I know I made a mistake....

[Kels123]

Okay, so I understand that I made a mistake, but please don't judge me for this. I am new to this forum and just need some advice.
I have been dating a guy for only a few months. Unfortunately we were drinking and had sex without protection. I am okay with having a child, I just feel bad for the child that it may be concieved out of love. I know I messed up but I am willing to step up and take responsibility for my own actions.
Anyways, it was just this weekend and I know I have to wait until my period is late...and I'm sure that it was during ovulation....what do you think the chances are that I'm pregnant. I know the chances are pretty high, but I think for the most part, I just needed to vent and finally tell someone...Any suggestions?

[Kels123]

Well, I took a test yesterday, which would only be 7 days past the incident, I'm assuming it was too early because it was negative...but I think I am going to test wednesday and friday. I'm really nervous because I am having "symptoms". But not sure if they are all in my head...I will keep you updated though.

[kingd4066]

So today is the 20th of Oct...have you found anything out yet?  I hope the best for you, what ever that may be. Thanks for keeping us updated

[Kels123]

Thank you all! So this is whats been going on, especially today. I had a little bit of nausea this morning, it lightened up around lunch time. I've been feeling dizzy (I have no idea if that is even a symptom) also super tired, i felt great tuesday, started feeling a little tired yesterday, and today I feel absolutely drained. After researching religiously on the internet, I think I will be able to start testing Wednesday, but I might give in and take a cheapy on Monday. What does everyone think so far? All in my head or pregnant?

[JoyRenee]

You've come to the right place and we're not going to judge you here! I had a friend who got pregnant by only ONE night, so it is possible. There is a 25% chance of conceiving without protection.

I got pregnant at 19 with my first. She's now 3 years old and running around the house in her fairy princess costume. No matter what happens we're here!

[njrohe]

"I guess I'm just nervous because I have heard of people getting pregnant even their first times. And people getting pregnant on the pill and while using other forms of birth control. etc... "

Yeah, and I'm one of those people!  My son Luke was a one-shot wonder, but he is the love of my life and I am so happy to have him.  His cousin, Elijah, was conceived while his mommy was on the pill and she just missed one pill, so all of this is true.  

But, I am glad to see you're sounding more optimistic about the possibility of being pregnant.  All babies are amazing blessings, and while it is a huge change, they bring so much joy.  All the best whatever your result turns out to be.

[Kels123]

Thank you girls! You know its funny, I go back and forth through deciding whether or not I actually want kids, but now that I know I may be pregnant, I'm okay with it. I'm almost excited. Whether or not I will be a single parent doesn't even matter right now, I just want to give the best life possible to my little one. And if I'm not pregnant than at least I can learn from my mistakes. But honestly, thank you ladies, I'm glad I found this forum.

[KellyA74]

Of course it's definately possible, but like njrohe mentioned, people try for months with no luck.....It took us 6 months and I was timing and using ovulation tests.... Just wait and test....It sounds as though you have a good head on your shoulders and will make the right decisions regardless of the situation.  Best wishes.

[RockyVT08]

Just remember, if that one time results in a pregnancy then it was meant to happen. God gives us what he knows we can handle, and it makes us stronger. I'm sure you would be a fantastic mother.

[AnxiousGurl]

My situation is a little different, but we're in the same boat! I wish you the very best in what ever happens. I know how you feel!!!

[Kels123]

I guess I'm just nervous because I have heard of people getting pregnant even their first times. And people getting pregnant on the pill and while using other forms of birth control. etc...

[Kels123]

Thank you, and I will keep you posted...granted i dont' think I can test until the 23rd-25th of October. I guess I'm just scared of being a single parent. I know many women out there do it and do it well, I guess its just a scare.

[njrohe]

Even people who are trying it can often take several months.  I read somewhere that it's about a 25% chance that you will get pregnant when you have sex during ovulation.

[Kels123]

I guess I wonder if I will ever be in the right position in my life. Anyways, I guess I just assumed I was ovulating because it was two weeks after my period. I don't track them or anything. I know God has a plan for everything and I am coming to the conclusion that I'm finally okay with that. I guess I just wish there was something to do instead of just waiting it out.

[LauraB78]

I agree totally w/ KM604

Keep us posted. And we all make mistakes. We arent here to judge you. =)

[mommaof4ormore]

Wait and see and in the mean time don't stress about it. Women go monthe after month trying to conceive and don't. Don't just assume that because it was near ovulation that it means you will get pg. Also remember that God is in control and he has a plan in all things. By the way how are you aware that you were near ovulation. Most women don't even know this till they are actually trying to have a baby. We all make mistakes and as long as we learn from them. But if you trully want to keep the posibility from happening till you are in the right position in your life, then I would abstain. But that is just my opinion.
Brandy

[KM604]

It's really hard to say whether you did conceive or not.  The egg is only released and around for 24-36 hours.  Even if you had intercourse before it was conceived, the sperm can stay inside of you up to 3-5 days.  I know that I did ovulate and I had sex when I ovulated with my husband many times and it took a while for me to finally fall pregnant (we were trying to conceive), so I guess it is possible that you aren't pregnant - but it is possible that you are.  The only way to really know is to wait until your period is supposed to show up.  You can always take a pregnancy test and says it can test up to 5 days before you period, however those aren't always accurate because if you don't have enough of the pregnancy horomone in your system then it won't give you a positive result (if you are pregnant).  I'm sorry, my only suggestion is to wait it out because you really have no other option.

[Kels123]

Anyone???