Mother in Law driving me bananas

[andiflores]

Has anyone else had difficulty with their MIL? Mine has been driving me absolutely nuts!! She's treating me like my only purpose in life is to carry her grandchild. This is the first grandchild so I know she's excited, but she's been over the top. She wants me to text her every day and she's been crying to my husband about how I haven't asked her any advice yet (I'm only 15 weeks!) and how I'm not keeping her updated enough in the pregnancy. Funny thing is, ive been giving her updates every week! Idk what she wants from me and I'm getting really frustrated. I only feel like it will get worse oncethe baby is born. AND, to top it off, last night she texted me and asked about our next doctors appointment which I told her wasn't until September, to which she replied, "Nope that's not going to work for me. Can't they reschedule that?" Excuse me, but this is MY pregnancy and MY appointment not yours. Ugh I'm going to blow. I want to have a talk with her and set some boundries but my husband is worried it will hurt her feelings (she cries over EVERYTHING. I kid you not, every time I have talked to her or visited with her she's cried over something. You could tell her it's going to rain tomorrow and she would cry. VERY emotional woman) which I sort of understand, but if I don't say something I'm seriously gonna freak!!! Any advice?

[andiflores]

Yeah you guys are right... I'm just going to have to talk with her. Hopefully my husband gets on board because he's a little bit defensive when it comes to his mom's feelings. I'm just going to have to talk to him and figure out a way to say things nicely. I definitely don't want to snap on her. I guess we'll see how things go! I just want to make it clear that this is MY baby and not hers, and that she needs to realize her role as a grandparent

[Mommy__2]

I agree with (honeyblossom) you know she'll cry so just get it off you chest let her know she's only grandma but this is YOUR baby.... She had her experience when she had her own kids

[briannaalovely]

Oh golly she sounds crazy..I'm so sorry that you're going through this but sit your husband down first and tell him if y'all don't talk to her about setting some boundaries soon that you'll lose your marbles and it'll end worse that way instead of actually sitting down with her & talking it out. And just because you don't ask her for advice doesn't mean anything, you have your own mother for that stuff & most likely you'd go to her for advice before his mother. Good luck, mama. I hope it goes well for you

[haleyblossom]

If she cries about everything anyways then you don't really have much to lose if she cries over you setting boundaries.  It's your pregnancy and literally everything should be how YOU want it.

[MrsAmySanchez]

I think you need to sit and talk to her with both you and your husband so she knows your together on this but you do need boundaries if shes being that intrusive, just be very kind but let her know how you feel..im sure her feelings will be hurt for a little but its better then snapping on her cuz you cant take it no more lol