Confused

[xobaby20]

Hi everybody! I am very new to this and don't know what to do. I think I might be pregnant. My last regular period was the last week in January but then continued into the first few days of February. Then I didn't have a period in February and now we are in March. This has never happened to me before. I have always had a period every month. I do not think I am having symptoms. The only things I have noticed is really bad cramps. I'm talking painful cramps, like I am going to start my period but the thing is I never start nor have I ever had cramps this painful in  my life. Also I am having very tender and sore breasts but this is normal every month that's how I know I am going to start my period along with cramps. So I took a pregnancy test this morning and it came out positive!!! But the thing is I also have been doing some research and my symptoms does mean something else besides being pregnant. I am very scared. I don't know what to do or think. Could I be pregnant?!!!? Please help what should I do am I worrying to much about this?
Signed,
Confused little girl

[baby_dreams]

Hey checking up on you to see how you are doing. I think it is a great idea to test tonight (just do not put it off anymore), your classes are important especially if you are not on break yet then  you will have time to focus on what is going on with your body and your options. Yes I forgot to mention but above they did, stop taking those pills, just eat right. And have you thought of going to a free pregnancy test clinic, its free to test and they can help you get set up with a doctor and prenatals all that, and are there to answer many questions. Of course you can always ask on here, and I'd be happy to help anyway I can, but if you need medicaid things of that sort those clinics will help you and give you numbers to guide you part of the way. Trust me there are so many things out there to help you! Let us know how it goes.

[Amy514]

very true Ashelen :)



and xobaby,i understand.just buy one tonight and take it as soon as you wake up in the morning using your first urine.its the most accurate.and then ofcourse go to the doctor.its scary,but try and be strong.

you are not alone.im sure your parents are aware that this could happen to you,and ofcourse they might be mad but they WILL get over it.you can still achieve your goals and continue college with a baby.remember what doesnt kill u only makes u stronger.and we are all strong women that can overcome anything!!! just remember there are younger girls and other women out there in the world who have it worse than you.be confident that nomatter what the outcome is,you will stay strong and positive and achieve everything in life you always dreamed of!!! u can do it!!! :)
im here for u wen u need advice girly :)

[Eirlis]

I agree with Ashelen. Please take some responsibility for your actions and go see a doctor already. It's time to grow up and face reality -- you are not a little girl anymore. You are almost certainly pregnant. You have options.

If you decide to continue the pregnancy, you need to be on prenatal vitamins and stop taking diet pills, be careful about what you eat, etc. This is very important. I understand that you are scared right now, but wishing and hoping that it will all just go away won't make that happen. Make a doctor's appointment now, please.

[Ashelen]

Don't take your birth control pills, it won't cause you to lose the baby but it could be bad for the baby when its born...if you had a positive test you need to get to the doctor. and not just for the baby. you need to be seen because there are a lot of things that need to be watched during pregnancy. Yes, stress can delay your period, but it can't give you a false positive AND delay your period. You need to see a doctor and they can tell you for sure, but false positives are INCREDIBLY rare. especially paired with no period.

Please stop taking the diet pills and go see a doctor...you don't want to do harm to the baby, even though you don't want it.

If your family loves you, they may be mad at first but they will come around.

I don't mean to sound rude, but you are not a "scared little girl" you are a woman. You made the choice not to protect yourself sufficiently during sex and now you may be pregnant. I'm not judging you, but I do want you to understand that this is the direct result of your own adult choices....please take control of the situation and see a doctor. I don't advocate abortion, but you do have options if you absolutely cannot see yourself having this baby, and there is always adoption, this is NOT THE END for you, honey. But your choices led here, so do the responsible thing and go see a doctor. You are strong and you can handle this, I promise, even though you feel overwhelmed right now.


Please get yourself the medical care that you and the baby need...that's the best thing to do now. If it turns out you had a false positive that would be fantastic, but you can't keep hoping until you know for sure.

[xobaby20]

Ok so i decided. im to scared to get one now. i have a lot on my plate right now with classes homework midterms that im going to wait till i get home tonight to go and buy one. :/ thanks i will ttyl girl


Brittny27:
Thank you for your comment:) yesss you are probably right i am in denial. but what can i say im a scared girl. this is all new to me. ive only read about women getting pregnant; i've seen my younger cousin have a baby and now she is pregnant again and due in less then a month. and i never thought it would happen to me right now and this moment in my life. as for now i am confused as to waht to do. maybe it's not the end of the world but to me it's a HUGE deal. i will be looked down from my entire family. i am the 1st in my fam to go to college. it's a huge deal. :/ as of right now.

what would happen if i take my birth controls pillls?! and like something else? what if this is just a false pregnancy. what if i just am stressed.

with research i also saw that by having an imbalance in hormones; depression; stress; postmenopausal that it could delay my period. true?! let me know.

have a good day!!! :)

[Brittny27]

I really think your in denial. If you had a positive test your pregnant. Not every women gets the same symptoms nor the same symptoms with every pregnancy. I've been pregnant twice and both times very different symptoms. You need to stop the diet pills and call your ob for an appointment.

Being pregnant at 20 is not the end of the world and there are options like adoption.  

[Amy514]

lol i think u should test 2morrow afternoon and then right when u wakeup the next morning! and yea my boobs arent so big lol but for like almost a month i have noticed/felt them bigger,which is good lol.and yea im thinking my next period should be the same or around the same day as my last period in december.omg goodluck girly! keep us updated on how it went!!! :)

[xobaby20]

i feeel ya. i have googled soo much. i plan on testing sometime tomorrow afternoon, im going after classes to get some tests. im hoping for some negative. :/ eeeeeeeeeeeeek. i know i like to read stories and symptoms and diff. websites to see what type of information they have. you will never know until you take a test/ but first wait to see if you get your period if not then test 2-3 days after you were suppose to start. i know i want to know already too!!! wow your boobs have gotten larger and you have noticed different and unusual things on them . . . i have researched/read that is a sign tooo. :/ my boobs have always been sore/big/tender you name. and one thing they are always heavyyyyy. i hate having big booobs. :/ well sometimes. lol. i dont even know when i should be due for a period. i lost track since i didn't start in febuary. :/

[Amy514]

i know doctors could be scary :( you should test again just to make sure THEN go to the doctor.well my nipples were sore like a couple weeks ago then it went away,i noticed my boobs have been larger and my nipples too,i noticed my areolas have gotten a little darker and now one has these bumps on em!which ive researched is a sign of pregnancy.ugh! and just yesterday my boobs have started hurting! but its probly since my period due date is coming soon! so im very very confused!

[Amy514]

well yea,i have and i have googled it a billion times and omg can u believe that is totally normal!!! women have it all through their pregnancys too.from what ive researched its the uterus growing and stretching and trying to make room for the baby.i still like to read and re-read other womens stories just to make sure! also,since i have had very unprotected sex and have had alot of symptoms im thinking its pregnancy.but then again it could be that im just late and going to get my period.i just wanna know already! when r u going to test again?

[xobaby20]

one last thing. i dont feel pregnant. my sore/tender breast is normal to me now that i am thinking. it's just not having a period that is having me worried. also i have this feeling in my gult that something else more serious could be wrong with me or my body is going through a major change or something iisn't working like it's suppose to.

i believe a trip to the doctors is in need, it's just im scared of what the dr. will say!! :(

[xobaby20]

amy514, we are in the same boat!!!!!!!!! i had my last period in january and a few days in february which is normal for me to have a period overlap into the next month. but i haven't started this month nor last. and well me and my boyfriend as well are very sexually active and use no protection. so i get exactly what you are saying. oh you are cramping everyday for a month and 1/2 now!!! wow. that's crazy. i dont know much about medical issues or body changes or what and im def. not a doctor but that is very un normal and shouldn't be happening. not to scare you but have you thought that maybe you might not be pregnant but yet something else could be happening to your body besides a baby being in there?! just a thought.

[xobaby20]

thank you so much!!!!! :) from the bottom of my heart i appreciate your comment very much!! i feel inspired from your words. and just want to be a good person. this head on my shoulders needs to checked. and precautions will be takeen in the future. as to my future. thank you. you make me feel not so bad and i will work hard. thank you thank you thank you. :)))

[Amy514]

very true xobaby!

and yes i have been cramping every single day for a month and a half already! i keep thinking my period is going to come.my last period was in december.im usually late,but my guy has been cumming inside of me ever since!.ive missed 2 periods.my period is due this month very soon,im waiting for then to test.since weve been having unprotected alot during these last 2months i dont wanna test too early just incase,u get me?

[baby_dreams]

I know timing doesn't always work how we plan though. God has his plan and I hope you get the results you are looking for. I just know whatever happens you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, you will either take care of what you have to or use more precautions next time. And as far as it not being the right time have you considered adoption, well maybe I am getting ahead of myself, ok well let me know how it goes. And even if you are 20 you still have so much you can do, do not let this or anything ever hold you back ok- if there is a will there is a way you will find a way to succeed if you work hard and believe I know it.

[xobaby20]

ok. see i was wondering about that b/c while i was researching signs and symptoms. it keep saying spotting and such. which im like i haven't spotted, ive just missed a period. me tooo. i can't think of any time i have been hoping/or exciting to get my period. :/ are you cramping as well? and when was your last period.

i know i am a believer that every happens for a reason, but can't we change/ control our future? thank you i wish you the best of luck as welll. :)))

[Amy514]

no u dont have to be spotting to be pregnant.and yes im verrry confused aswell.im just waiting to see if im late again this month.if not i will definitly test! these cramps r sooo confusing!

also,things happen in life which are unexpected and sometimes unwanted.but just remember things happen for a reason,and there is nothing we cant overcome! :) i wish u the best of luck! and definitly keep us updated!

[xobaby20]

hi, you haven't started either. you should test. do i have to be spotting to be pregnant b/c i haven't. Like i said earlier, i have just experience a late period, tender/sore breasts, and very bad cramps. :(


I know pregnancy is a blessing, but it's not the right time for me, im 20 years old, in college. I have my future to think about. Getting pregnant at this time wasn't in my life plan until i turned 25/26. i know there are a lot of women who can't get pregnant and how they wish they could. I will be getting some pregnancy tests tomorrow and will be taking them. i will update you guys again to the result of these tests. wish me luck. b/c to me i and am praying and hoping that this is just a pregnancy scare and that i start my period this month:) :( :) :(

sorry if i have said anything that is offensive. please dont be mad.

[baby_dreams]

I think you could test already I would out of anticipation but that is just me. best of luck to you!

[baby_dreams]

Well sorry I haven't found any side effects that would give you what you've had. They all seem non related. So I do believe you are pregnant, if you have any doubts get blood work done. See a doctor, you do not seem happy about this but it is a blessing I am sure you will do what is best and best for you, if you ever need any help don't hesitate to message or leave me a note! here to help anyway I can.

[Amy514]

well i havent had my period for 2 months and i have been cramping every day for a month and a half.i still havent tested because im usually late for my period,not this late tho.i am suppose to be getting my period this month very soon.if not i am going to test.i have been very sleepy for a month,ive had some dizziness,im ALWAYS peeing everytime i feel the cramps.my boobs have gotten bigger,im not hungry AT ALL.the only thing that confuses me are these cramps and now i have low back ache.im sooo confused!

i think u are pregnant,if u tested and it came out positive then u are pregnant! if u still feel unsure wait a few days and test again in the morning using the first pee,or go see the doctor!  goodluck! :)

[xobaby20]

I was afraid you would say i was pregnant:( :( the thing is i just started taking these pills, AcaiTrim. Thanks you are very helpful!!!!!!!

[baby_dreams]

Well most likely you are because your body is maybe ajusting to a new pregnancy. I hardly ever get cramps only my second day on my period and I had cramping (during the time I was due for my period) sometimes up to 15 minutes at a time and it was random. I don't know if i would have cramped because we did not make love around the time of my cramping so sorry couldn't tell you much about that. and whats the name for the herbal weight pills? maybe i or you can look up possible side effects of it like if it affects anything in your body including hormones which can upset your cycle and if it can create a false positive. I'll tell you if I find anything but maybe if you give me the name of it that would help more.  

[xobaby20]

Hi,
thank you so much for reading this:) I guess I know my body good to. It's just this is very new to me. :( True i also get really stressed and have periods twice in one month. so since we are in march and i haven't started nor did i have a period in february i could be pregnant?! I think I am just stressed and going through a tough time in my life. . . These cramps i am having a very new and uncommon for me. I have never had so much pain with cramps. I also get this cramps right before i am going to have sex (TMI) sorry. That also hasn't happened to me before. This pain cramps happens a few times a week, they are very random and happened at random times. In my research it said hormone inbalance. abdominal pain. idk a lot of things. :/ No i am not taking any sorts of pills except these herbal weight pills. I am not on BC anymore. :( The only thing i can think of that will upset my cycle is stress. oh and ive heard having to much sex. (TMI) but i have never missed periods in my life  ive just always been late...