My 9 yr old is a terrable eater

[dcfndallas]

Morgan only eats Honeycomb ceral or toaster strudel for breakfest, pizza at school for lunch, chicken nuggets or spaghettios with meatballs for dinner, and that is about it. She will drink milk(chocolate or strawberry). Water with flavors. I can not honestly think of anything else. OK an occasional apple or grapes, or a dognut. This forces me to make something different for her at every meal. I want to turn this kid around to a well balanced eater. I am told that I should only give her what we eat and that she will eventually eat with us. Her mother says that she does not want the drama. Others think that this is a control thing and that we need to let her know who is the parent. HELP.

[RockRose]

I would put her in charge of making her own special dinner.  If she wants chicken nuggets you can find fairly healthy ones in the freezer section and she can defrost and microwave them,  and you can make a big batch of spaghetti and freeze individual portions,  and at dinner time she can come into the kitchen and fix her portion before the family sits down to eat.

Honeycomb cereal is pretty good,  I'd offer her bananas or strawberries in it (she may not like that) and limit the toaster strudels to occasionally because WOW are they fat.

[margypops]

I agree with both of you, actually I dont find the foods you put in your post as extremely unhealthy, I have heard worse, there are a good few protein foods in the meatballs and chicken ,maybe she could use some more veg but kids dont always like veg they do eat more of it as they get older.I did same thing with my children, we ate differant things, its a matter of how disciplined you want to be, my mom used to get on my case told me I was soft, but hey it worked out as they got older they went vegitarian .