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How do I stop watching gay porn

Hi, please help me with this. because this is driving me mad.
I'm 17, and i can't stop watching gay porn. And gay porn gives me more pleasure that straight porn and I masturbate better and my penis gets harder when i watch gay porn than straight. What's wrong with me?! I KNOW I wasn't like this. When I was younger, I used to get horny when watching straight porn, but since I started watching gay porn, which was out of curiosity, i kinda have gotten addicted to it.
And also I live in a country where there's not even a small chance of showing up gay and not getting punished both physically and emotionally. It's just impossible to be gay or bisexual or anything like that. So, this is my intention: stop watching gay porn and get back to my country's "normal" state of being straight. But I cannot do it.
please help me I don't want to turn gay when i get older. not in this country and situation.
why couldn't I be like the rest of my friends?! a normal straight 17 year old.
I'm so frustrated with this issue.
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You can't choose to be gay or straight, it sounds like you might be gay or at least bi-sexual.
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Over exposure to pornography at your age - at any age, but especially as a teenager leads to desensitization.  Young people who start watching porn tend to keep looking for more and more extreme porn to get the same dopamine high.  It's actually common for straight people to watch gay porn as part of this process ( or extreme stuff - stuff that's not part of what they are normally interested in).
If gay porn turns you on, maybe you're gay.  But if you are so young and the gay porn comes after a long time of watching porn, it could be part of the process of pornography addiction.  Look at yourbrainonporn ******* for some science behind pornography's effects on people.
Regular pornography usage at such a young age has various effects, and you might be well served to take a break from it (warning: it will be difficult for you to get off of it) and see what your non-porn brain is interested in - in the real world.  Only then will you be able to see how your natural instincts are, and what you are interested in (men, women, or both).   Maybe you are straight, maybe you are gay, but that is based on what you are in real life, not what porno turns you on after a few years of looking at a lot of porn.   Good luck!  
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ok thanks now would you please tell me a way to take a break from watching gay porn?
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BTW is it possible that i have developed HOCD?
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please help! i'm suffering.
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Seek a therapist to help you. Nothing we can really tell you how to stop doing something...just stop then.
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It's best to know first if you are gay or not. Until you admit it to yourself, it would be hard. It's not easy to live a life that you don't want. If you're gay then so be it! If it's not culturally accepted in your country then move out to another where you can find freedom to be what you are. If you don't want to then, you have to live a lie.
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do you find yourself attracted to men? or is it just the porn?
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Hello, I want to change too. Maybe we can both help each other if you want.
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Do know that this post is 6 years old.  Maybe the poster is still around.  But as was the case with him, if you're gay, you're gay.  Nothing you can really do about it although you can try to live as if you weren't, but you won't be happy.  You can live that way, but again, without satisfaction.  If you're not gay, really, just stop watching porn.  I know obsessions are hard to quit, but we all have some and we all quit some along the way, so if you try you can do it.  It is in your complete control even if it doesn't seem like it is.  But again, if gay porn really turns you on, there's a really good chance you might be gay or bi, and we are what we are, but we can choose not to act on what we are.  Suppression isn't fun, but it can be done.  But pretending to be straight isn't really fair to the partner you couple with dishonestly, and when it comes out it will hurt.  Peace.
Hey there!  I think support can be helpful. You can message me in private message if you like.  Sometimes having a 'go to' activity when you get the urge can help.  Make a list of other things that you could do instead. Then set into gear being mindful to switch to something on the list when you have the urge to do something (anything) you want to stop.
Maybe we can help each other
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