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Really TMI personal question
I have a very personal question I need to be answered but I don't want to ask if it would be offensive. It's a sex related question but yes it has to do with pregnancy.
This is your warning, if you will be offended by a sex based question then just leave this post now and please don't comment negatively.
Before I got pregnant and up until about a month ago I could never seem to 'finish' as a woman and so I assumed I couldn't. The only time I had before was when I lost my virginity. Well about a month or so ago my SO and I figured out how to make me 'squirt' (sorry) and so needless to say our sex life has been amazing ever since. I've heard that pregnancy can make sex much more enjoyable due to increased blood flow to that area. I'm 38+2 and I'm worried that after my son is born my SO and I won't be able to get me to finish anymore because the blood flow will go back to normal. Now I've only been able to do it the past month or so, so for 8 months nothing was different.
Should I be worried about this? Do you think it was achieved by us figuring out what we were doing or pregnancy changes? I'm really worried because it's made my SO very confident and I don't want his confidence crushed if I can't keep doing it after baby.
This is your warning, if you will be offended by a sex based question then just leave this post now and please don't comment negatively.
Before I got pregnant and up until about a month ago I could never seem to 'finish' as a woman and so I assumed I couldn't. The only time I had before was when I lost my virginity. Well about a month or so ago my SO and I figured out how to make me 'squirt' (sorry) and so needless to say our sex life has been amazing ever since. I've heard that pregnancy can make sex much more enjoyable due to increased blood flow to that area. I'm 38+2 and I'm worried that after my son is born my SO and I won't be able to get me to finish anymore because the blood flow will go back to normal. Now I've only been able to do it the past month or so, so for 8 months nothing was different.
Should I be worried about this? Do you think it was achieved by us figuring out what we were doing or pregnancy changes? I'm really worried because it's made my SO very confident and I don't want his confidence crushed if I can't keep doing it after baby.
Lol I dont watch it either. Thats why I rely on what I see selling before I reorder anything.
Hopefully something from it helps you.
Hopefully something from it helps you.
I don't watch porn and neither does my SO unless it's a video of us. But thanks for all the info!!
Also, if you and your man watch porn together, theres a series called Squirting 101. From what I understand, its like a tutorial in a porn. Like it shows you how to acheive squirting, but plays out like a regular porn at the same time.
I dont watch porn and do not allow it in my house, but thata what my manager says ab the series and thats why she makes me keep copies in stock.
I dont watch porn and do not allow it in my house, but thata what my manager says ab the series and thats why she makes me keep copies in stock.
So i've worked at a sex store for almost 6 years and im going to give the best advice possible.
If squirting is what you want to acheive, then continue to try what you've been doing. If it stops working, then i've read/been told that clitoral stimulation AND gspot stimulation at the same time will get you there. And that its easier after you've let out a couple of regular orgasms first.
If its orgasming in general that you're concerned with, then try a clitoral vibrator. Most women can't get off by penetration alone. Clitoral stimulation willbe a huge helping factor.
If you find that the increased blood flow is whats been so helpful, then there are many types of topical creams or oils to aide you. My personal favorite is called Dazzle. Its a cream and you use about a tear sized drop, rub it into your lady parts, mainly the clitoris, and almost instantly you'll feel a warming and tingling sensation. Another good one is ON Arousal Oil for Her. Has the same effect but not so much tingling. Another popular choice is Orgasmix, but personally I dont care for that one. They're all creams/oils/gels that open up blood vessels and draw more blood flow to the area it has been applied, thus making it more sensitive.
If squirting is what you want to acheive, then continue to try what you've been doing. If it stops working, then i've read/been told that clitoral stimulation AND gspot stimulation at the same time will get you there. And that its easier after you've let out a couple of regular orgasms first.
If its orgasming in general that you're concerned with, then try a clitoral vibrator. Most women can't get off by penetration alone. Clitoral stimulation willbe a huge helping factor.
If you find that the increased blood flow is whats been so helpful, then there are many types of topical creams or oils to aide you. My personal favorite is called Dazzle. Its a cream and you use about a tear sized drop, rub it into your lady parts, mainly the clitoris, and almost instantly you'll feel a warming and tingling sensation. Another good one is ON Arousal Oil for Her. Has the same effect but not so much tingling. Another popular choice is Orgasmix, but personally I dont care for that one. They're all creams/oils/gels that open up blood vessels and draw more blood flow to the area it has been applied, thus making it more sensitive.
Personally, I've found sex better after having my son a year ago. I never was able to finish with my partner during intercourse but I have done so a few times since. And the end result is amazingly more then what it used to be
Not always, I've done it several times with little foreplay.
You can orgasm without having anything come out down there. But I've done it all with little foreplay, it's just a lot better with more foreplay.
You can orgasm without having anything come out down there. But I've done it all with little foreplay, it's just a lot better with more foreplay.
If you want an orgasm you have to have a ton of foreplay. You need foreplay until you can't take it anymore.
I just don't want it to go away after I give birth! lol I know things down below will be different so I'm just worried
Also; before I got pregnant my husband had no problem at all getting me to my climax but since I became pregnant I can no longer reach it. I am 27 weeks and very stressed and my poor husband feels like it is his fault. So it's think you are very lucky and I am beyond jealous LOL
I really have no idea how he does it but it's a mix of a lot of teasing foreplay and idk he just gets me really really excited and it just happens idk how to explain it lol he figured it out I just let him explore me
This is something that honestly can't be answered by any of us. It is possible the baby has helped achieve the perfect angel to help you climax but it is also possible that in due time you have both managed to learn what positions are best for you also. If this is something that changes after your baby arrives I would suggest you both go to a sex shop together. Get aroused together and consider some fun new items and activities to try to help keep your sex life going. Sometimes bringing toys into the picture will help your boyfriend feel like he has more options to please you also.
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