5 YEAR DAUGHTER PLAYING TRUTH OR DARE

[MOTHER_OF_6_KIDS]

MY 5 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WAS PLAYING TRUTH OR DARE WITH SIBLINGS AND FRIENDS FROM ACROSS THE STREET, SHE HAD DARED A 7 YEAR OLD GIRL TO PEE IN HER MOUTH. THE 7 YEAR OLD REFUSED, AND THEY CONTINUED WITH THEIR GAME. WHEN THE CIRCLE CAME BACK TO MY 5 YEAR OLD, SHE THEN ASKED THE SAME GIRL TO LICK HER WHERE SHE PEES. I AM FEELING EXTREAMYLY CONCERNED ABOUT THIS, WHEN MY FIANCEE ASKED HER WHERE SHE LEARNED SOMETHING LIKE THAT, SHE SAID HER 10 YEAR OLD BROTHERS NAME, AND WHEN HE WAS ASKED HE SAID TV. I AM AT WORK, AND WAS WHEN I HEARD WHAT HAPPENED. WHEN I GET HOME I KNOW I NEED TO TALK TO HER AND HIM ABOUT THE INAPPROPRIATENESS OF THIS BEHAVIOR. BUT WHAT DO I ASK, HOW DO I RESPOND, AND HOW DO I MAKE SURE IT DOESNT HAPPEN AGAIN?

[docphilmoxom123]

This is very inappropriate and think that due to your 10 year old son talking about that since he could watch porn you should block any porn on the computer on the TV i'm not sure and have a long chat with both your daughter and son about this and tell them how serious and inappropriate this is. We should never talk or show or ask to see each others private parts. Due to the age of your daughter and son I would let this to be a one off but any further issues I will be quite cross if I was the parent and I respect your concerns and be careful of what they do and where they go.

[ROSYouralright]

WOW! GREAT POST SPECIAL!

[specialmom]

Kids will say things like "pee in your mouth' and it is meant to be outrageous.  Shocking.  more of that potty talk that kids do without realizing that some may see this as sexual.  While it could be, I wouldn't necessarily go there.  Especially if had just been your daughter coming up with this.  However, she says her brother told her that.  HE may have just said it in that same innocent way.  But then you hear of the licking which takes it up a notch and is harder to explain away.  

I'd ask your son to identify what 'tv' he has seen this on.  Start there.  But do so in a loving way Not in a way that makes him into a bad kid so he is afraid to talk about it.

As for your daughter, I would not make this into a huge moment in her life other than to tell her that we do NOT talk about our private parts.  We don't show them.  We don't look at others.  We don't talk about it or doing anything to it.  EVER.  

good luck

[MarkLakewood3367]

I think the bigger question is where your daughter's 10 year old brother learned these behaviors.  Unless he is watching porn, I don't think that he's learning these behaviors from watching television.  The other question is whether your daughter or her 10 year old brother is or has been sexually abused which might be contributing to this behavior.  A mental health professional might be able to help you sort this through as this is a very delicate issue for a forum.