MS partner advice

[Gadsi]

Hi,

My partner has MS and over the last 6 months her behaviour has become erratic and its worrying me. I am not sure if it’s me or her MS?
She has become forgetful and argumentative and obstructive.
Is this a side affect or normality?
We have just had a baby as well, he is 4 months old and i am wondering if that is affecting her as well?

[jensequitur]

I know that I am forgetful, argumentative and obstructive sometimes.  I try not to be, but I end up with anger issues, especially when I'm really frustrated about something.

I would say that if this was because of MS, it won't be a permanent problem, but I would seek counseling and perhaps medication.  Often people with MS are depressed and don't realize it.

[Sumanadevii]

I know this, she is one lucky woman to have you in her life.  I agree with the other posters that it could be the MS or postpartum depression.  It also could be pure exhaustion!!!!  However, I would lean toward it being a flair from the MS.  So many women find themselves there after giving birth.  I have a feeling with a loving spouse like you, she will receive help.  It won't matter what it is.....

Welcome to the board.  Please keep us updated.  I feel so for young families fighting this MonSter.  

Sumana

[Lulu54]

Four months post-pregnancy and MS ?  Either one of these could be causing the problems you describe herre.    Is she aware of these changes or is it just you noticing the difference?

Either way, can you gently encourage here to talk to one of her doctors or you can go with her and start that conversation?

Good luck - she is fortunate you are out here looking for answers.  This can be one very MySterious disease to live with - both for the patient and family members.

Lulu

[HVAC]

Sounds like you are a very caring partner.

In pregnancy MS is actually better because the same mechanism which keeps the mother's body from rejecting the baby helps the MS. Right after a baby MS tends to get worse. Depression, moodiness, and cognitive difficulties are all part of MS. In any case the post partum depression can be very real. So in a loving way you should encourage her to seek help. If you push people tend to not want to seek help.

Alex