Scared and confused

[Fallennnm]

So me and my husband have been having problems in our marriAge due to my family issues as well as our problems as well. He sees how screwed up my family is and sees how disgracing my sister was to her family and says I'm just like her because she is my sister and always tells me when he is mad that I'm a hoar like her and that he is gonna divorce me. My real problem is the fact he texts with a lot of girls on messenger and Facebook and caught him a few times having phone sex. In our culture when a girl disgraces her family she is put upon and no one respects that family no more. So every time I catch him doing something bad he turns the argument back to what my sister did and says I'm just showing u what your sister does. I told him its over I want a divorce he said ok but I'm taking our kids and the one still to come and u will never see them again. In our culture they can do that sometimes especially if they find a reason why they should stay with the family. What should I do? Should I stay with him and be depressed all my life and I'm only 29 or leave and pray for the best. I just think ill die if I can't see my kids

[Fallennnm]

I'm Muslim but I was born in the United States. I don't have no support from my brothers at all and they are lost in there own world. I haven't finished college I hv 2 more years to go and I don't work. I hv money but it won't last me and my kids for long.  My parents are in Yemen and if I go there with my kids his family can and will go in our home and take them away from me. If I stay in the USA he can't do nothing but I don't have anyone to help me. I'm just so scared I can't go out and look for a job he won't let me and if I do leave him it will be hard not having a job right away and my baby coming soon. Oh god I can live the rest of my life without a man but I can't live a single day without my babies. I pray that god helps me through this trouble time of mine. I do hv a plan if worst comes to show. But my plan is a long shot but it might work.

[lizzieadam]

I wish u all the best. You  sound a very strong person and i hope all works out for u and yoir kids.

[Fallennnm]

Lizzieadam thank you

[maybay]

I understand this can be very difficult. There are many different organizations here in the states that can help. I undetstand muslim culture a little I took a class not to long ago at college. Try to take a deep breath and relax.  I wish I could be more help to you.  

[NatFox]

I am surprised your btothers are not helping you!! I believe you can complain to his parents aswell....

[michelle81781]

The best I can suggest is wait until you are healed from having your baby and then go to women in need. They can help you with a place to stay and a lawyer. You will be able to get a job and child care as well with thier help. there are many agiencys here that can help you and he can not take the children with out a very good reason. Would your family be able to come here to help you at all?