NEED ADVICE FROM MOMMIES WITH 3-4 YEAR OLDS

[yowuddupkeey]

My boyfriends 4 year old has miraculously become un-potty trained. At first she was fine for 2 whole years and then suddenly she stopped. She would always let us know when she had to pee but never when she had to go number 2. Every single day she goes on herself! I've even spent entire days taking her every 30 minutes to the bathroom with her on the toilet for 10 to 20 minutes sometimes and as soon as we leave the bathroom she goes on herself. Now in the last week she's started peeing her pants too. She knows when she needs to go but she goes in her pants! We have no clue what to do. It's like having a baby all over again. Please help!

[miracle_mommy2014]

I was kind of thinking the same thing. If course we all would not want that to be the case but it could be. Maybe it is just a small thing but if it's been going on for so long then there might be a bigger underlying problem. I would of course take her to the doctor and figure out all possibilities as too why she goes potty in herself all the time.

[miracle_mommy2014]

^^^^@mrs_bakry I was kind of th

[mrs_bakry]

This child may be abused
Try to check her with her doctor
And you will find the reason may be some new friends to you or her mother or in the school if she go for me it is abused

[jessijlb1229]

I would take her to her doctor and see what he says. Sometimes kids can get impacted from trying not to go. Then their bodies make it happen all of a sudden. If her mother punishes her for an accident that would explain why she freaks when ya'll ask her about it. This happened to a 6 year old nephew of mine. He was so embarrassed when it happened he would try to go hide.

[yowuddupkeey]

I am convinced that her mother isn't doing her part. She's a horrible mother to her, she's sent her over here with poop in her panties more than a few times. It was dried completely so it had to have been there for a while.

[yowuddupkeey]

She doesn't have a bladder infection or anything like that. It's only been a week since she started peeing herself. My boyfriend, his mom and myself have questioned her separately and have not been ugly or mean to her about it but she just starts crying and saying she's sorry. She's been pooping her pants for about 7-8 months and we have seriously tried everything!

[yowuddupkeey]

Kay1027 she lives with her mother but she leaves her here with us for days even weeks at a time, when she comes back there's always a new problem.

[Mommyoftwo_2015]

Sounds like the mom might have messed up her potty training. Have yall asked her why she's peeing and pooping on herself?

[mommyofaa]

I would have her checked for a bladder infection. If everything comes back fine then I would go back to praise method when you take her potty. Even if she don't go, tell her good try and let her know while she is on the toilet that if she does then she will get candy or pick out a toy at the store or something.

[kay1027]

Does she live with you or her mother? Her mother might not be really teaching her to use the potty.

[lozza3086]

i was a lil probably could say mean to my daughter...if she weed in her undies i would leave her in them for about 5 mins as they hate the feel of it dont rush n explain its not nice to go to toilet... also for the pooing i would start a reward chart so everytime she goes to toilet n poo shes gets a sticker after say 5-10 times she gets a lil reward..

[yowuddupkeey]

This was happening before I was pregnant though. And she doesn't really know I'm having a baby either. Most of the time she's with her mom. We've told her mother countless times and she has done nothing about it. Today my mother in law was giving her a bath and she stepped out for maybe 45 seconds to get a towel when she returned she pooped in the tub and was playing with it and was drinking the bath water. When she saw my mother law had walked in she immediately screamed, "No grandma don't be mad!" My MIL didn't even have a chance to react to what was happening.

[jessijlb1229]

I've heard and seen little ones revert back when there's a big change in their lives that they weren't ready for. Such as moving, death in the family, new baby, etc. It's not their fault it just happens. You just have to start over with the potty training.  

[MePlusMyTwo]

It could be her realizing she will no longer be the baby. My daughter is acting like a baby all the time now that I'm pregnant.

[kay1027]

I don't have children (pregnant with first) but I have seen this happen with kids and you need to pretty much need to teach her again. Are you pregnant? If so she is probably feeling left out because isn't the baby anymore. So you have to let her know she is a big girl now.