I'm in need of advice and support. It seems there are many kindred spirits here and this is a God send. It's a hard thing for others to relate to & I feel like a huge failure as a mother. I'm having trouble coping in other aspects of my life. I've been through a lot with my son (school problems, police, court, his weed addiction) but this feels different, final and is devastating. Believe it or not, we always found a way to maintain a special and close connection.
He is 17 and after what appears to be a 'nervous breakdown' he is refusing to see or speak with me. Says he won't return home and may call or visit me someday when he decides if he wants to do this. He has a history of ADHD, ODD, truancy, weed addiction. Recently he became acutely paranoid - likely b/c of a combo of years of weed abuse and trauma from street involvement.
He's now in the hospital, not himself at all & to complicate things, is on house arrest and I'm his surety.
He is refusing treatment in the hospital - that he desperately needs - & discharge is imminent. He has a fantasy that he can go back to juvenile detention or that the hospital will find him alternate accommodation instead of returning home. He has everyone on edge & if he does leave hospital without me, I will be obligated to call the police - this will result in a breach of his bail conditions, new charges & a return to detention.
When asked why he won't talk to me or see me, etc. he says there is no reason and he's not mad at me.
I had to call an ambulance when he became acutely paranoid & required hospitalization 3
weeks ago & this made him mad - he views me as being a rat/snitch- but aside from years of challenges (this is obviously an understatement