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Pregnant?
I'm new to this community and didn't think I'd be on a site like this. I'm 48 (49 next month) and have 26, 23 and 20 boys from my first marriage.
Divorced for 18 years and having raised my sons alone, I've been perimenopausal for a couple of years. No period for 4 months until Dec., then 3 months of regular periods. I met a man in Feb. He's 50 and never had children. Before we became sexually intimate, I requested 'you show me yours and I'll show you mine' test results that ruled out STDs. In late March, I had an appt. with my gyno and pap, STDs and everything came back negative. I had a clean bill of health in that area.
My guy's STD tests were negative too. He visited me (he's in US and I'm not) Apr. 6-15. I was two weeks late for my period and we decided not to use condoms for the couple of times we were intimate (Apr. 6, 11 and 13), since I had my period, especially since it wasn't super heavy.
It's 6 weeks later and I still don't have my period. I've been feeling pregnant: thickening in uterine area, nausea on and off, lower back pain (which I never get with periods), heavier and bigger (although not sore) breasts, cramping (feels like my uterine area is expanding, pants are tight just in that area and my stretch marks are now more noticeable), hormone flushes (not as intense as hot flashes), on and off slight headaches, more frequent peeing (but no burning) and feeling just yukky.
Home pregnancy test last Sunday was negative, although I saw what looked like some really faint shadowing as a vertical line (which would mean I'm pregnant. Not prominent enough to tell though). Went to the walk-in clinic after work today (so didn't use first morning urine) and bladder infection and pregnancy results are negative.
Am going for blood work and more urine culture tomorrow, to follow up.
Feeling quite ambivalent, as my sons are grown and it's been a long haul. However, there is such love between this man and me.
With my other pregnancies, I never had a false positive, so don't know what to think?
If I'm not pregnant, I'm wondering what's up. It's the not knowing that's the hardest.
Divorced for 18 years and having raised my sons alone, I've been perimenopausal for a couple of years. No period for 4 months until Dec., then 3 months of regular periods. I met a man in Feb. He's 50 and never had children. Before we became sexually intimate, I requested 'you show me yours and I'll show you mine' test results that ruled out STDs. In late March, I had an appt. with my gyno and pap, STDs and everything came back negative. I had a clean bill of health in that area.
My guy's STD tests were negative too. He visited me (he's in US and I'm not) Apr. 6-15. I was two weeks late for my period and we decided not to use condoms for the couple of times we were intimate (Apr. 6, 11 and 13), since I had my period, especially since it wasn't super heavy.
It's 6 weeks later and I still don't have my period. I've been feeling pregnant: thickening in uterine area, nausea on and off, lower back pain (which I never get with periods), heavier and bigger (although not sore) breasts, cramping (feels like my uterine area is expanding, pants are tight just in that area and my stretch marks are now more noticeable), hormone flushes (not as intense as hot flashes), on and off slight headaches, more frequent peeing (but no burning) and feeling just yukky.
Home pregnancy test last Sunday was negative, although I saw what looked like some really faint shadowing as a vertical line (which would mean I'm pregnant. Not prominent enough to tell though). Went to the walk-in clinic after work today (so didn't use first morning urine) and bladder infection and pregnancy results are negative.
Am going for blood work and more urine culture tomorrow, to follow up.
Feeling quite ambivalent, as my sons are grown and it's been a long haul. However, there is such love between this man and me.
With my other pregnancies, I never had a false positive, so don't know what to think?
If I'm not pregnant, I'm wondering what's up. It's the not knowing that's the hardest.
Well, it's good your going for blood work to find out for certain. I will tell you that many home pregnancy tests show a shadow, especially the blue dye tests. There is always a line there right? It's the presence of hcg that makes them dark, so it's not uncommon to get a phantom line. Not saying it wasn't a positive, just that those shadows can drive you crazy.
If your not pregnant, then I would suspect it's just the irregular periods that many of us begin to experience as we move into our mid to late 40's. Given that you had a 4 month stretch with no period, then 3 months with and knowing you are perimenopausal, there is a good chance that is what is happening now. Although it can happen, naturally conceived pregnancy in late 40's is not very common.
I do hope this turns out exactly the way you wish it too, and I'm very happy for you that you have met someone so right for you! All the best to you.
If your not pregnant, then I would suspect it's just the irregular periods that many of us begin to experience as we move into our mid to late 40's. Given that you had a 4 month stretch with no period, then 3 months with and knowing you are perimenopausal, there is a good chance that is what is happening now. Although it can happen, naturally conceived pregnancy in late 40's is not very common.
I do hope this turns out exactly the way you wish it too, and I'm very happy for you that you have met someone so right for you! All the best to you.
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