Heartbroken...

[firstladynyl]

I prayed and prayed. Practically begged God to bless me with the one thing to complete my husband. I had 3 girls and one son prior. He had 3 girls prior. We hadour 1st baby girl together last year. Im 38. High risk. 6th and last pregnancy. 13 weeks. I get the call today with the gender revealing. And my heart fell to the floor when she said its a "girl".  Another girl...no chances of me ever being the one to carry his son.  The perfect man. Husband. And I cant give him that. Knowing that deep down he was soo hoping to have a son of his own.  I couldnt stop crying.  I know its not my fault or determination but the fact that I really wanted to give him that gift makes me feel like a looser that I cant and never will after this...

[Mama6hijos]

I am sorry to hear your story!! I do understand but before I explain, actually your not in fault for the gender of the baby. Males carry the gender. Therefore it's not your fault by no means, it's God's plans!! I am on my 7th pregnancy, my first daughter passed away in 2004. Me and my husband have now living 4 boys and 1 girl, expecting another baby boy. I  think a child is a blessing, regardless of the gender but if I didn't have my one and little girl, I would probably be devastated!!!! Be strong and thankful that your were able to conceive all together!! Blessings!

[Ms_Johnson2014]

I'm sorry that happen to you :( I'm in the same boat. I'm 28 wks I have two girls of my own ages 12 and 7. My partner has two girls of his own ages 12 and 7. He really wanted a baby boy so bad and i wanted to be the one to give it to him even though I wanted another girl I was willing to accept a boy. Once I got the u/s and I found out it was another girl I was sad a lil but relieved at the same time because I love girls. My partner was so disappointed and discouraged That it would be five girls for us together.He soon got over it and now he's happy to soon have another girl on the way. I even told him I would compromise With him and give him a son BTW I'm 35 will be 36 next month..but he said no And he was done. I told him maybe he just can't make boys. So no more babies for me either. Just keep your head up hun and good luck with your pregnancy

[wayfunmommy]

You are giving him a gift, hun.  I know it can be disappointing at first but try to see the blessing that she is.

[tats_87]

Girl, imagine this: my husband is the VERY last man in his family or with his last name PERIOD. You would think he would be talking to my belly daily and willing a son out of it, but NO, he says he hopes it's a girl. I hope it's a boy, so I never have to do this again. Being pregnant *****. I'm sorry that you are disappointed, maybe she will be a tomboy and the son he never had ;)

[rosealie23]

I am pregnant with our sixth baby. We have five girls. I have a anatomy scan on the 22nd of this month and will hopefully find out the gender... my husband want a boy also... I think we will have nothing but girls.

[wiction]

Deal with it. If she is healthy
be grateful.

[Sheba27]

Don't worry mama. Remember girls can do anything boys can do. Every baby is a whole new adventure. :)

[stacey33k]

I am in the same boat I am 37 this is my 7th pregnancy and I have all boys I know I will be disappointed if this is a boy also I am 15 weeks now I haven't done my second ultrasound yet so hopefully. I was disappointed with my last one but got over it very fast when I started shopping and getting his things together I am going to get a tubal ligation after this baby so fingers crossed. You will get over it and love your daughter just as if she was the son you wanted

[mogadi]

I felt the same when I found out I'm having a girl my third, me and my husband wanted a boy and it was so heart breaking to find out we are are having our third girl and as it is our last child . I'm still hurt but I guess seeing her little face will help me to accept. Let's just be happy we are having healthy babies, and It was God's will

[judith19841984]

wow this is my six pregnancy I have all boys I cry so much woth my last boy when I when to find out the sex and they say is a boy I couldn't hold my tears and my husband want a baby girl I pray to god all the time and have faith that this is my girl have a name for her 2 I have a ultrasound nnext mont but b strong everything happens for a reason so just ask god for a healthy baby wich is the most important thing now

[slm39]

I understand your disappointment, but just to put some perspective on it, I have friends going through IVF and the real heartbreak is attempt after attempt, month after month, year after year with no child at all. There are also women suffering miscarriage, and in my opinion, THAT is where the heartbreak is. Just imagine the emptiness of wanting even 1 child and not being able to. Please love the fact that you are blessed with another beautiful life. I'm not telling you off, just begging you to rethink your attitude. Good luck with the pregnancy :-)

[arizona1993]

^^^ Truth

[alid32]

Agree with slm39.

[knufrio]

I'm surprised that nobody else pointed this out, but the margin of error for determining gender at 13 weeks is pretty great. I know you are distraught and if you are carrying a girl it will still be your child, a combination of you and your wonderful husband. However I'd strongly advise you to have them confirm the gender later on in the pregnancy, since its not always correct this early on.

[firstladynyl]

I truly appreciate u all taking the time to confort me  and some "scold" me. I never said I dont want this child. Girl or boy is a blessing.  I may have had to mention my full story. This is my six successful pregnancy this far but I have been pregnant 14 times.  I like many know the pain of loosing your child. One of which was beaten out of me by a f-up step father. Ive been thru Alot ladies.  AFTER all of my suffering and abusive relationships  I finally meet a man who married me despite my history. Despite I already had four children. My sadness simply comes from not being able to give the one man who truly deserves a son. That simple. Im entitled to the disappointment. And those ladies on here who've had several children like me can relate. I have ALWAYS been a great mother and love ALL my children equally.  And will love this one just the same. But the disappointment still stands. Im human. But there is nothing I wouldnt do to make sure she is loved and healthy. Thank u again

[firstladynyl]

hey, thanks for replying, i have a question.  the gender exam i had was via blood and from what i was told is 99% effective.  Have you heard of or know someone where this was incorrect? please let me know.  Thank you.

[wayfunmommy]

If you were told gender via a genetic blood test, it is more than likely correct.

[knufrio]

Yes the blood tests are accurate as they determine the chromosomes. Some people get told on ultrasound that early though and those are often incorrect so early in pregnancy.  

[meme1isme]

Its his sperm that determines that anyways. U really shouldn't feel like this.

[firstladynyl]

dang almost had a bit of hope, but thanks anyway, truly appreciate it

[firstladynyl]

i understand that clearly, even he said he feels like he failed me and that its not my fault, but it still doesn't make me feel bad that I can't share that experience with him you know..:(  I will love my child regardless, I have amazingly talented and beautiful girls God has blessed me with, but doesn't shake the fact that this time I really wanted a boy.  wish folks would just understand, I dont regret my child for one minute.

[irinasmb]

I'm sorry, but I really can't understand this.  I find it a bit unfair to all your girls.  It's like mommy & daddy weren't satisfied with me so they kept having more babies.  That can be detrimental to a kid.  Kids CAN and WILL pick up on things like that.  What if one of your girls ends up detriment in something great with her life that is beyond beleif? Cure a disease? Saves lives?  Invents something that will revolutionize our lives?  Would it really matter what gender she is?  It breaks my heart when ever I see couples keep having children just for a certain gender.  And it's not fair to the siblings. So sad.

[mondaysgirl]

I think the only people who truly understand your position Hon is those who have walked in the same shoes we know you'll love this child like u do the others, you can't help how u feel and not being able to voice thus without fear of judgement is unhealthy, sorry your feel I g like you are good luck in your future XX

[JulieKuhnert]

I understand you're disappointed, but really, you should be happy that you've been able to have children at all. There are women out there who try for years, any would give anything to just have one, you have what. ..4 children, pregnant with your 5th?And you're whining about it being a girl, be happy God blessed you with children, you could be like the many people out there who are infertile.  My husband an I are going for a girl, but you know what, I will be over the moon no matter what gender they tell me. It's been 2 years we've been trying.