Baby dad' s mom dilemma

[1st_pregnancy27]

Ok so my baby dad already has a son and I'm currently 37 weeks pregnant. His mom is constantly buying stuff for his son but has not bought one item for my child. She supposedly is supposed to get him a bassinet but that has not happened her response is always " well dang is the baby here yet" so me being me I take offense to that and my mindset is you don't have to get anything for my child "KEEP YA MONEY". So I went online just now and purchased my baby a bassinet,  now my baby daddy is pissed at me because his MaMa said she was gone get the bassinet but the vibe I get is that's bs because she wouldve made a move by now. I don't feel any good vibes coming from her when it comes to purchasing stuff for our child. And when she buys stuff for his other son I feel like she tries to kinda rub it in my face. What do you ladies think about that?

[specialmom]

By the way, what is your definition of petty?  

[1st_pregnancy27]

Petty is her actions. She doesn't acknowledge my child. When I'm mad at my boyfriend she tells him that I'm going to take my child away from them. If a person comes to your residence and not once ask about their unborn grandchild then thats a problem. I have a problem with her not buying her granchild anything at all. She went to build a bear with my boyfriend's son she could have build her grandson his first beat....anything so far the first impressions of her actions towards my son is no bueno.....then sometimes she say things like she not going to watch my son. I keep my mouth shut and listen....

[specialmom]

Oh my.   I've really run out of things to say.  If you end up staying with this man, "his" son is your step son and I'd open your heart to him.  How about YOU take him to build a bear??  

[specialmom]

So, I just want to add that my opinion is based on experience.  I am not a person that gets wrapped up in this which is what I would consider petty.   A grandma who takes a child to build a bear and not coming home with a bear for your unborn baby is kind of petty to me.  That's why I asked.  You are expecting things of her that are monetary or 'things' like presents and I don't get that.

Now, If you wrote that your feelings are hurt because you love your step son and you are so glad that your baby daddy's mom is being a good grandma and you worry she isn't happy about your baby because she has made comments that make you think she doesn't want you to have the baby, etc., then I'd get this more.  

My mother in law had 18 grand kids before mine were born.  I never resented her for being close to her grandkids.  I just figured once mine was born, she'd love mine too.  So, I guess I just don't get the competition that you are having with your son's other child.  

I hope you get over it.  For everyone's sake.

But either way, you are entitled to feel as you do and to do as you wish.  I am just giving an opinion because you asked.  Not to be difficult to you or anything like that.  I respect whatever you want to do even if it isn't what I'd choose for myself.  good luck