Circumcision/ear piercing

[smjmekg]

I've seen many posts on here about circumcision and all the responses both for and against it.

I was just curious about ear piercing with little girls. So many are against circumcision, and say to let them decide as they get older...but what about piercing a baby girl's ears? Or a little boy's ears. Although the reasoning behind the two differ, are you not still altering your child's appearance for yourself?

***Let's keep it clean ladies, the last post I had up that had any kind of ability to stir up conflict went well. I hope we can keep this one the same way!***

[Limonada]

I only have boys, but I wouldn't personally have gotten my daughter's ears pierced, if I'd had a girl.  

MY ears aren't pierced and I'm 32 years old!  I've gotten along quite fine without having pierced ears and have never had any desire whatsoever to get them pierced.  If I'd had a daughter, I would have let her make this choice when she was older, like 13+.

We didn't circumcise either one of our boys.  DH isn't circumcised and wanted his boys to be the same as him.  I won't get into any other "pro" circumcision arguments on here because they just tend to stir things up ;)

[frank_noahsmommy]

I have 2 sons and they are from different fathers which made a big part in my decision to circumcise. My 1st DS's father is Mexican and so am I and most of my family and his are not circumcised, so we did not circumcise our son. Like  said he is 10 and he has NEVER had any problems with hygiene. You can have have problems in that area whether circumcised or not, you need to teach them the proper way to clean. My 2nd DS is circumcised just like his father who is Caucasian and if it was my choice I would not have done it. Hearing him cry the way he did was heartbreaking and a moment I will never forget!!! If I have another Son I will not be present when he is circumcised.

With ear piercing I would let my daughter decide when she was ready.

[Cassandrajane]

Personally I am not against or for it...

I think that it will hurt less when they are little, and they will get over it..
But it is also a personal choice whether you want peircings or not, so i'd wait untill their older and give them the choice and or wait untill they mention they want them peirced. As I had many peircings me and John have both agreed that our children wont get any other peircings other than their lobes and one in their cartlidge before they are 16. Because thats the legal age for many of the peircings over here in England... and tattoo's are 18.
And if they ask why, I will show them the 2 holes in my face from my lip peircings and be like thats why... and tell them my experiences and regrets from getting them underage. (Had to take them out to get a job, and at school and it was annoying)...


But then again, its up to you. If you want to get them done so be it. But at the end of the day its really up to you at the end of the day. :)

xx

[ammanda]

I don't have a daughter, just a son, and I DID get him circumcised just like Losing said for the  benefit of hygiene and ridicule. and if I had any more boys id do the same.

As for the ear piercing, If I get lucky enough to have alil girl I will pierce her ears when she is a baby.  Like someone else had mentioned, when there babies you can make sure your the one taking care of it during the healing process, so it heals right.  My sister pierced my Nieces ears when she was like 1 month old. (it was so cute as a baby) and now at 2 years old, she loves them.  She loves when my sister takes her to the store to buy her earrings, my sister uses it as a bribe sometime to get her to pick up her toys or use the potty. tells her she will get new earrings.  she loves it.  She's a really big girly girl and got her mothers love for shopping. lol..  

My mom pierced my ears when I was like 7 or so.  But me on the other hand, I don't like wearing earrings, I never wear them, and my ears WILL NOT close up. They have stayed open for 13 years without earrings.  So I feel like if they don't like them when there older then can just take them out,  thats what I did. And it still works for my benefit cause even though I don't wear them on a regular, when I have to go somewhere nice or get dressed nicely for something I have that option to wear pretty earrings, but I don't have to wear them all the time..

[smjmekg]

Ivy that's an awesome idea for a getting ears pierced.

[Ashelen]

I agree with goku..our husband has a better understanding than we do so I think that the choice to circumcise should be up to them. my husband DID decide to circumcise our son which I'm fine with...he knows better than I do what it feels like to be a my-parents-chose-for-me male...who am I to act like I understand?

at any rate...I got my ears pierced when I started my period as a coming-of-age rite-of-passage...my mom said it would mark me becoming a woman. I think that's such a cool way to do it and I plan to do the same with my daughter if she wants hers done.