Bed wetting

[Tays_Mommy]

My future step-daughter is 9 years old.  Both her father & I are concern about her bed wetting & having to wear pull-ups every night.  Her grandparents have custiod of her right now.  When her father trys to talk about it to her grandmother, she flips out at him.  How can we appoarch her about this matter?  Also, can it be something serious?  I've noticed most nights that she does wet her pull-ups are nights she doesn't get her ways.  Could it be a behavior problem?  This problem is really borthering her father & I.

[margypops]

okey doke no problem,

[ardensmom]

Ah.. I can see how it seemed that way looking at it. Sorry for being confrontational,   it wasn't meant as a comment on your suggestion... I hadn't even read it. Let's start over? :) I need a forum I feel is nonjudgemental, I'm sure you do to.

[margypops]

I believe your remark "first things first made it the"competition if you think their is one

[ardensmom]

My apologies, I didn't realize this forum was a competition. I believe she asked if it was something serious OR behavioral. But thanks for your OK on my answer margypops. I'll be sure to ask your opinion before I give mine next time.

[margypops]

Perhaps a good idea but not everyone wants to go to the Doctor first ,they come here for none expert advice, but certainly go the the expert forum and and ask.and if you have looked at other avenues a visit to your doctor wont hurt. Good luck

[ardensmom]

First things first- she should see her family doc. There are medical issues that cause bedwetting.

[margypops]

Remove the pullups and place a mat under her sheet the pullups enable the wetting,however make sure she is happy and not upset about anything, does she like being at her Grand parents house,and her Dad does have the right and should talk to his mom about the issue and ask why she is flipping out, a good idea would be for her Dad to talk to his daughter first and get some feedback how she feels about living at her grandparents. I seem to get the impression you care a lot and think there is more of a problem, dont let him give up follow the gut feeling through.Ask pertinent questions of your future step child.about her life now.