Hubby is being a huge jerk

[Nurseandmommy]

Tpying while crying so might not make sense .. Made with hubby for 13 years and things were wonderful etc ... Now I'm 33 weeks pregnsnt and he's always yelling at me. , saying I'm a bad mom ( have three year old too ) calls me lazy . Stupid, ***** , says I should be beat etc ... I work 12 hour shifts , do all house work , cooking etc... He won't kiss me , hug me , sleep in same bed etc ... He's never done this before in 13 years .. Wtf is going on ? Help

[Nurseandmommy]

I'm back . Was in hospital with tons of contractions etc ... They won't stop it but I'm on bed rest till I give birth .. I'm at home and kicked hubby out till he acts normal lol .. Not dealing with his **** or anyone's .. My kids come first

[FirstTimeMommy89]

Good for you to leaving he needs to resolve the issues he has before you go back

[Nurseandmommy]

He's not on meds Hun

[andreasaroza]

Maybe new medication or vitamins?  Or pills?My husband went thru a stage like that and out was the medication he was on.  

[bkiddo35]

Glad u left. I dont think hes cheating u. He may have discovered a serious ilness due to his previous condition. Do u think its possible? Well, no matter whats going on, he cant treat u like that...

[Nurseandmommy]

Thanks ladies. I'm staying away till he calls and says sorry ... I told him I'm not going back till he fixes whatever is bugging him ..  I've been so stressed and I can't be

[KatieDallas36]

Next time he gets abusive, call the cops. I agree there is NO excuse for his behavior. If he has something medical going on, it needs to be addressed, pronto. Good for you for leaving!

[Rosie180]

I'm glad to hear you left. You really didn't need that stress. Since your away from him try to relax and focus on your daughter and little person. Really consider therapy. I've been in a abusive relationship before. And sadly I stayed stuck in it because he always apologized and I always made excuses for him. But there really is no excuse. The best thing to do is have a third party present while y'all hash it out.

[lexus3232]

Im sorry but I so understand u im with mine 9 yrs allways awesome but he is not good with me pregnant at all we fight I think everything annoys him imagine im not working no more so I depend on him alot so yea its hard talk to him! But I hope its just a phase

[Nurseandmommy]

Rosie180, your so right . I left with my daughter and I'm staying atbmy aunts for now

[Nurseandmommy]

He's not on pains meds since feb .., I don't pick fights with him ( I tell him straight up I'm not dealing with it ) when I bring it up omg he freaks out

[Rosie180]

Wow :/ you need to take his *** to therapy. That's abusive and sweetheart you don't need that stress while carrying that baby. Especially with a three year old as well. If he won't go to therapy threaten to call someone about domestic abuse. Because talking about how you need to get beat is one step away from taking matters into his own hands and actually beating you. You don't need that. I don't care if he feels inferior since you do so much, or if he's on meds or something causing him to swing. There is no excuse for such behavior. EVER!!!!

[KimboLynne19]

^^that's what I was thinking about the pain killers. Did he finish them? Is he out of refills? Do you think he ran out and was/is becoming addicted?

[lialove1721]

I agree ^^ maybe it's the medication or pain killers?

[GigiBella]

Is he on any type of medication that might cause mood swings?  
You need to stand up for yourself and let him know (without crying) that you are not going to put up w being disrespected.  If he cant speak to you right then dont speak to you atc all. If it doesn't get better, you might need to outside help.

[jeni18]

leave him you dont need that stress

[Huni_b]

try n find out what's bothering him to make him act like this.

many times one partner will make the other one feel bad for something trivial because they are the ones who shud feel guilty for something.  It's like taking the attention away from them, and onto you instead.

idk. maybe if u avoid fighting and offer him ur support n understanding he'll be willing to open up, rather than creating new fights that don't solve the underlying issue.

[Nurseandmommy]

Thanks for the support . Going to let him
Cool down ... Just scared that I'll be left alone with a three year old and soon to be another .. I don't want my kids around this but it'd not him .. Err stressed ... Gtg ttyl

[SSgt_Best_Girl]

May make him more angry. I'm not sure I'm just worried it may become worse for you if something isn't done now.

[SSgt_Best_Girl]

Well that can be it right there. You know most men must feel they are the bread winners. If he is unable to provide for you guys it may be making him feel like less of a man and causing his anger. All he has left (in his mind) is his dominance. I'm not saying this is the reason, but it may be. It's hard for anyone outside to be able to tell you. I'd ask him of he'd like to go to couples counseling. But that

[knufrio]

They say that when a spouse suddenly starts behaving like that (or the opposite and suddenly becomes over affectionate) it's a warning sign they may be cheating.

[Nurseandmommy]

Nothing is really different ... He got a hip replacement in 2006 and it got recalled in 2008 ... We just found out jn January so he got it done again and just started walking a couple if weeks ago ... I don't know if he feels bad cause he can't help out or cause he can't work right now .. I just don't understand why he's like this now ... It don't make sense and when I try to talk to him he blows up err

[SSgt_Best_Girl]

I wouldn't jump to the conclusionn that he's cheating, it could be a million things. Have you noticed ANYTHING different? His work schedule? Money? Anything that can clue you in?

[Mommytobe87]

He might be cheating...