39, first child, and a bit insecure

[siriuslydi]

I'm 39 and 6 weeks pregnant. I'm thrilled but to be honest am super nervous too. This will be my first but my husband's 3rd. He has a 10 and 12 year old that live with they're mom. I waited to marry late  to make sure I was with the right guy and I'm thrilled I did but here I am at 39. We were trying so this wasn't  an accident, but I feel old as I see all these posts from young women. Also, I just started a new job and am really the bread winner between us. I actually found out I was pregnant the evening after my first day at this job! Company policy says employees can only take a month leave if they've been here less than a year.  How am I going to be able to turn my child over to day care one month after I give birth? I don't know as I have a question,  I guess I just am looking for support and to not feel all alone. I know it wasn't the best time for us to try,  but my clock is really ticking, you know? And I looked ahead 10 years and felt regret if I never had a child. Any words of encouragement?

[kjskibum]

I am 43, first pregnancy, 6 weeks on Friday. We did not seek help to get pregnant, but have been blessed! I am accepting a new job tommarrow.....I too am nervous. A male co-worker/coach recommended I wait until I am 16 weeks/3 months to tell since anything can happen.
I have always put career first and am a very well paid professional so I get where your coming from....wanting to be honest, scared for job, may want to be home with baby etc. You are not alone#

[jlkmom]

It is becoming more common to have children when you are older. I just turned 40 and am pregnant with my first child too. Don't worry, you are not alone and remember there is never a good time. There will always be something going on so now is the perfect time for you! You and your husband will just have to take time and discuss and figure out how to make it work, at least you have 9 months to do that!

[jlkmom]

In the US you legally have 12 weeks FMLA, family medical leave act which is federal law, doesn't matter what state you are in. Some states have additional benefits and some employers may offer more.. You can take up to 12 weeks per year for pregnancy and child birth and your job cannot fire you or give any other repercussions.

[Isthatyoubob]

I would work really hard /professionally for the next few weeks and show the company how valuable you are. Then tell them how pregnant you are (& that you weren't pregnant when you took the job)  they might make some special allowances for you once they realise you are committed and a hard worker. They can't sack you because your preggers anyway.  
If you are the main breadwinner then your hubby could be the parent at home when you go back to work? Does he get more leave if he was the primary caregiver?

[yemaryam]

of course u feel insecure with the job. however, things happen for a reason and always we will find out how to balance our job , motherhood and other part of life. right now  the whole hormonal change in ur body aggrevates ur worry too. But 3 months from now u wouldn't worry too much like this. u will find out a way when close to time for the baby to come out. and yes u will regret it if u wont have any at all. And don't feel too old as well. if ur body couldn't make everything to embrace ur  lil one. it wouldn't happen at the beginning. this happens so something will happen to make up to the would be lost time or things. right now try to take care and listen to ur body

[Peachy1584]

First you aren't too old you're probably just tired from the baby right now. I am 37 and I know I am : ). Second if you are in the US you may want to check out the maternity leave act. They may only pay you for 4 weeks but I think they're required to give you a little longer (6weeks)? If you want to take it. Lastly I work evenings and hubs works days as I am not a daycare person. Perhaps it is something you guys could discuss? You have time to sort some things out so try not to pile it all on yourself at once and try to relax : )