Dont judge me please..here i am, pregnant again. (pregnant too soon after a c-section)

[diela]

I have a son that barely turns 4 months.I just found out 2 days ago i am pregnant again.I took 2 test, different both and both cameup positive immediately.I did notknow when i conceived because my period after giving birth has been a messed.

This is not a planned pregnancy.We use condom and avoid fertile days (which may not be accurate which the lead me to being pregnant now). I am not into birth control because i just dont like putting any chemical/drugs into my body.I dont even take tylenol, not to mention birth control. I just dont feel there are safe and i feel like they can messed up my body hormone balance.and yes, i dont drink and i dont smoke or drink coffee is someone ever wonders to what i can go when it comes to taking care of mybody.

ok my question is, i had emergency c-section with my first one. so now,here i am pregnant again, i want to  know how risky it is for uterine rupture? i can opt fo relective c-section if it is safer option since everywhere i read over the internet mention that VBAC is too risky. is there anyone outhere experience this-pregnant too soon after a c-section?

thank you.

[diela]

heatherlynn22, that is what my mom kept reminding me after i give birth to my son. SHe keep saying how hard it is going to be when you have babies that is so close together in age. In fact, she is really against the idea of anyone having another baby too soon after giving birth.I guess i have to keep this news from her a little while longer.

Yes, i am married to a wonderful man for a little over a year now. He is very considerate for the most part except he rarely wake up at night to feed the baby.Even i asked him spo many times, but no major changes. That is what drained my energy everyday -lack of sleep and i dont even remember when was the last time i got good nite sleep. That is what i afraid to go through again - because i remmeber how it felt - the crankiness, the dizziness and total tiredness day after day.

As for my mom, she lives far away and i could not expect her to help much. Whatever it is, i hope that i can pull through this. I know  many women have done this and turns out okay, i just need a little convincing that i can do this. :) thanks for your inputs. Really appreciate it.

[heatherlynn22]

having 2 babies that close together is hard...but not impossible. i had twin boys 4 1/2 months ago and it was hard. i won't lie i didn't sleep for more then 3 hours at night until they hit 4 months old. i still don't sleep that well at night because every little sound they make wakes me up. (i think once they're out of sids risk i'll be ok) but don't worry. it's not impossible....you'll just have to join the ranks of supermom with the rest of us. lol. if it seems overwhelming is there anyone who can help out? are you married? if so does he get up to help? if not...would your mom. a sister, aunt, friend or cousin be willing to go over to your house during the day once baby 2 comes along to just help out so you can sleep? i know that was my only problem was i was always so tired. if i didn't have my mom....i don't know what i would've done. and the dh. having help and support is a great way to get through the first 6 months. after that it's all gravy. usually.

[diela]

Joy, thanks for your assurance. I know all the ladies here are really helpful but having back to back pregnancy when i should have waited may lead to others thinking i am being irresponsible to myself and my son. But in reality, I tried to avoid this pregnnacy and i really think that i should have waited since i want to give my son all the attention that he can get. But i believe this is God willing and i should be grateful that i am blessed with another child.

Kennedydp5, thanks for sharing your experience. It is really good to know that someone outthere has gone through this and i really hope that everything turns out well.I cant imagine having 4 c-section since the thought of having a second c-section scared me to death.

Thanks again everyone.

[martikadragoon]

good luck! :) and CONGRATS

[kennedydp5]

best of luck to you!  :)  i know you feel worried about it being so soon.  i've had 4 c-sections in 5 years and i was scared w/ each one!  i got prego w/ my ds when my youngest dd was almost 6 months.  i don't believe your doc will allow a vbac w/ them being so close.  and i echo the others in saying you will definately not be judged here...  only support and best wishes!!!!  :)

[JoyRenee]

I don't have any information but wanted to say not to worry about being judged here. We're not here for that, but to help.

I guess all you could do is call your doctor. I don't use birth control either for the reasons you listed. Just the good ol- fashioned natural family planning. Try to take it easy and see what the doctor says! All may be well.

[diela]

Thanks for everyone comment. I know i got pregnant too soon. I have read many experience but all got pregnant after their baby is 6 months old.

Houseofgirls, yeah, i will go see my doctor in 2 days time. I dont know how risky this is..but i am so nervous that something bad will happen...i have mixed feelings about this pregnancy...sometimes i feel i amokay and sometimes i feel like i cant handle it..especially when my son is stillwakes up 3 hourly at night.

hoeny1982, i remember you too....i know you are still ttc. i actually never left this forum, infact i come here everyday, but i dont write or answer to post that often. I wish a very best luck of you in ttc. i know it willhappen for you..keep our chin up!

cminarnyer - the doctor did mention at my 6 week checkup that after 6motnhs we could try again if we want. But at the time, i just ignore it thinking that with condom-timing method i would be able to avoid pregnancy for another 2 years... little did i know this will happen because i remember it took us 3 months to finally get pregnant the 1st time. anyway, thanks for your inputs.

martikadragoon - i know how you feel. but i cant say i am too thrilled with this pregnancy,i have lots in my mind. i am working and my job is pretty demanding, i dontknow how am i going to handle this..i hope everything will turns out okay at the end.. and i wish the same for you and TJ.If you feel this is the right time for you to ttc again, lots of sticky baby dust to you. i still cant believe im pregnant, because neither of the condom broke and we only had sex twice last this month. Hmm..i guess i need sometime to digest this....i will keep everyone updated on my coming doctor'sappointment. I may be 5 or 4 weeks pregnant. i dont even know that...

thanks again everyone.

[martikadragoon]

I'm not judging you. I would be happy to be pregnant again. Take it calm and go see a High Risk doctor. Things CAN  turn out ok.   Good luck, and a happy and healthy 9 mo to you!

CIndie

[cminamyer]

If you waited the six weeks after having your son like the Drs usally want you shouldn't have a problem.  I got pregnant 3 months after having emergency surgery for an ectopic pregnancy, and the Dr told me I could.  But they didn't cut through my utures...they did cut my abdomin like they would in a c section though.  Like the other ladys have said, the best thing to do is call your Dr.  But if he/she told you that you could start having sex again then they would understand the risk of another pregnancy.  Good Luck!

[honey1982]

hey girl i remeber you from last year don't worry i wont judge you.

[houseofgirls]

You really need to make an appointment with your Dr. right away.  I got pregnant right before the year mark after my last c-section.  I am now 24 weeks.  However, there is still a huge difference between having almost a year go by and having only a few months at most go by.  I can tell you my Mom got pregnant with my brother 6 months after having me by c-section, and all was fine.  But it really doesn't matter what everyone else's experiences are, each case is different.

None of us know what the condition of your uterus is, what type of incision you had, etc.  Your doctor will be your best source of information for this.  As you probably already know, your uterus is not completely healed yet.  I'm pretty sure you will be considered a high risk pregnancy and will most likely be monitored very closely.  I don't believe you will be a candidate for VBAC.

I wish you good luck, and please make sure to make a Doctors appointment ASAP!