I think I am going through the same thing as you, had my last period on May 15, 2008 and went to the doc's the other day and they couldn't hear the baby's heart beat. I don;t have any pain or bleeding, I still feel pregnant and everything but the doc said that they want me to get the D&C as well. I don't know what to do because from what the doctor said the baby hasn't been living since week 7 or earlier, I am almost 13 weeks now... I don't know what to do and I don't want to make the wrong choice because I still fell preg. Please help me too, how did yours go?
I was around the same time you were when I got my m/c news. I had all the u/s and they were all normal until I started to bleed alittle and I do mean very little, but they wanted to be sure and sent me in for a u/s and while I was there everyone told me it was normal for bleeding and they were sure it would be fine. Well it wasnt, I opted to wait to see if it would pass, well one week later, I couldnt take it anymore. To think I couldnt start the greiving process until I knew it was over, and it could take weeks to a month to pass. I didnt want the medicine process, only because I knew some people who went threw this and it was terrible, painful, alot of bleeding. to tramatic to me. So I did the d/c, and let me tell you.. It was quick and really really easy, the bleeding stopped within days, barely any cramping, and I could start to greive my loss really. also, I could start trying again, and sooner than later. well, now I am 27 weeks, only three months after my d/c I got pg again. and this one has been worrisome, but we are fine.. so I am soo sorry for your loss, and know you are not alone at all in this, that is one thing I realized going threw it. So cry, hug, let people be with you, and hold on to the fact that you did get pg, and you will again.. good luck..
there are more risk to having a d&c which can do damage and make it harder to concieve in the future. when i found out at 18 weeks the my pregnancy wasn't viable ( 0% chance of making it to term ) i was given 3 options- d&c (baby was on;y measuring 15 week so it could still be done) be induced and deliver baby (i was admitted) or wait for the baby to die and then deliver) my dr was against D&c although when we found out 4 hrs after waiting at hospital to be admitted that we had to go home till the next day because of storm, he did offer but was relived when i said no. there was no way i could just wait for it to happen naturally though becuase they said it could be 2 weeks or 2 months
my thoughts and prayers are with you
I am sorry you are going through this. If you have the choice, I would go for the D&C. I had a D&C with my first m/c. I too had no signs of a m/c, but I was diagnosed with a blighted ovum. I am going natural with this m/c and I wish I could have had a D&C. It's heartbreaking waiting to pass your baby and like JoyRenee said, many want to get it over with so you can start the healing process, emotionally and physically.
Well you could wait it out but a lot of women just want to "get it over with" intead of carrying the baby around.
I do not know anything about the pills given for this. And a lot of women have a D&C which is where they will dilate your cervix and take everything out (not your organs, just the fetal tissue and placenta, etc.).
I am so sorry you are going through this!!! I found www.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com to be helpful to a lot of women. Maybe someone will have more insight on D&C procedure and the medication taken to help the miscarriage along.
Please know we're here for you!
How big was the baby measuring on the ultrasound?