HIGH NT CVS Clear

[Whereto]

I am 15 wks and the NT revealed a 8.4mm measurement. Fortunately I was able to have a CVS immediately which came back all clear for chromosomal abnormalities. My OB seems very relaxed but everything I have read suggests there is a very low chance of a positive outcome. I have my 16wk scan this tuesday and am very nervous. How worried should I be? What should I be looking out for and asking?

[happynifer]

lean on whoever you can, it's never an easy decision.
i think most of us are having bad dreams, it's part of the fun of pregnancy.
if the baby is looking to be a typical baby, have you considered adoption? you are half way through your pregnancy at this point....
something else to think about...
good luck with whatever you decide.

[Whereto]

Can't believe I am 19 weeks today. He is wriggling and kicking like mad and I still haven't decided what to do. I'm so, so scared now and feeling so down. I'm having the most horrendous dreams and feel so alone.

[adgal]

I'm glad he is trying to be supportive..you so badly need that right now.  I think for many, actually seeing their child on that screen is a reality check...that is their flesh and blood after all.  So I am glad to hear it.

I also think it's great you are getting all the information.  I personally hope you choose not to terminate, but do respect that that is your right if you do, and I don't live your life so not for me to say.  I truly hope they can give you some sort of true diagnoses so that you are not left wondering either way.  I am so hoping for a positive outcome for you.  I am keeping everything crossed and sending lots of positive thoughts your way!!

[Whereto]

I most certainly know what you mean and wonder that myself often. The doctors acknowledged that with such a slim chance for a good outcome (based on statistics) I would probably feel more comfortable in terminating if I could see something physically wrong. Of course not in a million years do I want something wrong wih him - but I can relate to what they are saying for sure.
Have just returned from the "big smoke" today. Yesterday I had the fetal echo and the heart is showing to be perfectly normal however the nuchal thickness is persisting (really not a good sign I was told.) However I had an appointment with my ob straight after and she seemed (as always) not at all worried about that. I am getting such conflicting opinions. I was also told from my infection screening that I showed evidence of a past CMV infection which as long as not acquired or a recurrent infection in the first or third trimester poses no real threat. They are "reasonably" confident that this is not an issue - is extremely common for adults to test positive to this virus -  and is seemingly not pertinent to this pregnancy. Even if it were recurrent there is an extremely low chance of a related defect.
I now have two appointments on monday - the morphology scan - then an appointment with the genetics people. They are going to basically provide me with statistics and info to take home and consider. With nothing wrong in my family and a slim likelihood in the fathers, apparently due to the distant nature of his affected relatives, there is nothing they can really test for. In Australia the test for Noonan's is actually sent off to America and takes more than a few weeks to get the results - not an option for me now - I am too far along.
If you can have any sense of humour in this scenario at all I had to have a little giggle to myself when the father came to my OB app't. He has quite a broad neck, which I have noticed before, also a symptom of Noonan's Syndrome, and in discussing it she looked at him and said "ooh actually you have quite a broad neck don't you". Then when the genetics people rang they asked if he was coming and if not can I bring a photo of him. She must have told them. He was gobsmacked. He is very good looking (aware of it - but not bigheaded), verging on obsessive compulsive with cleanliness and a little vain about his body so for him this was a tad hard to hear. But after all I have copped from him I couldn't help but feel a little amused by it! That being said he is trying pretty hard to be there for me right now. Having dragged him along to a couple of appointments has been a very healthy reality check for him. To see it on the screen was a massive wake up call.
Come monday all avenues for answers will have been exhausted. Fingers crossed for a good ultrasound! Then it's time to weigh up all the info before me once and for all.

[adgal]

I honestly wouldn't worry about that.  It sounds like the father of your baby is putting way more stress on you then need be.  I think you have convinced yourself (based on the NT measurment) that something is seriously wrong and now you are looking for it.  I don't mean that negatively or to hurt you...I did much the same thing.  I understand.  I just think you need to slow down a bit.  If you choose, take the tests offered.  Then recognize that whatever is going on (if anything at all) is just as likely a very minor issue as a major one.  I hope that made sense, I know what I mean..jsut having a hard time finding the right words.  I worried so much, and honestly, all it did was take away from the beauty and miracle of feeling my baby grow inside of me.  It sounds like the father does not want this baby...so be careful. He may be telling you things that are less then factual to try to get you to terminate.  Try not to jump to conclusions.  (((hugs))) to you. I know this cannot be an easy time.

[thisbabygrama2one]

Unbleaveable news from the "father".   Im hoping he's not just yanken you around because he doesnt want to have the baby in the first place.or mabie i hope he's just being a jerk, and it's not true at all.  I just hate to see you going through something like this.  Your a smart lady, your going to whats right for you.  Just want to send you some support and comfort while waiting.   I just wish the best for you