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Unhappy abt baby gender
Just left the doctor and found out I'm having a girl. I never wanted a girl and instantly I felt a lose of connection with the baby. Normally I'm very happy n sending the ultrasound pics out quick but I personally haven't looked at them myself. All my life I imagined having a son because honestly motherhood can be scary and ive helper raise my nephews. Seeing my female cousins grow up has been a disaster in my family. I just don't feel like I can be a great mother 2 a little girl. I'm so unhappy and upset right now its baffling smh All I want to do is cry but unfortunately I have to hold off because its time for work. Just want to know what am I honestly experiencing.
Awww that's quite ok, a lot of people experience that disappoint. I was terribly disappointed when I found out I was having a boy, I was literally in the verge of tears. I stopped rubbing my belly and singing, I just wanted this pregnancy to be over. But now I am growing excited about meeting my lil man, not like I can do anything to change his sex... but good luck to you and I hope eventually your emotions change
I'm sorry you aren't having a boy like you wanted, but a baby is a gift from God and you should be thankful as many women can't have a baby when they want too. Once you hold your little girl in your arms, it will change your world and you should love her unconditionally!
I'm having my third girl, I really wanted a boy cuz this is also my last.. but I'm super excited for my babygirl. I think the main thing u have to focus on.. is that ur baby is healthy! A lot of women are stressing right now bcuz their babies have holes in their heart and many other issues. Being a mother is going to come to you, and how children grow up and behave has a lot to do with how their parented, so just bcuz u see girls as a hassle or bad or whatever, doesn't mean that's how ur daughters going to be. Just give it some time and focus on having a healthy, happy baby.. I'm sure the connection, love and happiness will come.
I know how you feel my third child I cried!!!!! I already had two girls so when she told me its a girl ....again! I just cried but you will come around I think its just that we get the thought of having a specific gender so we are heart broken when its the opposite! So after her I needed up having my son but the ironic thing is I cried because he was a boy!!! Lol Smh I got son used to the ideal of having all girls ..but now I'm having anthor. Girl I'm fine either way but was secretly hoping for a lil brother for my son but I'm happy either way!!!
I felt same way...I am 31 weeks one have a 5 year old daughter 4 year old stepdaughter and was hoping so bad for a boy, my 20 week ultrasound she told me she thinks it's a girl, I instantly just wanted to cry..I felt like that for a couple days, my.husband got so frustrated.I felt crushed but then felt guilty like I was taking her for granted But as time goes on it gets better. I couldn't be more excited now to meet my little maiya. I promise it will get better and female or male you'll be a great mother. The connection you have with your little one is ssomething indescribable.
I'm having my 6th daughter and I cried all day when I found out!! My doctor saidto feel that way was completely normal....well I'm due January 19th and haven't bought not one thing for this baby and haven't even had a baby shower due to lack of people's interests. I had a baby DEC 4 2013, she just turned 1, and barely anyone came to her shower!! I wanted a boy 3 pregnancies ago.
its natural feeling but believe all this disppointment will turn into unconditional love and joy when u get to hold your princess for fhe first time after birth! U are still very lucky to have a child some couples are deprived of this blessing so take it on a chin and enjoy this time of your life!
I'm having my third son, when I found out I cried, I really wanted a girl especially since I had already planned that it would be the last.. I felt bad because I lost interest in my pregnancy. A couple a months ago my Dr told me that there was something wrong with my baby boy.. That day I cried because I felt so guilty! Luckily it was just a scare my baby is fine! I took this as a message from God that I need to be happy about my little blessing no matter what the sex is.. We decided to name him Gabriel "messenger of God" ;)
Your experiencing fear and hormones. You see all the disasters with girls in your life and are struggling connecting because you can't see yourself stretching beyond what you know. It will pass. Give yourself a break. You never let yourself think realistically about having a girl. But clearly God thinks you can handle a girl, so be proud and know that this little one will be the 1st girl with and good head on her shoulders because you're going to raise her that way.
It will pass. Just give it time.
It will pass. Just give it time.
Your experiencing fear and hormones. You see all the disasters with girls in your life and are struggling connecting because you can't see yourself stretching beyond what you know. It will pass. Give yourself a break. You never let yourself think realistically about having a girl. But clearly God thinks you can handle a girl, so be proud and know that this little one will be the 1st girl with and good head on her shoulders because you're going to raise her that way.
It will pass. Just give it time.
It will pass. Just give it time.
Well, the good thing is that it's ur first, so maybe the next one will be a boy :)
I had a boy first and my boyfriend has two girls from a previous relationship. I wanted to give him his first boy and when I found out it was a girl I also felt detached. I feel so guilty and ungrateful because I'm lucky to bare children and I'm taking it for granted. I've come around a lot since I thought about the things that are going to make my relationship different than with my son. I had it hard growing up with my mother being an addict. I was never close to her so I am scared. I think about how much different I am than her and how I will promise my baby girl I will not raise her like my mom or anyone else for that matter. You WILL be a great mom. Having a girl is hard, I can totally relate. Just keep your head up, think about what you're gonna be doing different than what someone else did rasing your nieces. That baby will love you more than you know. Once you see her face it'll change. She's so helpless and when you hear and see her crying for you your heart will melt. Think positive my dear. ♡ :) sending lots of love and hugs your way.
I had 3 girls back to back then finally a boy and now a girl again. You will naturally love your child no matter the gender. My sister wanted a boy so bad and ended up having a girl. She says all the time she couldnt imagine life without her little girl now.
Sorry you feel that way hun. Try to relax and think about all the beautiful things baby girls bring to life. Boys are awesome too but girls rock. I'm expecting my second baby but it's a girl this time around. I wanted a boy so my son can have a partner in everything but I got my little girl and I'm also thrilledabout her
That's actually sad for the ladies who just want a healthy baby. Some can't get pregnant some have health issues or birth defects and others have miscarriages way to make them feel worse..
Why would you have another baby shower?? One yes two maybe after that it's just selfish..
Awe can we all be more supportive of each other? All of us are hormonal and going through a lot of life changes. I don't think it is necessary to say she is selfish for wanting another shower either. I am on baby number 5 and every time, my family has insisted on throwing me a shower. I know so many women who have had 3 or more babies and a shower each time.
Maybe it's just me but when I see posts like this I don't understand how you can be so upset over the gender of your child I've had 2 miscarriages and I want nothing more than just to have a healthy child the gender never really mattered to me I'm going to love my baby regardless if it's a boy or a girl
I go Friday to try and find out what I'm having. I'll be 15w 5d. I want a girl and I will be devasted if it's a boy even tho its what my husband wants. I have a daughter already. She will be 1 wednesday. She's my world.
Shame on you for being rude in someone elses time of need..
I agree Tavi12
My husband and I honestly was hoping for a boy because we have two girls already. Once we did the gender ultrasound and it was another girl we instantly fell in love with her. I'm sorry you feel the way you do but hopefully that will change. You may need to speak with a counselor or someone if it's so bad you want to cry and became disattached because that's not healthy. They feel what we feel and like it or not she's coming
So judgemental...I understand there are women that are waiting for their blessing to come their way in the form of a baby, but that does not change the way other moms are feeling nor does it limit their desire for support on the things that is important for them.
Who's passing judgment Mrs_MP3!??
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