My mom

[etaxitpo]

I have been with this forum for approximately 2 years when my mother first got diagnosed with OC.  I just wanted to let those of you who know who might remember me that my mother lost her battle on January 30th.  I miss her so much.  

My mom was like so many of you battling everyday and I say keep fighting.  How do I get over this?  Everyone says it will get better.

You all have been a great source of encouragement throughout my mom's battle.

Thank you,
Regina

[Jan214]

Oh honey, I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I know you are overwhelmed with sadness right now, but it will dim and you will be left with good memories of her. You know my mom died of this when I was 7, so I do know what you are going through.  It hurts for different reasons at different ages, but it still hurts.  Don't push yourself into "getting over it", or "moving on", but do look forward to your future.  The best thing you can do for your mother now is to take care of yourself. That is what she would want, right?  We are all here for you so don't forget that you are not alone.
Love
Jan

[JC145]

My sympathy to you and your family.  May memories of better days help you.  Judy

[SimplyStar]

Missing someone that you have been close to all your life is very painful, you do not get over it in a short while.  Going on with your life and missing her is OK.  Untill you come to the stage of complete acceptance,  and can remember with joy,  that you had her in your life. When the final illness begins to fade, and  then and only then, can we finally let that part go.  When you get to the point where you can forget those "illness" months and bring out the good years,  then  you will never forget that this was a person that had tremendous meaning in your life.  In the months following death, the smallest things bring memories to the forefront, they make us sad because we did or saw these things together, now it is just you.  A very wise person told me one time that the last person
to hear your voice is the last person that will remember you.  There are many people that have heard your Mothers voice and she will not be forgotten  That is what we miss the most, I believe, the direct contact by talking together.  It is alright to grieve, it is very normal, and it takes time to work  the way through it.  You will be fine, hun, just hang in there, and  let your memories with her, take up the place in your heart that feels empty now.   Marty

[butterflytc]

Regina,
   Sorry for you loss, and heartache. Your mom is now at peace, and I hope soon you will find peace as well. I lost my mom to cancer, and think of her often. When she died, I felt good with the fact that she was no longer going to suffer, that helped me thru it. I see her in so many things but especially Christmas time, I still feel a catch in my throat when I see the little angels my mom used to make. I treasure her memories, and know she is up that pulling for me.
God Bless you and yours
butterflytc

[justscore]

I am so sorry you have lost your mom.  Hold on to the memories.......

Heidi

[bohan54]

As Marie says, your mom lives within you.  Feel the pain now knowing that inevitably it will wain over time.  
Best wishes,
Sharon

[marie3B]

I lost my mom to ovca over 20 years ago.  It still seems like a bad dream to me even after all this time.  I keep her alive in our family by using the silly old expressions she used to use and by telling as many stories about her as I can to her great grandchidren she never knew.  They know her even though she left us before they were born.  My heart goes out to you.  If you ever need to talk I am here.  Love, Marie

[dawnlyn]

I am so sorry, you are in my thoughts and prayers.......You have my deepest sympathies........Love, Dawnlyn

[silver&gold]

I am so sorry for your loss, there are no words I can say to ease your pain . Sending prayers to you and a big hug.

Love Angie

[jane65]

Dear Regina, I am so truly sorry for the loss of your dear Mom, let her love and the fact that she's no longer suffering give you strength.
As far as getting over it, that will never happen, you'll adjust and accept that your Mom is no longer here, but always remember that you were her loving daughter, and she loved you very much.
It's a matter of time, for your pain to pass and nothing can rush that. We all deal with grief in our own way.
She's in Heaven, and at peace and no longer suffering, that's what you should keep in your mind.
Good health to you, .... Jane