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insecure about sex
Wednesday I had to go to the hospital because while me and my baby's father were having sex Began to bleed. After that he was telling he didnt want to have sex anymore that he was kind of traumatized by it. Well today we were having sex and he just didnt seem as into it as he was before that incident happened. I dont know what to do. I Still want to have sex but I jist fell like he's not as into me since our whole bleeding incident and im sure me getting bigger isn't helping. Has anyone else had issues similar to this?
I always make sure hes satisfied..n most of the time during that he wants to have sex so then ill go on top because atleast i can control how it flows..how fast or slow n position myself right so it doesnt hurt. He enjoys it either way n i enjoy the closeness
Im glad im not the only one with these issues. Does anyone have any advice on how I can get him in the mood and how to make sex less boring with my big belly ? Lol i feel so immobile aince my belly has popped. Idk what to do
My husband is the same way. Im almost 38 weeks and since i got my belly he trys to be extra careful and a few weeks ago i guess i was really "thick" im thinking it was my plug n it freaked him out..hasnt been there since n never tries to start it..n then i feel like im having to beg or something. Its really depressing. He always says im sexy and beautiful but i dont feel it..n how am i supposed to believe it when hes afraid to touch me? I know it will be back to normal after the baby but its still depessing especially being so close and all these damn hormones
I'm for sure its not that he isn't attracted by u its for sure he is terrified of making u bleed again that's y he was traumatized my bf has been a horn ball the whole pregnancy but just recently since my baby girl can come any day now he is terrified to have sex because he thinks he is going to put me into labor its cute to me how concern he is :)
We had a bleeding scare at 10 weeks and even though nothing bad happened from it I was so terrified of having sex and "triggering" something else that we didn't have sex again until 23 weeks (Valentine's Day lol) and today (his birthday, I'm 28 weeks). Doesn't help that my libido is dead and I'm sick all the time, but even when I'm in the mood I get scared. It took a bit to convince myself that nothing bad would happen. So yeah, I definitely see his terror.
Give it time, I think he'll slowly feel better about it bring safe each time. As for your size, my boyfriend finds my bump and "baby shape" incredibly sexy. I feel huge and blah and sick so hearing him say I'm attractive to him makes me feel loads better. Maybe tell him that you're feeling undesirable and ask for reassurance now and then. It does wonders for me, even if I'm always too nauseous for sex.
Give it time, I think he'll slowly feel better about it bring safe each time. As for your size, my boyfriend finds my bump and "baby shape" incredibly sexy. I feel huge and blah and sick so hearing him say I'm attractive to him makes me feel loads better. Maybe tell him that you're feeling undesirable and ask for reassurance now and then. It does wonders for me, even if I'm always too nauseous for sex.
Thats when we had problems was when we did it doggy style. It was the same thing I had cramps and told him to stop and when he pulled out I had blood all over. Which really ***** bc now pretty soon the only thing we will be able to do is me on top bc my belly is getting so big I feel like he is squashing her. And I feel bad bc I know he is worried when we have sex bc he doesn't want to hurt her.
I had bleeding and slight craps back in January I believe. It freaked out the fiancé so we no longer can do a lot of positions anymore. We only do sideways and doggy style. Try those because he doesn't go so deep in your v a g I n a or cervix or whatever it is. He wants me on top and it just hurts so bad same with all the others except those two. Ive always been the one to start sex esp being pregnant. Just by certain things or smells turn me on now. I'm 33wks&4 days and I have a big baby bump going on and only on certain days do I feel pretty and sexy.
Right. Especially during sex. Its like i feel like all I can really do is lay there almost like a big fat blob lol the one time we did try something other than me on top or him on top I got sent to the er. I dont what to do...because I still want sex lol
I hear that! I'm right behind you. 21 weeks! I don't know how some women say they feel so sexy and beautiful when pregnant. I feel like a sickly looking mother hen.
Thats how I feel. Like when he told me he was traumatized by the whole thing I guess he thought he was being funny but it really did hurt my feelings. Especially bc im the biggest iv ever been now and Im only 23 weeks so im only going to get bigger...much bigger. It ***** !!
Yeah I feel the same way. I almost cried yesterday after we were done. But I held back because I was embarrassed. I definitely will not be initiating sex anymore lol
It makes me feel so unattractive though. Like hes just not into having sex with me. :/
Lol well that makes me feel better that its not just him that does that. When we had sex this time after he was like examining my vajayjay for the first two or three minutes to make sure I wasnt starting to bleed. Lol it was quit awkward and not intimate in the slightest. I felt like I was at the gyno
I have, in a way. I didn't bleed but I had pain in my lower abdomen after sex and got really sore because its been really dry for some reason. So we didn't have sex for about a week and a half. And the other day we did it and it took forever and he wasnt able to finish which never happens. I felt like he was trying to keep himself interested but it wasnt working. It made me feel kinda crappy. Because I have a belly now and that makes me feel awkward and I have gained ten pounds so I'm sure I'm not as appealing as before and he probably also thinks I'm fragile or something after the last time. I might just give up on sex for the remainder. It's only going to get worse, I feel. It ***** :(
Yes! Lol at 35+4 we had sex and I went pee after only something felt different so I waited and felt something weird. Lost my plug and had my bloody show that night. Wound up with contractions (which I still have) and we were in the hospital for 4hrs. Now when we DO have sex I go overboard lol. Have to fake the extra moan or give a little more this or that to get him worked up enough he has a real hard time saying no. And still afterward when I come back from the bathroom he always asks "was there any blood" lol!
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