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Children sleeping arrangements

I have recently remarried and my husband has three children(2 boys ages 3 and 7, and a daughter that is 8) who live with their mother in Florida. I also have one son(age 9) of my own.  We are currently fighting for custody of the children, due to her moving from Texas and so we don't get to get them as often due to travel expenses. Here is my question. I'm our home we have three bedrooms. The two oldest boys share a room and his youngest son and his daughter share a room. ( each child has their own bed). The children have stated to us that at their mothers home there are three bedrooms. One for their mother, one for their grandparents, and one for their great grandmother. The children share rooms with the adults. The youngest son and daughter sleep with their mother, and the other son sleeps with his grandparents. Is this arrangement appropriate?? I know sometimes kids want to sleep with their parents on an occasional basis, but this is a nightly occurance. I don't believe it is right, and I believe our bedding arrangement is much more suitable?  Should this be brought up when we go to court?
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535822 tn?1443976780
Many families do share beds, I think the ages are a 3 year old and an 8 year old  they are not teens ...My opinion is that I see no harm in this unless you think there is child abuse happening.many children sleep with their Mom or family..May I ask what their father thinks about it..I think its up to you whether you bring it up in court..
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My husband does not agree with it. The mother is recently remarried, to someone approximately 25 years older than herself who also sleeps with the daughter and youngest son. The fact the he has made no effort to indroduce himself and ignores my husband when he speaks makes him very uncomfortable. I as well as my husband feel that the children have no since of identity this way and could cause developmental issues. His middle son has shown signs of anger issues and has become more introverted since they moved.
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535822 tn?1443976780
Then I agree maybe you and your husband should discuss how you feel with their mom first see if she will sort out the sleeping arrangements. I agree I would not like my child to sleep in the same bed as someone not their father ,you have a point..If you have legal counsel it may be best to discuss with them regarding the court issue .good luck.
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