question of the Day 8 (very deep)

[msmarlowe]

What challenges stand in the way of your ideal lifestyle? How are you working to overcome them?

[msmarlowe]

yeah you are so right, that its good to let it out in a good cry every now and then...Enjoy
your nine week trip...I so need a vacation.

[redheadaussie]

Nah, it's all good. Just having one of those weeks where I am taking stock of my life and re-grouping. Feels good sometimes to have a big cry and a feel sorry for myself time.
In a sense if we don't look at our lives and just go along like some martyr, we can end up far worse. So sometimes good to realise what is going on needs change.
  I should be happy! I can walk, I can talk, I have a roof over my head, I have 3 wonderful drug free children, I have animals which give me great pleasure, and even though my Asperger's friend stuffs up more than he achieves, is always here to listen to my crying and will help any of my kids out at the drop of a hat, I have a wonderful ex-boyfriend who is willing to drive me all over USA and Canada in 3 weeks for my 9 week trip. So in all I am better off than most!

[gokuangel]

oh man im SS *hugs* about  the baby thing! I'm going through it too i feel like i should have 2 kids by now as well! But for me its that darn $$$ thing again! no $$ and no insurance means no doctor which means no tests and no answers and no baby!!!

[msmarlowe]

Ohhh i am sorry, I didn't mean to upset anyone....If it makes you feel better It upset me too....when i finally answered the question....

[redheadaussie]

My nearly 16 year old son who refuses to go to school for nearly 8 months now.  My lack of ability to make money due ot me being too stressed and ill.  My Asperger's friend who drives me nuts and totally keeps effing up my life!  Man...I wish you hadn't put this up..now I am in tears! Sob!

[msmarlowe]

What challenges stand in the way of your ideal lifestyle? How are you working to overcome them?

I guess I should answer the question too.  I would have to agree with TrudieC...IF I didn't have my health problems then I would by a mommy to a least 2 children if not more. I have always wanted to have a baby...but with the growths on my ovaries and the severe  ENDOMETRIOSIS.

Sometimes I get so upset thinking about it, that I am not a mommy and some one out there is having a child that she does not want....I read about the child abuse cases and it makes me so sad and angry and depressed....ok let me stop now before i start crying...

[TrudieC]

My health.  Until it is taken away from you you don't realize how important it is to have energy and vigor to approach each day.  I can still work but there is a good chance I will have to go on disability in the coming years.  Without your health you can't earn the money to support your lifestyle and you can't enjoy your life in the way you had anticipated.

I am learning everything I can about my chronic disease and trying to ensure I eat right, exercise and use all the available methods for improvement I can find.  I will save money to ensure I can survive in my later years.  I will grow my own vegetables and make my own homemade food without preservates to help my health and save money.  I will encourage my husband to get a job with some good benefits so that my drugs will be covered when I stop working.  I will work hard to conserve my energy - eliminating the time I spend on useless cleaning, reducing stress, and finding easier ways to do things with the time and energy I have.  I will try to find joy in life and rejoice in the things that I can do.

[SassyLassie]

I have to agree with the above poster. Without money, it is hard to do anything, I mean, we do not have to idolize it, but, let's fact it, we do need it to live, and if we want a good, decent lifestyle, it helps even more. Sure, we can make do, but, sometimes, it is not always possible.

As to overcoming it, well, not much unless you have a job, and jobs are so scarce anymore, especially where I live. I am so thankful to have my house and not owe on it, same with my car, actually, I am debt free, so, I am not complaining. I am just answering this in general form.

[gokuangel]

What challenges stand in the way of your ideal lifestyle?  $$ And $$ and more $$! i wish we could catch a break and start living comfortably and start saving $$ for things but theres always something pulling us in the opposite direction!
How are you working to overcome them? nothing there is no nothing to do the economy is rough and i have to be thankful for a having a house and food and not be greedy! And these things take time i have to understand us living "ideally ' wont happen overnite!