That's not the first time I've heard somebody tell me that their neurologist said "You don't want to have MS anyway." What were they thinking? Oh, MS would be such a great disease to have! Whoo-hoo!
I don't think some doctors understand that debilitating symptoms and lack of a diagnosis is enough to cause stress and anxiety. There's definitely a dearth of empathy.
Red,
How's it going today? Just wondering.......
hugs, Lu
Just wondering: How much schooling and real-world experience does the average physician receive in how to treat people, how to deal with people, how to interact with them as fellow human beings? I remember the phrase "bedside manner." If you have all the technical knowledge in the world, you're still a crappy doctor if you make your patients feel like crap! Grrrrrrrrrrr............
Red, listen to JJ & Shelly; these ladies seem to know whereof they speak.
I for one will not let you give in to this. I will certainly let you have this moment and it's totally understandable. Regardless of what causes us to give up we all do so from time-to-time. For me, it doesn't always stick.
When I throw my hands in the air and say I give, it's only because I've exhausted everything in my power to change the situation. Sounds to me this is the exact place you have landed as well. All you've done to hold on to hope is depleted..............for now.
For now, Red. It's just for now. Later, when you get a glimmer of hope or the possibility of a better outcome - that is when you'll feel us picking you back up from this fall and cheering you on all the way.
Letting you have your time you need darling but we've got your back when it's time to move foward.
(((xoxoxo)))
shelly
What you're experiencing is all part of a phase of what most people go through on their way to acceptance. I found it interesting that is what you titled your post. I think in the back of your mind, that is what you're thinking, too.
I had that same thought--that I was going to die within the near future, too, when I was undiagnosed and being told I had this or that. I was even referred to a psychiatrist one time. I jokingly told my friends that I wanted on my tombstone, "I told you that I was sick and wasn't crazy."
I think if a person is going through what you're going through--pain, loss of ability, mobility, etc. you're going to feel a whole of emotions. I don't know exactly all your feelings, but for me during this stage of diagnosis, I had a whole bunch of feelings going on. I was angry that nothing was being done, shocked that I was experiencing what I was, upset that I wasn't getting much help (medical and the people around me), unvalidated, and had a lot of fear about the future.
With a PPMS diagnosis, I am sure that your feelings are magnified by the millionth degree. There's no real medicine that will slow the disease down, and I would imagine that you're not feeling that positive of ever having real pain relief. My sister has a more progressive disease course and about ten-fold the pain that I experience. There's nothing, in my opinion, that sends a person into despair faster than chronic, every day, excruitiating pain, with no relief in sight.
I think one thing that would help is to find a neurologist that you can really trust. Not having someone you trust really doesn't help. Plus, your OT, although trying to be helpful, is not very professional--don't listen to what she's saying (lend a deaf ear). She's not a doctor and hasn't the experience and expertise to give her opinion about something that is very important. She also hasn't seen the whole picture of your complete medical history, MRIs, exams, etc. etc. She should have respect for you having just been diagnosed with a disease that is frankly hard to accept.
Warm regards,
Deb
Sorry for your & your sister's falling. I fall a lot too & know how that is. I also know about the doctors & how frustrating they can be!
Hang in there!!!
Hugs,
Nancy