baby daddy drama

[millie069]

So I had my bebe on may 1st. 5 weeks early. His dad came and seen him Friday morning. Smelling like last nights alcohol. Then when he left said he'd come see him that evening. Opted to come Saturday aftn instead. Didnt hear from him till 7pm that night asking how we were and I lost it... cuz I knew he was out drinking with his gf and friends. Never heard from him Sunday. Now that its during the week he wants to come see him and im so mad and hurt by him that I just keep saying no and to pretty much beat it. Am I being a bad parent for not wanting him around? He says I should be happy hes trying to be in his life and trying to be apologetic.   But seriously??? His actions and options disgusted me this wknd.

[arcamp83]

What teelyn19 said, he will probably not meet your expectations of what a father should do or be but he still has a right to his child and his child has a right to a father.  Maybe he will mature in time. Let him at least establish some kind of relationship with the child so that t th email child doesn't grow up with a stranger as a father.

[AMac22]

The father figure you keep around your child is goin to become. Your baby is probably small now but still u need to be alert about who u allow around your baby. Even you, have to lead by example. My babys dad is kinda in the same boat and i refuse to let him see him child unless he brings it to court. What your child sees growing up determines a lot in his/her life.

[TeeLynn19]

Although he seems to be the biggest loser of all time, please don't deny him the right to see his child. For one, u may have to put him on child support or have a custody battle and u don't want him to have anything against u if it comes down to it. And for two, denying him the right to see the baby will only hurt the baby in the end. I know it hurts u that he'd act so irresponsible, but now that you've seen how things are gonna be, u need to buckle down and get ready to be the best mom u can be. I'm praying for u!

[Jrob0530]

He sounds immature, a child is not a matter of convenience. He needs to step up or kick rocks and let someone else do the job he couldn't do.

[abbb01]

If he's only available when its convenient then he's not a dad and having a premie baby and its more important to be at the bar? He sounds kinda worthless whether u guys are together or not his child is in a scary situation.  I hope u and ur lo are doing ok

[Baby_Rockin_onhisway]

I dont think your being a bad parent because at the end of the day he shouldnt be out drinking an being with friends when he has a kid that he needs to be with 24/7 & he should be helping you out you just had a baby an he is the dad an he should be there for the both of you guys he has a family now. I wouldn't let my baby daddy see my son if he was acting like that an lying, because if he really cared he would grow up an put his child first before friends alcohol or his gf.