Erection problems is it ED or not?

[peter_ofor]

Hi people.
I am on a long relationship about 8 years. I am 29 years old and my gf about same age,slightly younger.

I used to watch porn and masterbation about 1-2 even 3 times a day
Untill like 1 year ago i was able to have erection in command. It was more like, i want sex ok boom my penis goes really hard just thinking of sex.
4 years ago we hda to go on a long distance relationship meeting every month for few days, still having sex perfectly.
1 year ago i was very tired with my job etc(even though we do not officially live together, on our free time we spend days together and most of the nights) and i lost my interest in sex, masterbation, porn everything. i think that was because i got tired with job etc.
We tried to have sex and as i said before just thinking of sex i was getting hard and start having sex, but that time did NOT happen. i went soft and because we almost never do foreplay i was upset.
then we did not have sex again for 1-2 months and she complained to me and i felt really bad.
we had sex 1-2 times and then same thing happened, went soft.. as i said before we never do foreplay, its kind of ok we want sex ok my penis goes hard and we do it. (i know its not right).
i started masterbating again to gain interest again in sex using porn, we had sex again but that was just once.

i read somewhere about people watching porn and masterbate that they face problems getting easy erections so i quited masterbating and watching porn.i have watched for over 1 month but i do masterbate. when i did not masterbate for 5 days , i was getting some erections when i was alone.
sounds like anxiety to me because when i am with her i do not get erections.

I remember of myself watching tv in the past and getting errections from not hot scenes but thats not the case any more :/ 1 month ago when i watched porn for last time i was trying to get my penis hard by watching porn..

What can i do to get back my instant hard erections?
Is it because of the age that they went away forever and we need to spend sometime together before intercourse??



Thanks

[YardBull]

If you want to have successful sex with a girlfriend, eliminate all porn and masturbation so that your sexual energy will increase.  Masturbation and sex with a partner are very different.  Get away from self-stimulation and look to the time with your partner.  Be sure to engage in foreplay for the benefit of you both.