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Life After Miscarriage
I was wondering how other women out there manage life after a miscarriage. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and was devastated and have been ttc and have been unsuccessful. How do you manage the disappointment of your monthly menses? How do you manage the anticipation and looking for signs of pregnancy leading up to you menses? I don't know what happens in other lives but in mine, it has been difficult. My husband doesn't seem understand my loss, my determination to be pregnant again, more my anxiety. How do we cope with such hope and disappointment after each try without going crazy? I could use any advise.
After i had m/c i like you was very distorted and wanted a baby as soon as possible...i cried many nights and asked myself over and over why is happened. It was also a good thing because i thought of it as it could've been something wrong with the baby right and i rather what happen happened instead of it living a certain way it wouldn't enjoy. I didnt try and conceive but two months later i was prenounced pregnant again. i am now 11weeks....you'll make it when your body feels it's ready....good luck to you hun..!
I manage by talking, praying to god, making love to my DH, my doctor would yell but... the comfort of making love is helping both of us, taking lots of walks, journaling, crying when I need to.. and I have to remind myself that I had a few months of pregnancy inside of me and it changed my breasts, I felt nausea, dizziness, emotional.. this baby rocked my world but my DH hardly even had a chance to experience it yet- so it is going to effect you differently, but thats okay. As long as you don't stop talking, and loving, and helping each other.
I had a miscarriage in December and it absolutely rocked my world. I then became almost obsessive over ttc again and just recently in the past two weeks, I decided that I was actually making the situation worse by stressing myself out over cm, opks, etc.! I wasn't enjoying the experience like I did the first time around and it only took us a month or two to get prego. I started making it a point to do things that I thought would help me destress. I now go for a massage every other week and the massage therapist does a massage on my stomach which is supposed to help ovulation besides giving me an overall body massage which is incredibly stress relieving which should be good for ttc! Take it day by day...It is hard but I am trying...and try to relax as much as you can. Your time will come again (and so will mine...soon I hope!) Best wishes!
I can't really answer your question. I experienced a m/c but had a baby afterwards very quickly. But I want to tell you that the more you stress, the harder it may be to conceive. Easier said than done, I know!!! This is something you want so dearly. Just try to relax, make sex fun, and hopefully you'll become pregnant again real soon!
I'm sorry for your loss. After my m/c I grieved a while and cried a lot. I wasn't ready to ttc again for a long time, maybe a year it seems like. And even then, we didn't actually conceive until 3 years after my m/c. We weren't so much "trying" as just not preventing. But everyone's different. Some feel a great need to conceive again quickly. I more wanted to wait a while and didn't want to go through a pregnancy again. As time passes you do not forget that little angel or love it any less, but the pain is more bearable. I had a hard time when I came around to the time the baby would have been due. God and my husband are the main things that helped me through it. I found that around the time I relaxed and thought we might never conceive again, I was pregnant within a few months. Try to get out and do things you enjoy and don't shut yourself off from life. You may not feel like it's what you want to do right now, but eventually you will enjoy life again.
sorry about your loss. my sister had 5 miscarriages b4 carrying her twins full term,now they are healthy 4 yr olds. i would suggest not worrying too much.sometimes the body overworks under stress.also prayer and yoga helped. i wish you all the best
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