confused and having problems

[desi35]

I'm 10 weeks and 4 days. I am going to be brutally honest. I am an alcoholic. I don't j know how to stop drinking even for this baby. It is on my face everyday and I'm so scared truthfully I've done harm to the baby. God right know is the only one who knows. Please I need advice

[knufrio]

First talk to your Dr. Don't let people make you feel terrible ESPECIALLY because they don't understand your struggle and clearly don't understand addiction. Googling pictures isn't going to help you stop drinking and will probably just make things worse. Your Dr will be able to get you the help you need and most likely advise you to join peer groups and groups like AA, also alcohol addiction is sometimes difficult to overcome without medication so its best to talk to your physician to develop a treatment plan that suits your needs and the babies. I wish you the beat of luck and just know that there are people on here who understand your situation that you can talk to judgment free if you need it.

[Karena9119]

Check into a residential treatment program depending on how bad you are you may need to be monitored coming off the alcohol and they can also give you tons of knowledge so you can stay clean there is also aa but you have to make a commitment to change for yourself there are tons of recourses out there please seek some out if you honestly want help stopping

[mckaylas_momma1018]

To be honest, you may have already done irreparable damage to your baby especially since there is so much development going on in the first trimester... fetal alcohol system is a serious disease that causes serious developmental delays and drinking while pregnant could cause late term miscarriage, low birth weight, other severe birth defects, or stillbirths. You need to get, like 10 weeks ago.

[babysimp07]

I'm going to start off by saying, to anyone thinking that being rude or throwing the baby into the equation is going to suddenly stop things, you're wrong. Now, I'm going to tell you this and be completely 100% honest. One story is a personal experience and the other is one of a friend I personally witnessed.
When I was 19 I thought I was in love with a guy, I got pregnant and thought all my troubles would go away and everything would be perfect with my new baby. My fallback was my drinking and drug use, thr first two months I didnt know I was pregnant (I had just came off birth control and thought it would take a while to even my periods out) well even after i found out it was hard to adjust and change a lifestyle I had been living for so long. I drank a few times a week, I smoked marijuana and took pain killers often. Long story short I lost my baby boy at 20 weeks and blamed myself ever since.
The other story is one of a very close friend of mine, she had no clue she was pregnant until she was 6 months (she was on the pill and was overweight prior to getting pregnant). She drank every weekend with her fiancee, a few during the week as well. She stopped when she did find out but she was already so worried about dojng damage. But they couldnt do anything but wait.
A few months later she gave birth to a healthy baby boy with zero health issues.
Now knowing these two stories you are the one to decide on what to do with your life and that babys life. I thought I would never stop doing what I was and have the family I wanted but I was wrong, I got clean, got married and now have a baby on the way again.
You can beat that awful disease if you really want too, that is entirely up to you though,  nobody else but you.
I wish you the best and hope for the good health of you and your gift from God.

God bless

[MrsEribo]

desi35, you have to get some help.  Your addiction can cause your baby unnecessary,  life-long ramifications. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome is vastly detrimental to a developing fetus. Your baby deserves the opportunity to a healthy, normal life, and FAS would rob him/her of that opportunity. I have a lot of empathy for you because although I don't have an addiction, I know that it must be a difficult demon to defeat.  Just think, years to come, you don't want to see your child struggling through school, society, and life as a whole, knowing that you caused it.  God be with you, and that PRECIOUS, INNOCENT little life growing inside of you.

[1adrienne]

I pray that you get the help you need. Have you been to the Dr yet? Start taking care of yourself and the baby right now. You don't want your baby born with problems caused by you.

[abbb01]

I had an issue with drinking but as soon as the test was positive all alcohol went down the drain avoid restaurants that serve no bars find something new to do at home have ur so or a family member u trust have control of ur money and be with u when u go shopping for anything. I wanna drink everyday its always on the back of my mind but I will not make my kids suffer the rest of their lives for my wants or needs seek help from a professional and yes look up the effects of fas it may be a shock and scare u but u will know exactly what u may be doing to ur child. U can quit!

[ofcsjc]

Keep being brave and keep askibg for help from the people in your daily life.

[GigiBella]

You are brave for seeking help. Call a helpline and talk with your OB. Research info and pics on the effects of FETAL ALCOHOL SYNDROME-hopefully it will give you a wake up call. 7 months of drinking isn't worth a lifetime of disabilities. Good luck

[cfbaby]

First of calm down and breath.   You took the first steps already and reached out to us for help and support.  No one knows how many drinks may cause fas.  For some is one for others it doesn't happen.   However is best to stop.   I am an aoda counselor.   Talk to your ob.  Find an aa meeting and get into counceling. There are meds that can help and may be safe while prego.  Sobriety is a hard road. Find a sponsor as well.  I wish you good choices.

[nelra123]

Talk to your Dr. Go to AA.  There are meeting everywhere and all the time. If you continue to drinkyour baby will have fetal alcohol syndrome.  Just ask for help, there is a better life out there for you.

[mhv]

Your baby needs help!!!  You need to get it RIGHT NOW!!!  You baby DOES NOT deserve this!!  If you can't seek help for you, do it for your unborn child!!  Everyday you drink with your baby inside you, you are hurting it so much!  It's health is at risk!  Check into a facility today!!!  Give your baby a chance!!!!!!
Please!!!!!!!!!!!