Sad News

[Super_sally888]

Sad news.  Had u/s this morning (I suspected something and have started having cramping).  Baby only measures 6 weeks (with no heartbeat) when he should measure 9 1/2 weeks.

I am expecting a natural miscarriage soon.

I am sad, but know this is nature's way of giving me a healthy baby.  I will try again straight away.

I guess I can go join the 40+TTC group as well now.

Hugs to all.

[rdh1981]

Awwee, I am sorry! I wish you nothing but the best! Hopefully you will not need fertility treatments in January because you will already be preggo!!!

Lots of love!

[Super_sally888]

Was trying to wait this miscarriage out and let it happen naturally. Am already bleeding since Saturday.

But my wbc are high (indicating possible infection) so my obe has scheduled me for a D&C tomorrow morning (and she wants to give me IV antibiotics at the same time).  So this is the end of this pregnancy.

Am sad.  Am also glad it will be over.

She says we can try again naturally straight away - but can start fertility treatment again by January.

[Super_sally888]

Thanks so much everyone.  I really appreciate your support.

I am still waiting for the miscarriage.  I want it to happen naturally when my body is ready.  It has to happen soon!  My obe is ok for me to wait up for another 1 - 2 weeks, but I'm required to do regular blood tests to make sure there is no infection / problem.

The waiting is the hardest.  I don't feel pregnant any more.  But I really want to get on with trying again.

[Tarobinc]

Sally, I am so sorry this happened.  You have a great spirit; keep it up.  I hope you can resume ttc soon.

[mi_amorcito]

SO sorry for you loss. I know how you feel I was 6 weeks and they did a D/C. We can try again ...So my heart goes out to you

Hugs
Deb

[keisharae]

Oh my,
Sooo sorry 2 hear of your loss but i have good news so keep your head up
i am 40 and havve a 20yr old daughter,  anyway since my daughter 20 yrs ago i have had 4 miscarriages...I am now pregnant almost 5mths with a healthy boy...
Dont give up you can do it..Keep trying because i did and bingo it happened..

goodluck i wish you a baby 2 be real real soon

[Ecologic]

Sorry about the sad news, it's always so hard. I wish you an other BFP very fast!

[cid18]

Im very sorry Sally:( it's alright, keep your head up. God will bring that miracle into your life. Best of luck:)

[jamrock1971]

So sorry,my prayers are with you.

[mum2beagain]

I am sorry for your loss, take care.

[rdh1981]

I am truly sorry! With such a great attitude, I have feeling good things will come your way very soon!

((((HUGS))))

[mjmom69]

I'm so sorry.

[Birds71]

I am so sorry for your loss.  And I'll chime in with everyone else and say that a loss is just as sad no matter how far along you were.  We become emotionally attached from day one!

I hope everything works out just as you wish - wishing you a quick recovery and happy eggies!!  :)

[Super_sally888]

Thanks everyone.  This is a very much wanted and planned for baby.  I am saying my silent goodbyes to her.

Atlantisea, you are so right.  Even at 9 1/2 weeks we are very attached to them and mourn their loss.  I did't tell very many people, thankfully.  But I have to break it to my family....

I am very sure of the dates, as it was an IUI baby.

Now that I know it isn't viable I hope the miscarriage will happen quickly (I want a natural miscarriage rather than D&C unless absolutely necessary).  Am having cramping but no spotting yet.  But I have to travel for work on Thursday out of the country. I will be bringing some of my daughter's diapers!!!  TMI.  I am going to try again immediately - I hope by November.  And if I am successful straight away, I can just have an equivalent 12 month pregnancy. :)

Given my age I feel that time is short.  The good thing at least I know I can pregnant and don't seem to have a problem with progesterone levels etc.

Now, I just need a healthy egg and sperm to do their dancing and bless me to be their mother!!

[RavenT]

Sorry to hear... Sending you lots of SSBD to help you stick!!! In my prayers!!!

[worried2451]

So sorry for your loss. Take care and be kind to yourself. All my best.

[adgal]

Oh Sally, I am so sorry.  I know it hurts.  I am glad you are able to maintain such a healthy outlook on the whole situation.  Please take good care of yourself.  Atlantisea is so right..support is here if you need it.  I too hated it when people thought it shouldn't bother me because it was early...a wanted baby is a wanted baby, no matter how long we have them with us.  Thinking of you.  

[Atlantisea]

Oh no Sally! That is awful! Are you certain of your dates? I hope you have plenty of support. I lost one at nine 1/2 weeks and everyone around me was acting like it wasn't important as I wasn't very far along. Was it IVF or natural?

I hope you are wrong and everything turns out ok!
*Hugs*
Amanda xxx