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What Annoys You About Society?
Hi All,
What annoys you about society as a whole?What would you do to change it? Please stay some what civil but please be honest...Remember these are personal opinions there is no right or wrong here.
What annoys you about society as a whole?What would you do to change it? Please stay some what civil but please be honest...Remember these are personal opinions there is no right or wrong here.
It is nice to see that everyone thinks the world is just peachy.. Maybe I should have phrased the question differently.
But I do have a question.
Are healthy debaters actually welcome here if their opinions differ from the masses in this forum? After all debates have a pro and con side . I actually enjoy hearing other peoples opinions on things...I look at it as a learning opportunity...You never know when you might actually learn somthing or get a different perspective from some one else....But to each his or her own.....
But I do have a question.
Are healthy debaters actually welcome here if their opinions differ from the masses in this forum? After all debates have a pro and con side . I actually enjoy hearing other peoples opinions on things...I look at it as a learning opportunity...You never know when you might actually learn somthing or get a different perspective from some one else....But to each his or her own.....
Well we are not allowed to talk politics here but other than that, cell phones to me are more of a nuisance than they are worth, and all the rude people have one no matter if it is in a grocery store, restaurant or even if your visiting with someone it seems they cannot turn it off. I even heard one go off in the court house. People need to learn phone etiquette. And why does a 6 year old need one anyway? lol One of my pet peeves in society.
The MedHelp membership is global so societal issues can be quite different between countries and even within. I would say my pet peeve about society is that too many people don't make themselves aware the realities of their world. Elections have too small of turnouts. I think this is mostly because people don't learn the issues of the day. We need to learn, research, listen, debate! The more knowledge we have the better decisions we can make in our lives and other's lives. I truly think this lack of knowledge leads to many problems within our governments. We can't make the right things happen without knowing the history and realities.
What annoys me about society is it's herd mentality.
And, I agree with you on the debate issue.
And, I agree with you on the debate issue.
Right On! Great issues...
Here is my main issue and I think this is the reason behind some of the major issues today.
Entitlement or a 'Sense of Entitlement' is an unrealistic, unmerited or inappropriate expectation of favorable living conditions and favorable treatment at the hands of others.They may appear at times to care only about their own desires and needs at the expense of other people around them or they may habitually prioritize their own needs above those of others.
Bah Bah Bah...Said the sheep....
I completely agree about the herd mentallity...
I do not understand close mindedness.... There are so many different ways to look at things...There are many different way to achieve the same goal...
Please keep em comming....
Here is my main issue and I think this is the reason behind some of the major issues today.
Entitlement or a 'Sense of Entitlement' is an unrealistic, unmerited or inappropriate expectation of favorable living conditions and favorable treatment at the hands of others.They may appear at times to care only about their own desires and needs at the expense of other people around them or they may habitually prioritize their own needs above those of others.
Bah Bah Bah...Said the sheep....
I completely agree about the herd mentallity...
I do not understand close mindedness.... There are so many different ways to look at things...There are many different way to achieve the same goal...
Please keep em comming....
Yes, the 'Sense of Entitlement' and anti-intellectualism is a problem. I'm seeing so many of the youth feeling entitled to whatever they want without working for it in any way. I also see a growing trend towards "the good ole boy/girl" attitude, where intelligence is looked down on and called elitist, where setting the bar very low is acceptable, even desired, especially in our future leaders.
Has anyone seen the movie Idiocracy? It is about the dumbing down of America.Yes it is a comedy but it may be showing us a glimps of our future..
"Idiocracy"... I love the title; but I never heard of the movie... it sounds intriguing.
Thanks for the recommendation. I'll definitely check it out!
Thanks for the recommendation. I'll definitely check it out!
I dont know about dumbing down I find you all very clever you have a lot of knowledge , I do find that sometimes eyes are not wide open as they should be its easy to let stuff go instead of being involved ,kind of turning a blind eye .I feel sometimes the need to start to yell, wake up people ...
My biggest annoyance is people with no common sense or courtesy. Like as if they are the only ones who exist in the world...I guess that could fall under the sense of entitlement category as well.
i dont think the cell phones are a nuisance i think they are quite handy if you have an emergency or need to find some1 quickly or ask an important question but the kids thing i ABSOLUTELY agree children do NOT need cell phones! some of my lil cousins and my DH's have way nicer ones that we can afford and i dont see why they need them at all!! I also hate when people are walking through a store screaming at the top of their lungs on one drives me nuts you just wanna say shut up!!
Great points!
I think that sometimes people are not aware that they are actually being discourtious and rude. Some people have become so narcissistic they do not look outside their own little worlds nor do the really even care. It is very sad....
People are nasty because they have been allowed to get away with it. Just because they are self important does not mean that they are important to me . I absolutely will not allow some one to be rude or nasty to me. I will call them out without a second thought. We do not have to put up with rudeness! Stand up for yourself!
People screaming at the top of their lungs while on the phone is ridiculous! I do not care about them nor do I want to actually even hear them. I will tell them to shut up.
I think that sometimes people are not aware that they are actually being discourtious and rude. Some people have become so narcissistic they do not look outside their own little worlds nor do the really even care. It is very sad....
People are nasty because they have been allowed to get away with it. Just because they are self important does not mean that they are important to me . I absolutely will not allow some one to be rude or nasty to me. I will call them out without a second thought. We do not have to put up with rudeness! Stand up for yourself!
People screaming at the top of their lungs while on the phone is ridiculous! I do not care about them nor do I want to actually even hear them. I will tell them to shut up.
Honestly, what bothers me is overgeneralizations and negativity. I also find people who fly off the handle easily very difficult to deal with.
Some how I feel that the last comment was directed towards me.LOL..
As passionate as I am about what annoys me I am that passionate about what I love aswell. I am loyal to my family ,friends and I am loyal to myself.My circle of trust so to speak....
Hypocrites are an interesting annoyance.Unfortuantly we all have them in our lives... They are normally the first to cast a stone. They judge you when infact they are doing the same thing and more than likely much worse. But these people will not hear such blasphemy...They are too busy trying to prove how pure they are by condemning others...To me they lead one of the saddest forms of existence ...
I do not throw rocks at others while living in my own glass house. I always give people the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise....Unfortunatly in my experience they always have proven the latter.
As passionate as I am about what annoys me I am that passionate about what I love aswell. I am loyal to my family ,friends and I am loyal to myself.My circle of trust so to speak....
Hypocrites are an interesting annoyance.Unfortuantly we all have them in our lives... They are normally the first to cast a stone. They judge you when infact they are doing the same thing and more than likely much worse. But these people will not hear such blasphemy...They are too busy trying to prove how pure they are by condemning others...To me they lead one of the saddest forms of existence ...
I do not throw rocks at others while living in my own glass house. I always give people the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise....Unfortunatly in my experience they always have proven the latter.
Stormy you sound like my mother. I thought I was bad, I just get annoyed and possible mutter something under my breath but she's the one who will tell them to shut up or point out that they are wrong. The total lawyer in her. But if I'm with her I'm hanging my head out of embarrassment. But yes I agree, people do disregard other people so much that they do rude things without realizing it is rude. I was just taught to be aware of my surroundings. Like if I'm carrying a big bag, I know I have it on my shoulder, why do I have to twirl and hit people and then not even know I hit them? This is an example because I don't do that, I know I have a big bag on my shoulder.
I do not just go around yelling at people....LOL But if some one does somthing that affects myself or a loved one then I will call them out. My mother is handicaped and it is amazing the utter disregaurd for handicapped people. If some one almost knocks my mom down your d*mned right I am going to say somthing to them.
What would you all do in a case like this?
My husband and I are in the grocery store. There is somthing like an olive bar and it is self serve. There are containers and large ladle/spoons . There are also little sampling cups and spoons so you can take a little bit and try it first. My husband and I are at the deli counter which is located directly infront of this olive bar thing. There is a couple looking at whats there and trying to decide what to get. The wife looks at the containers,sampling cups and the other stuff. She proceeds to STICK HER FINGER IN THE HUMMUS and put it in her mouth. I was in absolutle horror and disgust. I could not contain myself .I have eaten stuff from it before.
I said I saw you just stick your finger in the hummus? Thats absolutly disgusting and unsanitary.I told her that was one of the most disgusting and vile things I have ever seen some one do. She was embarrassed and should have been.I mean she had no defense to her action.She was 100% wrong.She proceeded to pretty much run out of the store. I was not the only person who witnessed this and I was not the only person who said somthing to her. This was not a child this was a grown a$$ woman who knew better. I mean was this B**ch serious? Who would do that?
A store employee rushed and did away with the hummus thank goodness. Needless to say I have not eaten anything from the olive bar to this day.....LOL
I too am aware of my surroundings. I go out of my way to be polite and curtious. Thats the way I was brought up.... If everyone in the world was like that the world would be a much better place. :0)
What would you all do in a case like this?
My husband and I are in the grocery store. There is somthing like an olive bar and it is self serve. There are containers and large ladle/spoons . There are also little sampling cups and spoons so you can take a little bit and try it first. My husband and I are at the deli counter which is located directly infront of this olive bar thing. There is a couple looking at whats there and trying to decide what to get. The wife looks at the containers,sampling cups and the other stuff. She proceeds to STICK HER FINGER IN THE HUMMUS and put it in her mouth. I was in absolutle horror and disgust. I could not contain myself .I have eaten stuff from it before.
I said I saw you just stick your finger in the hummus? Thats absolutly disgusting and unsanitary.I told her that was one of the most disgusting and vile things I have ever seen some one do. She was embarrassed and should have been.I mean she had no defense to her action.She was 100% wrong.She proceeded to pretty much run out of the store. I was not the only person who witnessed this and I was not the only person who said somthing to her. This was not a child this was a grown a$$ woman who knew better. I mean was this B**ch serious? Who would do that?
A store employee rushed and did away with the hummus thank goodness. Needless to say I have not eaten anything from the olive bar to this day.....LOL
I too am aware of my surroundings. I go out of my way to be polite and curtious. Thats the way I was brought up.... If everyone in the world was like that the world would be a much better place. :0)
Since you asked the quesiton . . . I will answer. That IS disgusting regarding the hummus. Yuck and double yuck. But it is that old reality check---------- you never know what is happening with a "bar" or those free samples, for that matter. Someone trying to dip their cracker into the dip and their finger gets in the way . . . gross! I've got to be really dying to try it to tempt fate like that.
I think everyone has to handle things their own way. We are all people trying to live our lives. So I am not going to tell you that you are right or wrong in how you handle it. I think some people do dumb or rude things out of ignorance------ I really do. That can help me with my response to them. But as the therapist in me always said to others . . . anger is a choice. Some people use those trivial things in life as their opportunity to let the fury inside of them out. (my husband . . . watch out if you get in his way while he's driving! Someone may very well do something wrong--------- but he has such a response, I know it is the angry beast within vs. the actual event . . . in his wife's humble opinion. And I do exagerate a bit to illustrate.)
As I don't think it is my place to tell someone when and how to be angry------ I also don't think it is my place to be angry at everything other people do in the world. Yep, I think it is rude to go around talking on your cell phone loudly . . . but I really don't care that much. Why waste my energy with that? I've got world's problems to solve. LOL
So what I would have really done in the instance with the olive bar was stop and watch. (be totally grossed out) and gone and told a manager that they need to remove the hummus, point out the woman if she was still there and gone over to the refrigerator case and bought my prepackaged hummus. Smiled to myself that I dodged a hummus bullet and gone home and enjoyed my day. Not that that is right or wrong.
Everyone does dumb, rude and obnoxious things. I do try to cut people some slack. That is my approach. Not saying it has to be everyone's. But I do watch for those that make telling others off a habit as it is often indicative of other things. (again, therapist talking in me.) Please do not take that personally as I am not talking about you. I don't know you. And even if I did, you are entitled to handle things any way that you wish.
Sorry about your mother, stormyrenee. I have a child with a developmental delay and I am fully aware of the insensitive things others can do. It is hard. From another post, I know you love her deeply. So rudeness is even harder to handle when it happens to our dear ones.
ps: I do not like hypocrites either. That is why I always try not to be one. (smile)
I think everyone has to handle things their own way. We are all people trying to live our lives. So I am not going to tell you that you are right or wrong in how you handle it. I think some people do dumb or rude things out of ignorance------ I really do. That can help me with my response to them. But as the therapist in me always said to others . . . anger is a choice. Some people use those trivial things in life as their opportunity to let the fury inside of them out. (my husband . . . watch out if you get in his way while he's driving! Someone may very well do something wrong--------- but he has such a response, I know it is the angry beast within vs. the actual event . . . in his wife's humble opinion. And I do exagerate a bit to illustrate.)
As I don't think it is my place to tell someone when and how to be angry------ I also don't think it is my place to be angry at everything other people do in the world. Yep, I think it is rude to go around talking on your cell phone loudly . . . but I really don't care that much. Why waste my energy with that? I've got world's problems to solve. LOL
So what I would have really done in the instance with the olive bar was stop and watch. (be totally grossed out) and gone and told a manager that they need to remove the hummus, point out the woman if she was still there and gone over to the refrigerator case and bought my prepackaged hummus. Smiled to myself that I dodged a hummus bullet and gone home and enjoyed my day. Not that that is right or wrong.
Everyone does dumb, rude and obnoxious things. I do try to cut people some slack. That is my approach. Not saying it has to be everyone's. But I do watch for those that make telling others off a habit as it is often indicative of other things. (again, therapist talking in me.) Please do not take that personally as I am not talking about you. I don't know you. And even if I did, you are entitled to handle things any way that you wish.
Sorry about your mother, stormyrenee. I have a child with a developmental delay and I am fully aware of the insensitive things others can do. It is hard. From another post, I know you love her deeply. So rudeness is even harder to handle when it happens to our dear ones.
ps: I do not like hypocrites either. That is why I always try not to be one. (smile)
Oh specialmom, you sound just like the therapist we had. My fiance and I have anger issues beyond belief. I guess I get it from my ahem....mother and he gets it from his father. So us together, well watch out. I wish I was like you and I totally hear you and agree 100% with you. Wish I could be that tolerant. It takes so much strength out of me just to walk down one block here in NYC, without getting irritated. People here, definitely self absorbed and it's infuriating. I get home exhausted because dealing with people on the subways is no joke...lol. It's like a free for all on rudeness. I do expend too much energy on getting annoyed. Don't think I can change that much, I've tried, but still can't...ugh! Oh well...lol.
Stormy, I'm sorry about your mom and I know how you feel, I don't have any handicapped family members but I do have a 2 year old in a stroller and I can't tell you how many times people just cut directly in front of it and nearly fall onto my son. Either I have to stop short but most of the times I clip their ankles by accident...lol. Don't get in front of my stroller if you don't want to get run over.
Stormy, I'm sorry about your mom and I know how you feel, I don't have any handicapped family members but I do have a 2 year old in a stroller and I can't tell you how many times people just cut directly in front of it and nearly fall onto my son. Either I have to stop short but most of the times I clip their ankles by accident...lol. Don't get in front of my stroller if you don't want to get run over.
Specialmom,
I completely get what you are saying...Believe me I do just let some stuff roll off my shoulders. Some things I just laugh about.
I am going to be completely honest here and possibly a bit sappy. Becomming ill has actually given me a different perspective on life. Things that were once important have become almost trivial. So it may not seem like it in my posts(rantings lol) but I have really mellowed out. But I feel that because I have lost control of my body so to speak that I try to find controll in other areas..I also suffer from a somewhat mild form of OCD. So feeling out of control is very hard to deal with... Enough of the sappy opening up stuff...LOL I was speaking to the therapist in you so what do I owe you? LOL
When I see a person that is handicaped I always have the thought "There for the grace of god go I"...You never know whats going to happen.So I go out of my way to be polite. I try to put myself in others shoes sometimes... I find it humbling....
Theresa....
I completely get what you are saying...Believe me I do just let some stuff roll off my shoulders. Some things I just laugh about.
I am going to be completely honest here and possibly a bit sappy. Becomming ill has actually given me a different perspective on life. Things that were once important have become almost trivial. So it may not seem like it in my posts(rantings lol) but I have really mellowed out. But I feel that because I have lost control of my body so to speak that I try to find controll in other areas..I also suffer from a somewhat mild form of OCD. So feeling out of control is very hard to deal with... Enough of the sappy opening up stuff...LOL I was speaking to the therapist in you so what do I owe you? LOL
When I see a person that is handicaped I always have the thought "There for the grace of god go I"...You never know whats going to happen.So I go out of my way to be polite. I try to put myself in others shoes sometimes... I find it humbling....
Theresa....
Rude, selfish people.
I know what you mean guys I go out of my way now to speak or to help them its for me as much as them, I see the elderly getting the same short shrift...even in the stores by some caregivers usually the paid ones not family I may add.One instance I was in the store looking for coffee and along came a younger woman and an elderly man , he was obviously out for an afternoons shopping and enjoying him self looking at the cans and foods on the shelves, she was rushing him along , no time , you could see and hear the impatience and the disappointment in his eyes ,,I felt like speaking up, but didnt.... what could I say that would help this woman be what she should have been , caring, patient and mostly Kind ..kindness is the most imprtant attribute a human can have in my opinion ...
margy I know how you feel, I think to myself why do they do this job if they are going to behave that way? Karma is a bi tch and one day they will find themselves in that very same position and they better hope they have a nicer caregiver than they were.
stormyrenee, sorry about your health problems. And those things in life really do give us a new perspective, don't they? My heart goes out to you. Anyway, we are all human and we all get annoyed. We all are also a work in progress. Knowing ourselves well and why we do the things we do is helpful in being the best we can be. And if everyone strives for that . . . then the world will be a LOT less annoying.
And I agree about caregivers . . . they don't know what we know. That time is precious and someday they might be sorry they didn't appreciate the fleeting time they had with their loved one.
And yeah, not a fan of the rude and selfish. I guess we all have our moments but those that make it their day job are not fun to be around.
And I agree about caregivers . . . they don't know what we know. That time is precious and someday they might be sorry they didn't appreciate the fleeting time they had with their loved one.
And yeah, not a fan of the rude and selfish. I guess we all have our moments but those that make it their day job are not fun to be around.
How to achieve happiness by His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama
For a start, it is possible to divide every kind of happiness and suffering into two main categories: mental and physical. Of the two, it is the mind that exerts the greatest influence on most of us. Unless we are either gravely ill or deprived of basic necessities, our physical condition plays a secondary role in life. If the body is content, we virtually ignore it. The mind, however, registers every event, no matter how small. Hence we should devote our most serious efforts to bringing about mental peace.
From my own limited experience I have found that the greatest degree of inner tranquility comes from the development of love and compassion.
The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater our own sense of well-being becomes. Cultivating a close, warm-hearted feeling for others automatically puts the mind at ease. This helps remove whatever fears or insecurities we may have and gives us the strength to cope with any obstacles we encounter. It is the ultimate source of success in life.
As long as we live in this world we are bound to encounter problems. If, at such times, we lose hope and become discouraged, we diminish our ability to face difficulties. If, on the other hand, we remember that it is not just ourselves but every one who has to undergo suffering, this more realistic perspective will increase our determination and capacity to overcome troubles. Indeed, with this attitude, each new obstacle can be seen as yet another valuable opportunity to improve our mind!
Thus we can strive gradually to become more compassionate, that is we can develop both genuine sympathy for others' suffering and the will to help remove their pain. As a result, our own serenity and inner strength will increase.
This is one of my favorite messages and thought it fit the turn the thread has taken.
For a start, it is possible to divide every kind of happiness and suffering into two main categories: mental and physical. Of the two, it is the mind that exerts the greatest influence on most of us. Unless we are either gravely ill or deprived of basic necessities, our physical condition plays a secondary role in life. If the body is content, we virtually ignore it. The mind, however, registers every event, no matter how small. Hence we should devote our most serious efforts to bringing about mental peace.
From my own limited experience I have found that the greatest degree of inner tranquility comes from the development of love and compassion.
The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater our own sense of well-being becomes. Cultivating a close, warm-hearted feeling for others automatically puts the mind at ease. This helps remove whatever fears or insecurities we may have and gives us the strength to cope with any obstacles we encounter. It is the ultimate source of success in life.
As long as we live in this world we are bound to encounter problems. If, at such times, we lose hope and become discouraged, we diminish our ability to face difficulties. If, on the other hand, we remember that it is not just ourselves but every one who has to undergo suffering, this more realistic perspective will increase our determination and capacity to overcome troubles. Indeed, with this attitude, each new obstacle can be seen as yet another valuable opportunity to improve our mind!
Thus we can strive gradually to become more compassionate, that is we can develop both genuine sympathy for others' suffering and the will to help remove their pain. As a result, our own serenity and inner strength will increase.
This is one of my favorite messages and thought it fit the turn the thread has taken.
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