Husband and porn

[adri1413]

Ok, so here's my situation. My husband has looked at porn before in the past and I don't agree with it. I feel like him looking at porn is in a way saying that I'm not good enough for him or satisfying him in that way. Like my body is not attractive to him so he has to look elsewhere. Anyway so I've explained to him how I feel about it and he apologized and said he understood. Today I found porn on his phone AGAIN. He said it's from the last time but that's a lie cuz the last time I deleted it in front of him. He is acting like he doesn't care and oh well. And the said thing is I just told him this morning how I feel distant from him and I didn't like how we weren't having sex and he said sorry and nothing's going on and he will make a
a better effort. But ugh it makes me so mad and I more upset he's lieing about it and shows no remorse for me. I'm 14 weeks pregnant. already gained about 8 lbs, have stretch marks galore showing from previous pregnancies, exhausted all day, working full time and taking care of kids now this is just icing on the cake. I feel like crying. Sorry so long, needed to vent. Thanks ladies!

[jenandrandal]

https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/gq-magazine-tells-men-quit-watching-porn-before-it-ruins-your-sex-life

[jenandrandal]

For every one who says it's normal and ok, check out this article. I have had my own past experiences with this, and a few recent with my now hubby...when I get questions about and our sex life is compared to what is seen in porn...porn is fake, but men begun to believe that this is how their sex life should be and it puts us in a **** position. Because of this my ex husband cheated on me, more then once, because compared to the porn he watched...our sex life was boring.

[Brynn_Taylor]

Me and my husband watch porn together and seprately. You're thinking way too much into it. It is not a form of cheating as he hasn't broken any vows. Let me put it this way. Guys are al2ays horny whereas girls are not so why not let him get off some other way sobhe doesn't bother you as much. I love porn and I love that him and I share that together even now when I'm 9 months pregnant.

[BonitaMichelle]

I think you should be more open to him watching it. Watch it with him. As his wife you should want to satisfy him sexually.

[1NAMILLION]

EVERYTHING is completely wrong with a MARRIED man checking out porn and by no means should anyone be so laxed about it transpiring.  I PERSONALLY feel like some women tell themselves that all men watch porn because they already know that whomever they are with will not stop it, so, it just makes them feel better about having to accept it.  That's just as bad as saying that all men cheat, deal with it....NO..NO & NO...that's not true, men have the ability to make sound decisions as well and sometimes don't because women pick and choose what "male expected behavior" they decide to give a pass on.  As a legal union, if you two have prediscussed expectations about morally or religiously avoiding scenarios like this, then hubby has severely violated the trust and security you had within him which will take time to repair and that's only if he's remorseful and never does it again which can be shown via action over time. Pornography is a gateway invitation into a world of temptation and lust that can lead to divorce, so, do not allow hubby to brush this under the rug...he has some serious repairs and heartfelt apologies/actions to make and don't let him think that he doesn't.  Unfortunately,  passiveness has a tendency to make men feel validated in their actions or decisions when they don't experience societal consequences. ..hold his "donkey" accountable because once the trust is gone and you continue to feel devalued or replaced by his unhealthy porn watching...the relationship is doomed. Needless to say, put your foot down and demand that he makes changes effective immediately and that he understands the severity of his actions and let.him know that his behavior does entail consequences.  Always remember,  men only do what they either think that they can get away with or what they know they can get away with...stop him in his tracks before it is too late...he needs to know that as a MARRIED man, his behavior will not be tolerated at all.

Congrats on baby and best wishes..I hope that everything works out!!!

[jaloveslorelei]

I really think a lot of woman are acting in a bullying manner. You act as though porn isn't a religious issue or a moral issue, or as thought the women opposed are prudes. Its perfectly acceptable and honerable to vow to not watch porn or for a woman to have that expectation of thier loved one. Like many social issues I think watching porn is a slippery slope. Its human nature to push for more, so if porn, getting off to other girls, watching other woman touch themselves, whatever it may be, is acceptable to you, then where do you draw the line and how clear is that line. You can say it's tv but what is the difference between being a peeping tom and watching other couples **** or a girl masterbate.. is it the permission to watch that makes it ok and if so then what if it's permissable, is the only difference the screen. Your ok with it then fine, good for you, good for you that it works out for your rekaruonship and that your confortable, but don't lecture other woman because they are not.