and some times even meds dont help. now i know we know each other just by chatting on a computer.. but we are freinds.. so i am asking everybody and i am 99 % sure that most already do, when someone needs to vent or whine we all listen try to give the best advice we can and try to brighten their day the best we can.. so what i guess i am really trying to say is.. WE ALL NEED TO VENT AND WHINE IT'S GOOD FOR THE SOUL. so everyone be tolerable and put yourself in the others persons pain and see what you would want to do.....thaqnks for listening... god i wish i could type better

[HelpinUtah]

You do just fine on the typing besides you're words are awesome!  Although I don't know who this person is, I will say prayers for them!  I do consider people here as my friends.  Some of us have shared things with each other that we don't even share with our closest friends in the real world.  So, I agree!  Great post!  

[alienshadow]

I lend an ear all the time. You are right I find myself venting sometimes especially while I was on the prednisone my god thats a bad drug to be on! Anyway Most know I am always here for them and I will continue to be

[Tuckamore]

The person Jolly was talking about is me!!  I try not to whine or complain. I want to be here for all those that need me so I try not to verbalize my pain. I don't want anyone to feel that they can't complain to me because I have so much pain myself.
Jolly has been singing and I missed it. I was off MH a few days due to the severe pain flare. When I came back I asked him to sing for me. He is wonderful.
All those at MH give me strength to make it through each day. You all are so special, wonderful and caring ppl. I rarely need to vent because you all help me by just being here. I'm here for you all too.
(((HUGS))) to all, Tuck

[jollyman069]

Amen Tuck i think most of us feel that way about you and the people here at Med Help

[selmaS]

I agree 100%.....and if someone has apologized to me for venting I always say the same thing...."it is in giving that we recieve" so in listening to u....I am also being helped.....either it's by helping u or learning something from the experience.

medhelp is great because we can vent and we know that the people we vent to understand.

thanks jolly!

Godspeed
"selma"

[lagoya]

i  have not spoken to you before i dont think anyways so i will say hello -sorry to see u are in so much pain and dont feel guillty for venting to your friends thats what in here is sometimes about by the sounds of it above u give a lot or your time yourself ,,so if there is something we can do to cheer u up ,,just say
i hope u feel better today

nice post jollyman

[LetaB]

  Venting? Did somebody say my name? We are commonly misunderstood, highly passionate people. It has done me a world of good to hear the voices of other like minds - like minds? When did I ever think I'd be able to say that? I appreciate the people in this forum no end.

  p.s. I hate to sound stupid but....I see you two members are not physically close - what is meant by "singing"?

[Cherie762]

this froum  helps all of us by being able to complain to others who understand, the adverage persons in my life dont really get what its like to hurt for an extended period of time, and I think they get sick of hearin it,on here I have found 6 real good friends that I tell my little secrets too and its helped me so mush, in return Ive had people thank me for helping them I love this web site.

[Tuckamore]

You don't sound stupid. Jolly posts a few lines of old classic rock music every day. We all think he's "singing"  specifically just to us......LOL  I'd tell you he sings to me. But every other member would tell you that he sings just for them. No one really knows...we just listen....LOL
Tuck

[jollyman069]

thank god they really cant hear me sing.. well they may join me in the shower so that couldnt be all bad could it?? well coud it???...lmao

[sobermommy]

I was so blessed when I found MH. I truely thought I was all alone and the only one going through the wierdness that is my world. Here I found so many people who are going through or have been through the same. It is such a huge relief just to know I am not alone. Yes...we all have days we need to vent and whine. This is an amazing site where you can vent when you need to...and offer advice and support when you are able. I love it. I am pretty new to the social site but am finding it very friendly. Thanks to all of you for that. Keep up the great work of being there for each other...it is awesome. God bless...Lynn

[kitty51]

well i can only lend one ear cos the other one is deaf!! Tuck is a real good chook and she has her pain issues and still takes care of those that need it,I would like to see tuck be better to herself as well (are you listening Tuck?)
Hard that theres a shower party at Jollys house!!
Now to see that happen,just thinking about it  LMAO X 10
My typing isnt so good either,I have to correct my spelling before i post!! this problem in my head has buggared my co ordination and spelling.One of these days i am just going to type and see if anyone can work it out.by the way hold that thought about Jolly's party........Still LMAO

[hrt3105]

bless you Jolly, an I hope you get to feeling better Tuck , I dont think we should call it venting or whining anymore, maybe just sharing with our freinds  
Mark

[lonewolf07]

I hope you do vent.  Right now the emotional pain I feel is overwhelming.  If you feel like that I hope you vent and heal.

Maybe emotional pain doesn't count - I don't know but it does hurt me.  Tuck, if you feel pain but don't show it - I admire your strength .... but I still hope you vent.

Hugs to you if you want them

wolf

[mommy52]

I feel like I spend most of my time out in the world apoligizing to others. On MH. I am able to see that others are also in pain. I do not see them as whinning. I see it as a part of   coping /dealing with the pain. My spouse does not understand the pain I feel. The emotional and the physical pain. Until I discovered MH, and to this date, I do not know how I I discovered it. Most of the times I don't feel like I belong. I will sit -read and listen. I have gained so much strength from the people I have read their posts. I read and feel their pain. If they can continue to reach out to others in their pain, I say -- I can make it and can go through 1 more day. My family says I am addicted to MH.  Sometimes and most nights, I will be up til early am hours when I can'tsleep, gaining strength from others. Do I make sense. Thanks to all who are out there for us.  

[LetaB]

  And it's whining, folks, not whinning. You see the double consonant before the "ing" would cancel out the long vowel sound....HEY! I'm an English major! - can you see why people hate me? Sigh

[mommy52]

Apoligize. Can't do anything right, not even spell. Sorry

[LetaB]

  Ah gee, I didn't mean to make you feel bad! Forgive me. I spell pretty well and suck at things you wouldn't believe! I was 12 when I finally learned how to tell time - thank god for digital!

[jollyman069]

hell i am 47 and still cant tell time or spell very good..bad skooling....lmao

[alienshadow]

If it wasnt for the software I have   I would spell like this

YoU gUyS oR tHe VeRy BeStEs !!!!!!!!! GlAd i FoUnD MeDhElP cUz ThErEs GrEaT pEoPle HeRe
DaM mY eYeS aRe HuRtlInG

[lonewolf07]

If being addicted to MH because it helps with your pain then I would think it's a good addiction - no drugs to wean off from.  If you find the right people - good people - you'll get a lot of support that meds or even therapy can't give you.  It might take awhile but you will find them.

I've been here since March 2008 and still don't feel like I belong.

[alikat1205]

you are cracking me up.  i was an english major and went on to law school.... and i hate to admit but the spelling errors jump out at me - it's hard to let it go! (but i forgive the misspellers, believe me, it's the sentiment i am reading!)  funny, too, i had the same problem with telling time -- i just could not do it until near the end of middle school.

[lonewolf07]

I've spent years in academics too and don't know what I'd do without a good spell check.  I've seen some really funny "mis-spellings" but MH would delete me if I wrote them down  = )

[kitty51]

To all you clever buuars out there centre is not a mistake in Australia i know you guys write funny LOL center? meter/metre oh yeah theres English and there English/American!! Every thing else I stuff up naturally~~~~~~~~