Everyone deals with their diagnosis and/or illness differently. It appears to me she's shutting you out deliberately as she is anticipating something happening down the road between you both. Although I'm not a psychologist, I would say her anticipation and fear of what may happen down the road is making her react this way. Perhaps she feels she has more control if she is doing the pushing away and detaching first. Don't allow it to happen. Go to counseling if need be to enable you both to communicate effectively without placing any more strain on your relationship.
You seem to be a very supportive person even by posting here on the forums because of your concerns. That's a plus already.
Don't give up and let us know what direction you are taking with this.
I hope I was of some help.
Welcome to the forums!
Lisa
It certainly can be a normal reaction when first diagnosed - we don't want to drag down our partner- MS is insidious and can take away so many things, including relationships.
Have you tried to talk with her about this or are you sitting quietly? You can find little and big ways to tell her you love her and want to be with her, regardless of her health.
Good luck - relationships can always be tested by MS.
best,
Lulu
Hi, there, and welcome to the forum. I've got to admit I went through the same thoughts when I was first diagnosed, and thank goodness, through GOOD COMMUNICATION my husband and I have had more than a few heart-to-heart talks. What it got down to...he's definitely strong enough to be my man (apologies to Sheryl Crow).
Sometimes it takes some counseling to get to that point, and, yes, we did see a counselor once, just because I felt I needed a second set of disinterested ears to hear my concerns.
Good luck to you two, and it sounds like you're strong enough. You need to tell her!