Am I looking forward to my baby too much?

[JillyHemp316]

This may be a goofy question, but I think I might be looking forward to my baby to much. Im 21 years old, I have been married for a little over a year. On August 25th I found out I was pregnant on August 29th I had a miscarriage, August 31st was my one year anniversary. It was really hard on both my husband and I. We weren't TTC but we were just soo happy. It's been a long road back to normal, and now I'm pregnant again. We weren't TTC again, evidently I was just more fertile now. I don't know, but we haven't told really anyone yet. Only 3 friends know and my mother and his sister, and none of them are going to tell anyone. We would like to tell people on Thanksgiving, when everyone will be in town, but we're afraid that it might be too early. We're so afraid were going to lose the baby again. I'm trying to stay stoic and not get excited but it's hard. My mom's starting to get excited too. The other day we were at Kohl's and she bought 2 pairs of newborn shoes because they were on clearance. I don't know, it makes me so happy to see her get excited and it makes me get more excited too, but I feel kind of like we're putting the cart before the horse. I've taken three pregnancy tests and the line has gotten stronger with each test, so I'm assuming that means that the HCG levels are going up, but I still feel like the more excited I get the more likely I'm going to lose the baby. Any input? Am I being silly? Have other women felt this way? Any input will be helpful.

[JillyHemp316]

When I read everybody's comments it made me cry.
The thought that people would take time out
of their day to read and write back, that's
awesome. I'm probably only about 4 or 5 weeks
along at the most. I'm going to the doctor
on friday, and hopefully I'll get an u/s the
next week. I am going to be positve, I got
pregnant for a reason, and I'm going to enjoy
it. My husband and I were soo excited last time
and I can feel that he wants to be happy and
excited again, but he's more guarded than I am
and I know he's still hesitant. Hopefully after
we get an ultrasound and he sees his son or
daughter he'll start loosening up. I still think
about the baby we lost all the time. His name
was Jasper, even though it was a really early
m/c I felt like it was a boy. Jasper was the name
for a boy that I loves but my husband hate it.
So when we lost the baby, it was kind of like,
well we had our Jasper. He's up in heaven, raising
hell no doubt. He is his father's son. :) I am
going to cherish the time I have with my baby, right
now. Even though I know there's a part of me that's
going to be fearful, I have to trust in God. Thank
You ladies, for letting me know I wasn't alone in all of this.

[happy_mommy]

I too had a miscarriage after i already told the world.  It made it harder for some people to be like OH did you have your baby already I would just break down.  When we got pregnant this time I told the closest people to me that would offer support if something was to happen.  

Thankfully he is doing very good and growing and is expected to arrive in 10 weeks.

Don't punish yourself for your first miscarriage allow yourself to be as excited as you need!

Goodluck, maybe by thanksgiving you will get an ultrasound and have something to show your friends and family.

[Ashelen]

big congrats!!! Being this excited is totally understandable....you're lucky, some women are so plagued by doubts and fears that they hardly get excited at all! I'm in the same boat with telling family/friends...a few people know, but I'm waiting to tell my parents until Christmas (beginning of second trimester) because I had a miscarriage before my pregnancy with daughter (now 13 months old and very healthy) and it broke my parents' hearts. I waited until I had 4-month ultrasounds to show them to tell them with my daughter. JoyRenee is completely right, enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can, and don't focus on the possibility of loss or you'll lose out on all the precious moments. How far along are you? I'm excited FOR you! hehe :)

[JoyRenee]

I've had two miscarriages and got pregnant right after each of them. I went on to have two healthy, perfect, full-term daughters after each of my miscarriages, one of which I'm holding right now and she's just a week old (so excuse any typos!).

When I got pregnant after that first miscarriage I was terrified and had a terrible time bonding with my baby before she was born. I was too afraid to get close as I couldn't bear to lose another baby. Once she was born it was instantaneous love and I bonded with her immediately.

Then on Halloween last year I took a pregnancy test and found out I was pregnant again! I was so stoked... until I miscarried that sweet baby as well mid-November. When I became pregnant again this past February I told myself to ENJOY whatever time I was blessed to be pregnant, whether it was short or full-term.

So my advice to you is the same--- enjoy every precious moment that you are blessed to be pregnant. If you were to miscarry then at least you can look back fondly and know you enjoyed that pregnancy to the fullest. And if you aren't to miscarry then you won't have wasted so much time and energy on the things that are out of your control.

Congrats!